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Depends on the situation... If you guys were joking around or if he was really mad at you for whatever reason he probably didn't mean it. However, if it was a normal everyday encounter and he said that out of the blue, then he may not like you as a friend. Try talking with him again to sort this out. :)
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If I got sick and tired of hearing my friend saying that but not meaning it, I might just snap and tell them to go ahead and die.
You'll know if Chris is a friend by all the memories you shared and decipher it. Plus, you really shouldn't say stuff like I want to die, so simply if you didn't really want to. It seems like you really were just looking for some comfort words and he snapped you out of it by not giving you any. I hope you guys are still friends! |
Well. When my friends get emo and suicidal on me. I tend to try to coax them out of not doing so, but if they keep going on about it with no reason to or for attention then I go to the "Well then do it" since I know at that point they won't it serves as bit of a wake up call. I have a lot of friends who throw around things like saying they want to die easily when they really don't want to, and since I've struggled with depression and suicide for years I tend to snap after awhile so maybe it was something like that or he was having a bad day.
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Too tell the truth, if he jokes around like that with you all the time, then it is fine and there is nothing to worry about. HOWEVER if that is the first time he every told you that or something of that nature, then no. He isn't.
A true friend would try to help someone get over the thought of trying to suicide and would try to cheer you up in all ways possible, well at least that is what I do. Or they would slap you across the face and glare at you saying never to do that again. Real life story. Lol. However if someone was doing it for attention I would most likely go off and say the same thing because of the fact that it is stupid and I wouldn't believe them to go off and do something like that. For and example. I had a boyfriend that I use to talk to and one time I got suicidal. I told him and he told me that if I did something like that he would spit on my grave and feel very insulted that he wasted his time with me because it is taking the easy way out of life. So he told me to go a head and do it. Why did he do that? Because he knew that I wouldn't do that because I wasn't serious. Now if I had been serious; I am sure that he would have went off and came over to my house and helped me out in a heartbeat that or placed me in a mental institution. But that guy. If he is doing what my ex use to do; then he doesn't believe you would do it. But if he was doing it and knew you were being serious; then he would have just tried to talk you out of it. It just depends on what type of friendship you have with the person. Another example is I have a friend who goes off and says she is going to kill herself and is joking around about it because her mother is a well...excuse my language but is a major bitch to her and everything. So we joke around sometimes about that. It just depends on the relationship you have with the person. Sometimes a lot of people throw threats around and don't mean them at all.... Did any of that make since? ><;; |
did you ask him later on why he was acting like that? cause if that was just him i guess i wouldn't really want to be his friend but thats just me but i think he's still a friend even though he's going through some stuff. hope that helps gosh i'm bad at giving advice.
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I'd say that it depends on context. Were you joking? Do you say this sort of thing all of the time? In what way did you say what you said and did he say what he said?
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I don't believe he is a friend. A real friend wouldn't say things like that even if it was a joke. Real friends care enough about you to try and help you out of your situation. Real care enough about you to try and calm you down so you don't do something irrational. If he was a real friend, he would've been able to put his own mood aside(if he was in a pissy mood) and try to help you out. If he had been a real friend, he would've tried to find out why and offered his help in solving your problems or at least offered some form of comfort. Real friends don't joke around like that regardless of the situation because real friends care about each other and do whatever is necessary to help each other out in sticky situations. Personally, i don't think the variables matter. A real friend would put things like that aside and be there for you. So no, i don't think he really is your friend.
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Have you been really emo a lot lately for no reason? Because that may have just been him snapping at it grinding on his nerves for so long.
However, if this came out of no where and it's not a first time offence, I'd say no. If it's the first time he's said something like that then just be careful around him for a while and see if he's being extra jerk-ish. |
I honestly don't think he's a friend if he would even joke about something like that. Even if he was having a bad day or whatever, it's not right to tell someone to go ahead and kill yourslef. It's just not right. I had the same problem before too, only I wasn't being emo and stuff. Just being me. She said out of nowhere Oh go kill yourslef already kay? She was never my real friend. It hurt alot to not be friends, but it was for the better.
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He does not believe in suicidal. And he probably doesn't want to hear that stuff. He thinks you are saying that stuff for attention, and he's acting stubborn and he doesnt want to give you that attention. No offense, but suicidal thoughts and emotions are totally unattractive, and I find it odd how you post about this friend being a friend, rather than why you are feeling suicidal. Maybe he thinks you are faking it. :o
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sarcasm, prehaps
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maybe he got pissed off since you said something like that and didn't consider anyone's feelings (friends around you) maybe there's something more to it.. you shouldn't take it to heart or see how it goes next time you talk to him.
Still no matter what problems you might have you shouldn't say things like that, if someone feels suicidal and means it.. it commits suicide, I would get pissed too and say that if one of my friends considered to do it, for me it looks like he's more of a friend than you think |
Well it wasn't a very nice thing for him to say. But maybe he didn't mean it. Maybe he got tired of you saying it and he was in a bad mood that day? You should talk things through with him, tell him how you felt about it and ask why he said it. And you should also ask if something is bothering him latley. |
well i dont know if he is really a friend or not...but i can say..suicide is a selfish act...if you are that self centered and dont care that it would hurt so many around you that you want to kill yourself..that who is to stop you..thats probably where he may have been coming from...and people who even talk about "oh i want to commit suicide" they drive me crazy..if only you knew what it felt like to lose someone cause they decided to take their own life..its not so great of a feeling..
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Thats nothing you should joke about! If he was joking you sholdnt take it so seriously. But if he did mean it you definitely should have a long nice talk with him about how you both feel! |
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Yeah, I'm sure he's still your friend. I do that sometimes, when I don't really mean it. It only happens when I'm really annoyed and I'm sick of people like that. SO I just say things I don't mean. He's still your friend, don't worry. |
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How frequently do you do this? (saying suicidal things) More than likely, it annoys people when you do everyday or every week -.-;;; I had a friend that said she'd commit suicide everyday. It came to a point that i really don't believe her anymore and couldn't careless about her talks... |
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