single again
 

ok has anyone else been through this or going through this now?

After a 6 year relationship I'm single again. I'm not really ready to jump into another relationship yet, it's only been about 5 months since the last one. But apparently there isn't anyone in the entire world who can just talk to me without trying to push for more then possible friendship, even though I've said very clearly that all I'm interested in at this point is friends.
In the past month I've easily had about two dozen guys try to talk me into a serious relationship to the point where I'm wondering if gullible is tattooed on my forehead.

Apparently it's still 1800 something and women have to be married off with kids before they hit the late 20s? I missed that memo :(

Just keep telling them off. They'll get the hint eventually. You can't help being that damn sexy.

I agree with Vix.
Just keep telling them no and maybe they'll finally figure it out ouo

I have been there, and I'm sure I could be there easily if I don't continue to be careful. It hasn't gotten that much easier for women in the last hundred years as far as I'm concerned. If we're not with someone we must truly have something wrong with us.

I just got a really toxic ex out of my life, and I'm scared to death of going back into the world (fully) aka, talking to guys, because I know how they have always been with me. I say hi and they love me, or I become friends with them and they want to date me. The problem is that I'm not gullible (like you) and I don't want to be insta-hurt all over again because I dated too soon after being destroyed.

All you can do is keep telling them you're not gullible. Unfortunately, the world hasn't come that far yet. Women still have to deal with guys who don't understand that "let's be friends" doesn't mean "let's date."

@ElysiumFate
That's pretty much where I am. I've dated 2 different guys in my life. Both seemed ok as I was getting to know them but it was a total bait and switch when we started dating. They were both abusive. The first guy was physical and verbally abusive and it took me years to recover, mentally. This last guy was all kinds of sweet but when we started dating he was super controlling, a tad bit physically and verbally abusive. During our 6 years together I broke up with him 4 times but within a few days to a week I would go back to him. the last straw for me is when he tried to talk me into dropping out of school because I wasn't spending enough time with him.

Not only am I not ready to get into another train wreck but I suppose I'm worried that I'm attracted to abusive guys and I really don't want to be like that.

yea thats true I guess

I see, I see. It would definitely be in your best interest to be on your own for a good while. Now, this doesn't mean alone, it just means out of boyfriend girlfriend relationships. Find yourself some good friends and spend time with them! If you've been neglecting friends because of this recent relationship, rebuild your relationships with them.

Whether or not you love yourself, spend some time with yourself, because when you know yourself, you'll realize that you know you'll never put yourself back in that situation because you trust yourself not to. And, remember, it's not your fault they were douche bags, it's their fault. You didn't make them what they are.

I'm trying to do that now actually

Well, then, it sounds like you're on the right track! Keep it up. :)

:) thanks