For the past few days, my boyfriend and I have been very moody. Some days I would call him and he would be all depressed, which would make me depressed, and vis versa. This is going to sound really, really stupid to some of you (or a lot of you).

We're both members of Gaia. I checked out his profile (since I had been offline for the past week) and saw that he changed his "about me" section, and I wasn't mentioned in it. That wouldn't have bothered me so much, but I also wasn't the first on his friendslist. I know, it's really stupid to be mad about something like that, but I can't even remember the last time he made me feel special. I do a lot of things for him, and I get a #8 spot on his list. All he could say was, "Does order really matter?" Well, considering that I'm his fucking GIRLFRIEND, I'd say it does matter. e_e

But that was the straw that broke the camel's back. Last night, he said something that made me really mad. He was mad that he couldn't use the computer or watch tv, so he was talking to me on the phone. The way he said it though, it made me think that I was his last resort. Like, "I can't do anything else, so I guess I'll call my girlfriend!" He didn't say that exact thing, but he may as well have.

Discuss:
Boyfriends and girlfriends.
How often do you make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel special?
How often does he or she make you feel special?
When you love someone, do you want to tell the world or keep it a secret?
The dreaded Top-Friends feature on many websites.
Being the last resort. =__=

lol my husband is like #4 on my gaia friendslist and i think #2 on my myspace. he knows hes #1 in my heart so its not a big deal XD
He sends me random sweet text messages to make me feel special since were about 3000 miles away from each other at the moment. the cutest one today 'just thinking about how much i love you make my day a good one'

i dont think he was intentionally making you the last resort. he probably just wanted to unwind a bit adn relax. if i want to vegitate and relax i watch tv if i want companionship with a bunch of people to just talk with at my leisure ill go online, but if its a one on one thing id call him. but since you two had been at odds recently he was probably afraid of causing a fight and getting you mad at him.
i think you two should take a short break from each other. not the relationship just kinda spend some time apart then when you are together it will be that much better. it kinda sounds like youve had too much time together recently XD

hmm.. that was wrong XD kick him til he bleeds XD

i have a fiancee *im a boy XD*, she's not really into these message board things, but she seems pissed off at seeing me earn :gold: XD but i never see her as my last resort, we often do stuff together, the only time we go about our separate businesses is when it's time to go home from work *we work together*. we talk a lot before we go home and,,, well, i always love those 'just us' moments... where we talk and talk and talk XD if she had a liking for these avatar~forum sites, then maybe we've already made thousands of gold, considering how much we talk about XD

she's very special to me. it's just as simple as that... yet it makes me jitterbug all over XD aawww

How often do you make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel special?
almost every time we see each other.............. ^_^...........

How often does he or she make you feel special?
some times..... but not every time though...........

When you love someone, do you want to tell the world or keep it a secret?
sometimes........... i asked him if he liked me...... and he said yes...... so thats why he became my boy friend................ ^_^

I try and make my gf fell speical all the time.. shes alway the first on my heart and my friends list lol.. but yeah. I try to avoid tuff that will cause fights with my gf.. but yeah.... I organize my frieds like this

ppl I talk to at the top....

ppl I sorta talk to

pll who I can borrow stuff from

ppl who supply me with sela letters

ppl I dont know but know cuz im rich lol.

My first question would be, how old are you?
Age depends greatly on how I'd approach giving you advice on this one.
If you 18 or younger I'd say just give him up and move on. It's 90% likely that whatever boyfriend you have at that age will not be one that lasts even getting to college. People who make you depressed are not worth being with. Obviously you don't make them happy enough not to be that way and all they are doing is bring you down. It's time to get into a healthy relationship it sounds like.

As for the what number you are on his friends list shouldn't be a big deal at all. Most of the time people don't even update those things and if they do they don't really matter.

It isn't until now that I'm 23 I feel like I'm in a healthy relationship. It takes time and for once think about yourself. Are you happy? Do you like where you life is going with this guy in it? Do you have the same goals and interests? Do you like who you become when your around him?
All very important questions when your starting to wonder if your in a good relationship.

sigh... i had that happen too :/ sadly we broke up. i wanted to be his 'number one', but he couldn't give me the attention i needed. he was unsure of what he wanted, and tried to 'ignore' me, slowly giving me less attention, and it killed me inside. i was thinking what i did wrong, when in fact, i didn't do anything wrong. after some talks we decided to break up. right now we are good friends again :D we can talk about lots of stuff [only he isn't 'Attached' to me anymore like when i was his girlfriend] ^^ :D and i still trust him and stuff...

i don't know if this helps, but i hope you'll figure things out...
i really do
you deserve the attention a girlfriend needs ^^ :D [maybe you should talk seriously with him?]


edit: i second what the person above me said, basically: you don't need to stay in things that make you feel bad, eventhough you still care for him ^^

Once you've been going out for a while, they kind of give up. They think, "I've already got her. She's not going to break up with me for little stuff. I don't have to try as hard." If he's not making you feel special any more, you need to sit him down and have a serious talk. He may appreciate you more if he realizes how serious the situation is. Guys often really don't realize that all the stupid little small things they do add up.

