Recently I have felt that my best mate is dumping me! Like today I had just come back from the Doctors [i had just been told I needed to go to hospital because i have a 'dogey knee'] and I asked her " do you wanna know what the doc said", Her reply was "not really, I don't care". SOme best friend huh?! any way yesterday we fell out because we usually go out on Friday nights, yet she had arranged something[sleeping over at someone else' house] without even asking me if we were gonna go out tonight! So I thought oh well ok fair enuff Its onli 1 night, init? She just didn't talk to me for 3 hrs n a dunno why so at Lunch because she got her mates to start debating about us (non of their business) I just ran out side and started crying! We made friends after a chat but I still don't think she's my best mate but at the same time a don't wannna lose her. Any advice???

Disscuss! xx

Aww, I know what it's like to have a best friend. If I was you, I'd sit and really have a heart to heart- maybe at a restaurant or something this weekend. Just you two, no one else ya know? Explain to her how you feel and see if it's mutual. Clear up any bad air between the two of you. I wish you the best though. <3

Originally Posted by Menstrual Cramps

Aww, I know what it's like to have a best friend. If I was you, I'd sit and really have a heart to heart- maybe at a restaurant or something this weekend. Just you two, no one else ya know? Explain to her how you feel and see if it's mutual. Clear up any bad air between the two of you. I wish you the best though. <3

You know shes not that type of person, i wish she was! shes more interestred in her bf than anyone else! can I just add everyone hates her bf lol! xx

Originally Posted by *precious..Star*

You know shes not that type of person, i wish she was! shes more interestred in her bf than anyone else! can I just add everyone hates her bf lol! xx

Ack. >o< Are her and her boyfriend super close? Or is she the clingy type? I wish I could help, but that's all I know for friend advice since it worked for me. x3

I don't know the whole story between you both, makes it hard to see her side. If we were to only go by what you've written, than it gives her a bad image, makes her look like the bad guy. So i'm going to give you advice as though both of you are on the wrong. Not saying you are, just need to explain myself before continuing.

Something must have happened that she would so bluntly ignore you even when you need her the most. Perhaps she's being childish, has decided that you aren't worth her time anymore and wants to move on. If so, your best bet is to drop her, move on and find someone that will respect you and be there when you need them most. But if you feel that the reason she's acting up is cause of a personal problem between you both, then talk with her, see if perhaps your friendship can be mended. Either way, i feel for both of you and i only hope it comes out well. Best wishes, and hope your knee gets better.

Yes! shes the clingy type and she always 'goes of on one' and i really do want to forget about her, (I do have a wad of other best mates lol) but seeing as i consider her as my best best mate I can't bring myself to let her go! xx

Originally Posted by *precious..Star*

Yes! shes the clingy type and she always 'goes of on one' and i really do want to forget about her, (I do have a wad of other best mates lol) but seeing as i consider her as my best best mate I can't bring myself to let her go! xx

Well, there is something I noticed with this, you want to forget about her but you can't. I know this situation all too well. If I was you, I would move on and explain things to your other friends about what happened. They will and should support you and you can come to find out that you might find a better, more supportive best friend in the end. I did this with a friend of mine named Mai after she out and out betrayed me. I just moved on even though it hurt, but I'm glad I did because now me and my best friend of all time Cynthia have been friends for close to 8 years now.

Thanx 4 your help I'm gonna try, just logging on to msn now gonna chat to a few of my friends thanks again! xx

I would have to agree with Menstrual Cramps on this one. My best friend and I have our disagreements and have hurt each others feelings but the reason she is my best friend is that I can pull her aside and tell her stuff like "You know, what you did to me what not cool and you acted like a complete ass." In turn she will tell me the same thing if I acted like an ass. We might argue a little more or realize that we really were being asses and apologize. I respect her and am comfortable in my relationship with her to be able to say whatever is on my mind to her.

It sounds as though you may need to pull her aside and say look... you are acting this way and it makes me feel like xyz and I think it sucks and whatever else you need to say.

My friend also gets involved when she has a boyfriend but that is just the way she is.

I just don't know what to do.... This was ment to help not get me in 2 confusing positions! xx

Aww. Dx That stinks! It happend to me also, a lot of times. ^^ Maybe you should spend some alone time. If you still feel lonely, try to go back to her but I deeply unadvise keeping her.

THanx 2 against 1 now driving me insane!

Aww. That must suck. I know what you mean since my friends did that to me this year all the time. I realized that they werent' my real friends though, since friends don't do that to each other. You should really try talking to her and stuff, to see what she's going to say.

Friends grow apart as they grow.

Originally Posted by Vanilla

Friends grow apart as they grow.

Not always but yea, it happens...especially if we are talking junior high or high school. It's pretty common. There is only one person I still talk to from way back then. All of the "friends" I had then have long since disappeared.

