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Getting over it
Well, I had a crush on my brother's best friend since the begining of the year, He honestly is a great guy.Loves animals, is generally always there when you need him, Treats everyone fairly.
He found out that I liked him through my brother, just like I found out that he liked me from my brother as well, So I've been working from that and I've also been treating him like I'd treat one of my own friends. I'm a pretty cuddly person and anyone who dates me understands that and don't mind me cuddling up to friends. Here's where I need help, I just recently had my heart [and ego] ripped out and set on fire, He gave me the "I like you a lot, But, I just want to be friends." speech, I understand why he said it, he was in a relationship for eight years and he just got out of it. But, It still hurts, Maybe it's because I may have actually fallen in love with him in the time we spent together, I don't know. I've just been in a rut since then and have been trying to get out of it. It's affecting my work and most of all affecting me, I'm just tired of being depressed, and it's not like I can talk about it with my friends, I don't get online much anymore due to various reasons. Main reason being is my personal computer is down until I can fix it myself. so, I can but I can't talk to them about it. I want to know how one could get over something like this, I want to move on and go on with my life... But, I don't want to do it in a way that could make me worse about it all... I just, Never dealt with something like this before and I want to hear it from others who have, I want to get the right advice. |
Honestly, moving on requires taking things one day at a time. If you don't feel like you can really talk to your friends about it, at least you can hang out with them and get your mind off of things for a bit. I would suggest putting your time and energy into things you enjoy.
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My crush said the same thing to me but he didn't date his ex for a long time. I actually have no idea how long they have dated but I would say in months, not years. .-. I still like him and he knows that but I'm not having it hinder my ability to do things. What's the point? I like him and that's all that matters to me. I think you're quite fine, it'd take a while to get over him but don't let him "just want to be friends" ruin your ability to do things on your own. ^^ You can, don't feel bad about him not wanting to be "together" with you or anything. >> I hope you get through this!
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yeah it does take time to get over it. try to focus on your work for the time being. i know it sounds hard to just not think of him but it is really the best way. and who knows you could meet someone new right there at work. i don't know what you do but every company has a UPS guy/girl and they could be mister or misses right! talk it out with us too when you can. much luck with healing your poor broken heart. *hugs* |
Like the others have mentioned, focus on other things. There's always someone out there, maybe even a better match for you. One of the first steps to getting over things is to accept it even if it's hard. Give it time! I'm sure you'll feel better in a few weeks.
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