I know some of us have had recent deaths, either in the family or by someone who has whatever relation with you. Care to share and show respects to those who were affected by something we all one day will face?
My friend's dad recently died in a motorcycle accident. I think it was an electrical thing, I don't remember what was said. So that whole week of school he wasn't there. All of us (us being his friends) Really care about him and want to help by cheering him up. But none of us really have any contact with him besides the internet, but for whatever reason it won't let me get in contact with him so I can't help him.
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Discuss:
Deaths and how to handle them.
Anything related.

My grandma: died day after Christmas in '06 from breast, lung, and brain cancer after fighting cancer for 15 years.

My friend Jeanne Marie: April 16 2007 of pancreatic cancer after fighting it for a year and 3 months.

My grandpa: May 27 2007 of prostate and bone cancer after fighting it for 15 years.

those are the most recent deaths in the past 6 months.

my uncle commited suicise a couple of weeks ago.;[
RIP.

My kittie died in January a few weeks after my boyfriends birthday.
It still effects me whenever someone talks about him..
But I'm slowly getting over it.

I haven't had any family/friend deaths though.
So I don't know what it feels like when a person actually dies. =o

I always feel bad when I get upset about death.
I feel like I should celebrate the persons life and feel lucky I got to know and spend time with them, rather than feeling down about missing them.
I just end up angry with myself for being selfish when I mourn for someone.

I guess your friend just needs some time to himself, maybe send him a card?
Let him know you're there for him when he's ready.
I think the worst thing about the death of someone close to you is feeling isolated afterwards.
So many people don't know what to say to someone when they're grieving, so a lot of people avoid them rather than talking to them... bleh .-.

• I don't really know what I feel about that. It sort of bores me though. It makes me really bred when I think about it. I'm not even afraid to die, either.

I actually had a dream this morning before waking up that everyone I knew died :\ it was sad.. and weird.. I dunno why I'd dream something like that. My Grandpas wife, my step grandma in essence, actually died last year.. she slipped and fell and I think a piece of marrow from the bone she broke when she fell got in her bloodstream.

Last month both my grandmother on my mothers side and my aunt on my fathers side died in the span of two weeks..
then a bit after my godfather had a stroke.. but he didn't die... he's in a coma and now transfered to a hospice.. yeah..

It doesn't look good for him either.. and he missed his son's wedding.
all of them are much older.
but still.. its sucks.
It makes me worried cause my parents aren't young either. My mom is 59 and my dad is 67...
I can't help but worried that they're next D=

My family actually hasn't had any death with an exception of my great grandparents but sadly I didn't know them very well so their deaths didn't really affect my life. TT__TT (I feel cruel for saying it but since we lived 16 hours apart I never really knew them, and yeah...) However the mother of a friend (who I thinks 13) died about a year ago. (I think, it could have been longer. Actually it might be two years now. ;_____; I feel like a bad person for not knowing.) She's the only death I've really had to dealt with and because of that I've always been very very afraid of death. Since I'm questioning many of my beliefs right now death is even scarier. ;____; I don't wanna die yet. So whoever's driving with me better be careful.

An adult at school died last weekend. Everyone I knew was terribly sad.

In 8th grade we had to deal with a schoolmate being killed (and I live in a small town, so it was a big deal). And the year before that a boy tried to commit suicide but was stopped... yeah.

Both my parents have crossed paths with death. My mother had breast cancer, but she found it early and didn't die. My dad was once in a horrible car accident- the engine compartment was crushed in. No idea where he ended up sitting in the car, it didn't look like there was room for him. But he came out without a scratch. It's scary, for me, that death was so close...

Both my grandpas started Dialasis within a week of eachother, and they both died last month within 2 days of eachother. they always had competition.



i miss them a lot, but it was time for both of them. =]

My friend took his life last week.
For those of you who have Bebo, this is his memorial page.
http://www.bebo.com/Profile.jsp?MemberId=4143839747
I miss him so much, I cry everytime I look at photos of him.
He was such a nice guy, we will never know why he took his life.
All we know is how much we all loved him.

My stepsister's sister was killed in Iraq 2 years ago.
I've only met her once but my family and I attended her militaristic funeral and that really got to me. The folding of the American flag, the guns being shot and her burial, so respectful and ritual, really effected me, even if I didn't really get to know her.

As for my grandparents, they've all passed away, before I was born, except my dad's mom. I only knew my dad's mom for a year when she stayed with us but when she passed away, ironically, I didn't cry or express any deep emotions. I'm guessing it was because I was so young then.

it's difficult to console someone who lost someone really close to them.
people react differently to forms of condolence. ><
I guess you could send him a card, small present (like cookies? :D) to him and tell him that you guys are there for him

• The only relatives (so far) that have died were my two great grandparents. They both died on the same year -- a few months between their deaths. I barely knew them, but I felt sad. Inf act, I find most deaths sad. You know, one day you're celebrating life then one day you figure out you're life's ending. It's not a fun thought at all, but it happens to everyone. I even think about it. >o<;;
  
  I don't know, but what matters most is the time you spent with that friend/relative. You know, they may be gone, but memories will last forever and such. And seriously, it is hard to offer hlpe to someone who is grieving for a lost loved one. But you should probably leave them alone for a while then you can comfort them after they've had time to think over the whole thing. xD (?)

I'm really no good with handling death. There have been a lot of people in my family and with my friends who've died in the past five or so years, and it's been really overwhelming. People yell at me that I should be crying and upset, and while I'm upset on the inside, I rarely ever show it on the outside, so instead of outwardly crying, I'm smiling and crying on the inside, basically. I tend to take a really long time to forget things though, or to move on, even though you wouldn't guess it if you knew me. And what's absolutely the worst is that I'm horrible at a funeral. I'll tend to be slightly upset when I go to them and such, but I won't actually cry unless I see my dad crying. Not hear, see. So if I'm looking straightforward at whoever is doing the service, I won't cry no matter if everyone around me is or not. People scold me for it, too, but it's just how I am.

Ishoku, I have the same problem. That's why I didn't go to the funeral or wake for the school lady that just died. My friends were all crying- I didn't want to go to the service and have everyone think that I just didn't care.

I feel horrible that I can't/don't cry for people. But that's just the way I am, so I guess I'll learn to deal with it.

• No one has recently died in my family thankfully since I've lost too many close people, but I'd like to say if anyone needs someone to talk to about it one on one I am here. I help a lot of my friends with death since I dealt with it when eight thanks to my brother dying. So I am here for anyone.
  
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Way back when i was sill an innocent child my dad had a friend named Mark.
As i grew older he became part of our family and my sibblings and I starting calling him Uncle Mark.
A few years ago he died by taking to many sleeping pills.
I was only 10 when he died, i didn't know anythind about that stuff so i didn't mind.
Right now we keep a picture of him on our fridge
Why on the fridge? He was a cool guy my dad says.

Other then that i didn't have any other deaths.
Well if animals count then some D:

The thing i fear most is my dad dieing.
He has blood or bone cancer.
He discovered he had it about 3-4 months ago.
If he ever dies I'd have to get a job to support the family..
=_____=;

As for my mom doesn't work and has a grade 8-9 education.
(she never graduated)
D: