So I've had a crush on this guy for a while. I thought he knew, since I told him, but that was almost a year ago and since then a lot has happened. Back when he rejected me he said he was confused. Now he has a girlfriend, but we still hang out on occasion and share a class together. I thought we were cool, friends. I still like him but haven't made any further moves.

My friend, his ex, who I trust dearly talked to him to resolve some issues between them. During that time she says she told him that I still liked him, and she says his jaw dropped and he stated that he had no idea. She also says that he said he finds me "awkward", whatever that means. I trust my friend dearly and don't want to believe she has lied to me in any way. However ...

It has been perhaps a week since then, and I let myself cool off. I just called him and told him I heard that he found me awkward and that he doesn't have to hang out with me or talk to me if he thinks that. He immediately asked who I heard that from and when. I refused to tell him who told me, but restated that he doesn't have to be around me. To which he responded that he doesn't find me awkward and would not feel obliged to hang out with me if that were the case. Throughout the phone call he was very quiet when I was not talking and responded with short, clipped answers. When I said my bit he asked if that was it, but he seemed kind of ... angry, almost?

He claims he isn't lying and never said he found me awkward at any point in time. I want to believe him because I like him so much, but at the same time I find it hard to believe my friend lied to me. I don't know who's telling the truth and who isn't, but I'm very hurt right now and almost can't believe I confronted him on the matter. I don't know what to think. Does anyone here have some insight?

Would you honestly want to go into a relationship where, from the start, you think this guy is lying to you? "He said, she said" drama never ends well, especially with relationships.

Maybe he's lying to you and he did say you're awkward. Maybe he was lying to your friend because he didn't want her to know how he felt about you. Maybe your friend is lying to you because she wants you to back off her ex. No matter what, that's one messy can of worms. It might be best to just back off the whole situation for a while and let things settle down. Maybe after time passes things with you and this guy will pick back up. Maybe they won't. But I wouldn't touch drama with a ten foot pole. That never, ever, ever ends with all parties happy.

I would also like to add that (if we suppose that your friend isn't lying) that your friend might think she is telling the truth, but relayed it inaccurately. What we are dealing with is Hearsay. There's a reason the courts don't like to use it.