Originally Posted by jurupamae

Not always but yea, it happens...especially if we are talking junior high or high school. It's pretty common. There is only one person I still talk to from way back then. All of the "friends" I had then have long since disappeared.

The only one left for me is Jane. She's my best friend in the world.
<3

Some best friend indeed if she 'does'nt care' about what the doctor said =/
I hope all will be fine in the hospital with your knee though :o

I think my best friend is dumping me too.
A while ago we went out and she was ignoring me all the time, we even
sometimes had these moments that there was this painfull silence ><
And on my birthday, a few weeks later there was some festival here in
the town I live in, and she said: Can I come? I want to see what it is.
I was like: okay, just call me a few days before that.
She never called.
Okay I know she might have forgot it, but still >_>
I never heard from her. Then I'm stuborn too so I won't call her either.
I have known her all my life, and now I have th feeling she is not
interested in hanging out with me anymore. Her sister and a friend
of her still are though

• i don't see what's so confusing about different opinions, love, but here:
  
  
  if you two are really friends, you should be able to take her aside and let her know what's going on with you. let her know how you feel, and she should let you know why she's behaving that way. if it's not something you two can get past, then you might need some time apart. meanwhile, as you said, you have other friends you can spend time with. :3
  

Awww.
D;
I think you both should take sometime alone.
At a very quite and tranquill place where you guys can sit down and talk about whats going on and the situation, feelings, etc.

She just needs some space
She will always be your friend
You should not like chase after her all the time

Well...you don't HAVE to be the best of friends! I mean she has friends of her own..not just you. So she might just want to be friends with you and talk to you but not cling on you! Or maybe she wants to make other friends.... :wink:

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  Hm. I think Margie and I's situation is a little worse. It involves our group of friends. Recently a friend of mine I considered a "bestie" started ignoring me [I don't believe it was purposely but I was a little childish and irritated...it went on for weeks. She'd bring me with her specifically for us to talk and then ignore me the entire time]. So I started ignoring her and after a while she got a bit emotional about the whole thing and thought I was mad at her. Honestly, I was a bit. But I just wanted to give her the same treatment she'd done to me [but it wasn't half as bad] and she seemed to be pretty hypocritical about it. :eyeroll: Ohhh welll.
  Funny thing is, yesterday she actually came up to me and broke the silence to ask me if I was mad. I still was a bit but I was over the whole drama and didn't want to deal with it. I acted a bit confused at first but I changed my mind and decided there was absolutely nothing wrong with or without being friends. We left yesterday on good terms, and then today I waved to her [right in front of her face in class] and she totally ignored me the entire time. o.o;
  Oh freaking well. I don't care anymore. If she wants to be a bitch and moody, then I'm definitely not going to deal with it. I'd rather not be her friend than babysit someone older than me because she can't just deal with her life. :/
  I'm not having the happiest of times either. But I don't bitch at her about it. I just suck it up and move on. xP
  

Wow, she doesn't sound nice at all... u__u;;
My friends can be like that when they joke around.

My one mean friend can ignore someone for like ages,
but for me she can only ignore me for like five minutes.

She says I'm too cute and don't do anything wrong, lol WTF?!

But anyways, I just love my lame friends. <3

My best friend told me she hated me about three months ago.
She's quite heartless and that bothers me...
She also thinks there is someone out there who is going to save her, I even told her there is no such thing because knights in shining armor do not exist, and the only person who can save her is herself.
She despised me after that heart to heart talk and I no longer care.
She isn't worth my time if she doesn't want me to be near her.
It was so stupid, the whole ordeal.
I am sure your friend just wants some space, and for her to get that space you have to give it to her. Give her two weekends without you on her tail wanting to do something. Give her some room.
That is all that I can suggest.

Well, it's been years, but my best friend in middle school during the 7th grade hurt me deeply. We had met each other in 6th grade, had become very good friends, and spent a lot of time together.

Now I was not a popular girl at all, going to the school on the military base where my father was stationed, and my mother always dressed me in hand me downs from my two older brothers, so my clothes never fit right and were always out of style. Needless to say, this was no fault of my own, but it got me treated by the other students very badly.

A few months into 7th grade, my best friend didn't meet me at the entrance to the school like she always had done before. She didn't meet me for lunch, in the lunch room, but I knew she was there that day because I'd seen her in the hall.

After school, I found her outside with a group of girls, talking. I asked her what was going on, and pulling me aside, she told me she couldn't be my friend anymore because if she was, she couldn't be popular. It took me a long time to get over that hurt. Maybe I never really have gotten over it.

So I know what it's like to have your best friend hurt you. I really think it would be best for you to have a talk with her, tell her how you are feeling, and find out how she feels. Maybe she feels you are too clingy, who knows, but the only way you can find out the truth is to talk with her. If she really doesn't care about you or your health, then she really isn't as good a friend as you may have thought she was, and it might be best to just put her behind you now, and move on with your life.