Okay so I'm going to start off by saying I'm part Indian and I am supposed to be getting some money for shares that were invested for me when I was a kid. I dunno how it was set up or who did it. In any case I am supposed to be getting a fair amount of money for it. I live with my boyfriend and his parents and we're going to lose our house. He and his mother are refusing to let me contribute anything to the house because they know how much I hate living there and how much I hate his father. So I was trying to think of other ways to spend it for everyone. Like I thought of perhaps buying another car for the household, because we only have one car and 7 people in the house. It's rough on the car and rough on the people needing to go places at different times etc, etc. I was also planning on getting a bunch of food and clothes as well. And well my friends decided that it was a horrible thing to do and lectured me and lectured me about how I'm spending the money wrong and I should put it all towards the house. One of my friends even went as far as to saying that if I bought a car when we lose the house and living on the streets it would be all my fault. Though the thing is it would not be my fault. No matter how much money I put in we're going to lose it. It would just prolong it by a few months. And because of this I don't want to spend a lot of money on a house that we're going to lose in the end and having to spend a few more months living with the father who I hate. I don't know what to do... I'm sitting here attacking myself because I couldn't think of a better thing for everybody and I tried defending myself to my friends and only made things much worse. I can't say I want to die really, but death is really beginning to look appealing. I know I'm being unreasonable but I can't stop myself and it's just getting worse and worse. How do I stop myself from doing this? I've tried telling myself that I'm just being dumb and only making it worse for myself but its not getting any better.

This is a pretty rough situation you're in, and I have to say that you're very commendable, BlizzardPixie. Your heart is clearly in the right place, and you're even willing to put this money that is yours towards helping someone you hate. You're willing to help out his entire family, and you're super concerned with doing the right thing.

Can I ask why the house is certain to be lost? Does no one living in the house work? Or is the house too expensive? I'd suggest that you move to a smaller, more affordable house. Maybe put the money towards that. And in the process, force everyone who can work, or at least most who can, to start seriously trying to find a job. And if they don't, or are unwilling, then I would suggest using the money to get an apartment for you and your boyfriend. If his family doesn't want to help themselves, then you shouldn't sacrifice to attempt to help them. You can't help those who won't help themselves.

However, this is only speculative advice. I honestly need more information. My advice applies to a specific situation, and I may be way off the mark. My apologies if I am.

The rent is very high and only one person in the house has work. My boyfriend and I use the fin aid we get from college to help pay for rent and food, though that isn't very much and not often enough to really do anything. We are also looking for work, haven't gotten an interview yet. I would get an apartment for my boyfriend and I but that wouldn't work out for very long because of PGE and monthly rent, especially without a job.

It seems like the best solution is to put your money towards getting a more affordable house, and make sure everyone in the house who can work is trying to do so. Even getting a crappy job in a fast food restaurant somewhere is useful, and can contribute towards paying the bills.

Yeah I really should try getting a job at a fast food. The only reason I haven't is because I'm kind of a wimp when it comes to people.... I'm afraid I would end up crying or yelling at a customer who is rude

That's a rational fear, and no one exactly wants to work at fast food, but you've got to do what you can. Don't pull all the burden on yourself, however. Make your boyfriend try for fast food as well, as well as, as I said, the other members of the household who could work but aren't. A lot of people say they are too proud to work in fast food. And one should have that kind of self-respect and self-confidence to not SETTLE for fast food. But sometimes it's necessary to pay your dues in life.

You are kind-hearted and rational, Blizzard. You're not looking to blow the money like most people would, and you're trying to find the most responsible application for it. However, you should have the rest of them meet you halfway. And if they are unwilling to try, I would suggest you try to find your own place with your money.

... Thank you so much for the help. You don't even know how much you have helped me.

Not a problem at all. Feel free to Befriend and/or PM me if you ever need to talk. :)