About 6 months ago, I moved into a house with three of my friends. One, a guy we'll call, D, we got close, very quickly.... I fell for him. Let's just say, he's had a horrible past, and he doesn't want a relationship. But he's told me, countless times, we have a chance to be together.

Some back story on that, I'm on Prozac for my anxiety and depression. If I'm not on it, I'm horribly depressed, and can go off very easily. And I hurt him several times emotionally because of that, but never more than just being a little too "snarky" as he calls it. So, it caused some distance.

Anyways, he says if I stay on my meds, and get better, there's a high chance we could be together. But now the only times he is close to me, is when he wants to be "close". The rest of the time he sits on skype flirting with every girl ever, and talks about his "love interests" But if I try to talk to him, he just gets angry and blows me off.

I don't know what to do, I love him, and I know I'm probably being stupid... but is it worth it? Should i try to wait? I don't know whos in the wrong here, or if we both are... I don't know what to do... please help...

No one deserves to be treated negatively. Him getting mad because you are depressed is in no way your fault. That only means that he has personal problems he is unwilling to accept. Honestly if he says that he only likes you when he feels "close" to you I would not go through with anything. (Personal Opinion) Being in a relationship means loving the person you are with and having them love you back no matter what happens. If he is flirting with others without feeling bad about it then it is a sign that he is not that interested. Some people enjoy the idea of love, but then try to fall in love with someone just to be in a relationship. If he really does want to be with you I believe they would express their love openly. If they cannot do that, then it would be a waste of time. I do not know what a "horrible past" means but if it has anything to do with relationships, it would be better to leave it alone. I have 'fallen in love' with people in my life only to realize that I only lusted for them.
I hope this helps <3 Please feel free to pm me if you want to talk.

Am I interpreting "be close" correctly to mean when he wants sex? My reply will be based on that assumption.

Okay, let's do a little thought experiment here. Your best friend in the whole world (or a younger sibling or whatever - someone you care a lot about) comes up to you and tells you they have a problem. They're interested in this person, but this person won't commit. This person tells them "maybe we can be together, but you can't get too moody for me to handle. I can't deal with you when you're like that." Your best friend/sibling/whoever is mentally ill, but this person they like acts like it's inconveniencing them. Okay? So your best friend/sibling goes on to tell you that while this person will not commit to a relationship with them, they do come around for booty calls plenty. The rest of the time they're pretty distant, and even flirt openly with other people.

What do you tell your best friend to do?

I am very sorry to be blunt, but I think he does not deserve you.

If he is really "on Skype, flirting with every girl ever" and "talking about his love interests," I really don't think he is specifically interested in maintaining a healthy relationship with you or any one person.

And if he "gets angry" and "blows you off" when you try to talk to him, it does not seem, to me at least, that he loves you as you deserve to be loved.

My opinion is that he does not deserve your time, and that you should not waste your time "waiting" for him.

Of course, this is only my opinion based on the limited information that I have read from your post. But, my suggestion would be to fall OUT of love with this person. There are so many fish in the pond, and trust me -- there are so many much kinder and more loving people everywhere, who will love back without being angry at you for things not in your control.

I hope this helps. Sorry again to be blunt, but I take things like this very seriously...you do not deserve to be in a dysfunctional relationship with someone who does not deserve you.

Uh. Honestly, I don't think either of you are wrong, but I don't think you two will ever have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

It sounds like he's interested in having a relationship, but that doesn't mean he's interested in having a relationship with specifically you. It sounds like he's "window shopping". He's scoping out potential significant others, weighing out the pros and cons of having them in his life. And it sounds like he's decided that you won't make a good significant other because he can't or doesn't want to handle your mental illness. And that's okay- It doesn't mean he's a bad person for wanting a mate with specific qualities, and it doesn't mean you're less of a person for not having those specific qualities. It just means you two don't suit each other.

Originally Posted by Dystopia

Uh. Honestly, I don't think either of you are wrong, but I don't think you two will ever have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

It sounds like he's interested in having a relationship, but that doesn't mean he's interested in having a relationship with specifically you. It sounds like he's "window shopping". He's scoping out potential significant others, weighing out the pros and cons of having them in his life. And it sounds like he's decided that you won't make a good significant other because he can't or doesn't want to handle your mental illness. And that's okay- It doesn't mean he's a bad person for wanting a mate with specific qualities, and it doesn't mean you're less of a person for not having those specific qualities. It just means you two don't suit each other.

What Dystopia said. She worded her answer more eloquently than I did ^_^

I was more responding to your question of "Do I deserve this," which you clearly do not.

"Window shopping" is a great way to put it.
I was with a guy that was window shopping the entire 2 years I was with him but I was too blind to take notice. It sucks, and even if there are days where I want him back in my life, I know we were never meant to be [sometimes I wonder if it was a divine prank to have us meet in the first place].

No. You don't deserve it. No one deserves to be in 2nd place in someone's life you consider 1st. Always give yourself the best of the best, never settle for anything less. Even if you will hate it, do not try find happiness in the place you lost it. And make sure you communicate with him about this. Don't just let him get away with it. Voice how you feel, bring up that awkward and unwanted confrontation. If you wont tell him who will? Communication is one of the best [and worst] things ever, and we must use it so our voices can be heard~