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I can't believe this..
My mom is going to kick me out of the house.
I Don't have a job. - don't tell me to go get one either. I'm trying. I won't be able to pay rent anywhere without a job.... The point is, that my Mom is going to kick me out... All because I apparently fuck things up |
Please explain further.
There must be deeper elements into this. Er... Regardless if you believe me or not, I tend to specialize in this sort of issue...and I may be able to help here. But you really must give more information than just that. |
Like what?
I'm 19 I'm not going to graduate. - why? I quit going cause my Guidance Counseller misinformed me that I had all myt credits. when I'm really one credit behind- I sty out of the way, I'm usually in my room just doing whatever. I want ot move out, I just don't want ot get kicked out. Mom aned I don't talk as much as we used to.. What do oyu wannt to know? Cause I relaly don't know what to say. |
A parent with normal stability generally won't kick out their young from time to time.
You are not going to graduate this year? You could perhaps enroll in a Summer-School program which would get you the remaining credits, however, you wont have a big glorious graduation... I do not know what your lifestyle is like. Most of the cases I've dealt with where parents have kicked the kids out were the results of alcohol or drug-induced "tantrum" where basically the parent takes things out on the child. ... Right... |
Mom's on OW (ONtario Works .... welfare basically), and me getting a job would fuck that up.
Besides that, Mom sat on her ass for 18 years before getting me a birt certificate. And I would have done it.. Had I known where to go or whatever. Same with a SIN number. Can't get a job without one. Mom isn't an alcoholic, not is she a druggie. She's just a bitch when on her rag (But that's normal Neh?) She's sitting outside talking to her boyfriend and her mother, and I overheard her say that she was going ot kick me out. I have no idea what the fuck I'm going to do. |
You're in an interesting situation...did you perhaps take something out of context?
Perhaps she is simply angrily ranting to those around her. Worst comes to worst, do you have a place to lay low for a little bit until you can get your affairs in order? |
Nope I Didn't take it out of context "I'm going to move her out of the house as soon as I can" direct quote.
And No I don't. THe people who I could stay with either already have someone staying with them, or they are about to move... |
Dev, you may have overreacted a tad bit.
If your mother said "as soon as I can" then that means as soon as she can. That doesn't mean she's kicking you out on the street just like that. Perhaps talk to your mom, ask her what you can do about school or a job... My father was once the same way. He'd angrily rant to those around him, however, he was also an alcoholic so things would get violent when you matched him up with Alcohol. xD Yeah... Anyways...I suggest just laying low for now, alright? Then talk to your mom...I know for a fact that being aggressive won't help...so try to keep the topic off of her simply "throwing you out" alright? Talk about school, a job, whatever... I can't offer TOO much more than that, given the information I know right now...so... Good luck. |
I hear her after saying before summer is out.
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Then you have more than one night...so again...just try to talk to her, and see if you can't get some tension out between the two of you. |
NEver thought there was any tension >_<
But I can try |
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Thank you =3
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If I can be of further help...or if you need something, just PM me alright?
I've been kicked out on the street with a suitcase thrown out after me before, and God knows I do not wish that on any other human. So yeah...let me know what happens, please. |
I wil *nods*
And I feel bad for you. IT's happened to a friend of mine,a nd I really don't want to have it get that bad between me and Mum >_< |
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I'm sorry that's happening to you D': . I'd say it's possible to stay with someone else while you try to find a job and such =3. Options could be... Relatives: Aunties? Uncles? Grandpa? Grandma? Sister(s)? Brother(s)? or maybe even Friends: Childhood ones? Generous ones? I wish you the best of luck. I feel really bad something as unfortunate as that is going to happen to you. I hope things can get better in the future for you <3 |
My dad abandoned me as soon as I could walk without falling down. Mum went out shopping one day and he just opened the gate and pushed me on my way. We were living in Feilding and I managed to get all the way from one side of town to the other before some crack whore recognised me from the park and took me into KFC where mum worked... Frankly I don't think getting a job or moving into a flat was an option for me... And if you're wondering why a crack whore would recognise me it was because she was a 14 year old mother of twins...
... I guess what I'm trying to say is focus on the bright side... She's giving you a fighting chance... |
My mom threatens to kick me out all the time... And everytime I find some way to get by so I never have to beg her to reconsider... Since once she finds out that I'm not going to be in any troule and that I have some type of plan, she always begs me to stay... and I do... Even thought I wish that she wouldn't and that she'd just let me leave...
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Shit, you're 19.
That ruins a lot. Do you have any friend you can stay with until you've built up a large enough nest egg to get a place? This may be too much, but there are shelters too. I was almost pushed to that option once. |
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But to the OP~ hmm... I have no clue what to say to you here. The most I could suggest is that if she actually comes up to you and forces you out of the house, is to go to a friends' house or something, like others have said. But since you say that's not an option at all, then I suggest what one of the first posters did, that you should really try to patch up whatever your mum thinks is wrong before she actually confronts you about kicking you out. And before summer is quite a while, so I suggest looking even harder for a job than you are right now (if you're not out putting in applications constantly) so that you'll have an even better chance to get a job. Granted, trust me I know how hard it can be, since the first time I was looking for a job I wasn't very pushy about it and was quite lazy with filling out applications... like once a month I'd fill out five or so, and it took me two and a half years to get a job. Dx So vigilence is key here~ just don't give up looking, and if there's a job you really want, bug the manager once a week about your application, if not then more than that. xD It works, they'll get to know you and how much you want the job, and they may just hire you based on your demand. :3 Good luck~ I wish you every bit of it, because I know how hard the situation can be, especially the first threat. It's fucking scary, and I wouldn't even wish the threats on anyone. That's just stress a 19 year old doesn't need when there is no job to support. <3 |
i've read through the first few posts, and it seems that you've gotten into some messy mess. I think your mom's just mad that's why she's saying stuff like that.
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