I don't know what I do to deserve your anger, but do you really have to call me all those obscene things? I'm your daughter, I'm not any of those other things.

Do you have to throw garbage at me? Throw boxes, laundry baskets, and even the garbage can at me?

Why do you drag me by the hair when we argue- I don't hit you back, but you keep pulling more and more.

What did I do?

Why do you do this to me?

Orphi, I'm sorry, you shouldn't get any of that treatment... Especially when you're not raising your hand back, how old are you? Is there family you can turn to?

Originally Posted by RatedE

Orphi, I'm sorry, you shouldn't get any of that treatment... Especially when you're not raising your hand back, how old are you? Is there family you can turn to?

I am currently 20 years old.
And I don't want to drag family on my dad's sad into this, it would put way too much pressure on my dad.
I'd run to my boyfriend's, but he lives in Illinois, me in michigan.
And I don't know how his mother would take me staying there for a while
u n u

you should talk someone off line who can help you or call the police. No one deserves to be treated like this, no mater what they have or have not done.

Honestly, if my daughter is in trouble and she comes to me, I'd make all accommodations to help her out... Including staying over with me, regardless if I'm seeing someone or not. She is my daughter, and if the person I'm seeing does not understand that, then she can leave. Family is important, please call your father and talk with him.

I'm sorry you have to go through all that, you definitely need to talk to someone offline, maybe a close friend. No one deserves to be treated like that D: if it starts to get any worse, call the police.

People keep suggesting the police.
Guys I already said I can't do that. It's stress on my dad and sister that they can't handle. This family's already falling apart as is in the extended family and there's no way I'm going to make that worse.

Once my mom threw a drink at me

Originally Posted by Lush Cutie

Once my mom threw a drink at me

Once?
Yeah I put up with this shit every damn day.

I know you say you "can't" inform the police, but it would really be for the best. Maybe now it seems like you're stuck and there's absolutely nothing you can do, but going to the police would be the best thing really, and if you do that you'll really realize afterwards that it was the best option. :0
Tattle on her }<

That is crap... I would move.. your 20yrs old there ain't no reason why you should have to put up with that kind of garbage.. I know perhaps you can't afford to live else where but I would see if there isn't any programs that you can get in to that may help you get in to a low income housing or something like that. There is something called Section 8 which is a program for low income ppl.. what they do is they pay a portion of your rent based on what kind of income you have.. I know the program where I am is pretty much tapped out but It could be different for other places.. I suppose it also would depend on where you lived and such.. Until then I would try to keep to my self as much as possible and avoid the problems at all costs.. I am really sorry that you have to go through all this. I have a friend that her mom also treated her like crap and did things like that and even worse.. and I know what its like to be smacked around and can imagine it being on a larger scale..

"You're twenty, move out"

I've been wanting to. Trust me. It's a matter of getting a job. And in Western Michigan there are too many unemployed people (like myself) and not enough places to apply too.

It's not that simple.

Yeah, people outside of Michigan don't get that the economy here is worse than most other places. But even if you can just get a job at a fast food place or something it helps a lot. I work fast food and live on my own and manage to support myself and my girlfriend. Granted we don't have a whole lot of money left over after bills but it gets us by. Thing is you can't just say "there are no jobs" and just be done with it. You have to be assertive and keep applying everywhere.

But yeah, there's state programs that help low income families. I hate to suggest state funding because I'm really against it for the most part but staying in a violent situation is not good for anyone.

Is she an alcoholic or does she need to be on some medication?

I'm not going to even pretend to understand all that your going through, but person to person, I hate that another human being has to experience that kind of treatment, from someone who should be a big part of their support system. You're a student right?
How are your grades/have you applied for any scholarships?
Any chance of getting a full ride/decent amount paid? Or some type of deal where you can get a job with the school while studying? I do believe some of the other states in the Midwest have state schools that charge the same tuition as instate people if you're from certain states. Maybe Wisconsin? I heard their schools are pretty good.


I know you said you can't call the cops, and you don't want to burden anyone, but you just might break if you stay where you're at. My own problems aren't really like yours, there's no physical element, but even they wear me down, last night to the point of tears, never felt so alone, so I know your own have to be taking a toll. No matter how accustom you've grown, no matter how much you think you can bear...shit really gets to you. You want to be strong, but...your family that is in their right mind, does want to help you. And you don't have to try and be completely dependent on them. I don't know the situation like you do though, so I hope I'm not putting my foot in my mouth, but at the very least they'll be an ear with a face to it, to hear to out, or a place to stay if your mom is particularly nasty.

I had a similar problem, though to a lesser scale.
Call the dang police. It doesn't matter if you think it will burden others. If she gets you in hospital or kills you I think they'd be more upset.

Originally Posted by Ophibell

People keep suggesting the police.
Guys I already said I can't do that. It's stress on my dad and sister that they can't handle. This family's already falling apart as is in the extended family and there's no way I'm going to make that worse.

You wouldn't be the one making it worse, your mom is doing that on her own. Some times you have to do, what you have to do to stand up for and protect yourself. If you dad isn't man enough to help you, then you have to help yourself.