You have to keep in mind though, they really don't say what they mean a lot. Like, I hugged my boyfriend last night when he asked, and he was like, "Awh, and this is why i love you..." and he totally didn't understand that the way it sounded to me was, 'I love you because you give me hugs.' He was probably just trying to be sweet and it came out the wrong way (lol, he knows now. xD) Your boyfriend probably did the same thing. He wanted to let you know he was thinking of you, but he probably didn't want it to come across that you were his last resort.

Hack his account and mention you in his profile. Sometimes, they just don't see the importance of it, and they usually don't get mad if you subtly change it. He probably won't notice anyway, but this might not be a good idea. You know your guy better than I do, and if this is something that would make him mad, then you probably shouldn't do it.

Since you've both been really moody LATELY, maybe it's a phase. But if stuff like this happens all the time, or if you feel ignored, you need to let him know. Is the relationship worth it any more?

I did that to mine a couple weeks ago, and he's mostly been an angel ever since because he doesn't want to lose me.. So if your guy really cares, he should make an effort to treat you well. If he's not, it probably means he's just a little too comfortable with the relationship. Threaten if it's a serious enough problem.

If this is like, the first time, see if it's a phase, but tell him how you feel anyway. Just lightly.

I hope I helped. <3

If I ever get a boyfriend, I'm gonna make sure he likes me, and will almost do anything for me.

How often do you make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel special?
Depends, but he has to make me feel special too

When you love someone, do you want to tell the world or keep it a secret?
If it's one of those unrequited love things, I think I'll keep it a secret ;x
The dreaded Top-Friends feature on many websites.
I don't use them, and I don't really have any friends who use the chatting/forum things, so Id on;t care ;p
Being the last resort. =__=
It's fine as long it's not my best friend who is doing it

you should talk to him about that, have you told him all that?

>__<

I know the feeling. I get like that sometimes. I'll get mad about the smallest little things like that xD. Nice to know someone else is like that too =3

I know my boyfriend in real life so we spend most of our time together face-to-face. I occasionally talk to him on the phone and I used to on Gaia. For a while, I wasn't in his About section, but he put me in now. I'm not sure if he's in mine though...I have to go check, I haven't been on Gaia in a super long time xD

We do a lot of random stuff together. If you ever saw it, you'd kind of think we're best friends though instead of boyfriend girlfriend. He does nice stuff for me a lot but most of the time we do normal friend stuff. Like watch action movies and challenge each other in video games x]

In terms of the 'love' thing, I guess I'm somewhere in between. Although, my boyfriend's slightly more open about it. But yeah...

About the top friends feature, I'm like 99% sure I'm his number one on Gaia. That 1% is the fact that I don't remember Gaia all too well. But yeah, I'm pretty sure. We don't have MySpaces though or anything other than Gaia. I don't think he's even in my top friends on there though. In fact, I'm pretty sure my top friend was one of my guy friends from my last school xD. I must sound terrible right now >__<

I've never quite been the last resort. Not to my knowledge anyway. He's always sort of put me before any of his friends or anyone else he knows. I put my friends first though, I'll probably always will. The weird truth x]

Originally Posted by iriealice

you should talk to him about that, have you told him all that?

I think this was the best answer I heard the whole time x]. If you haven't let him know already, you should as soon as possible. Maybe he's oblivious to the fact that it bothers you D':

How often do you make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel special?
Always. He knows Ihe's the only non-virtual 'friend' I have.
How often does he or she make you feel special?
Always. Like the day before yesterdasy I thought it was, he gave me this big-ass bouquet with a card saying he was proud of me being so strog. xDDD He needed my father to die, me being beaten up and 985 of my tantrums to get me those. xD.
When you love someone, do you want to tell the world or keep it a secret?I'd like to keep it a secret. Because if I'd tell the world, I'd be in shit. I'm a guy, remember. Homosexualty is frowned upon.

How often do you make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel special?
Well I don't exactly know for sure, but I try to all the time. xD I rather him feel special then me really, but we seem to really just even it out somehow.

How often does he or she make you feel special?
All the time. ^^ Hell, just talking to him makes me feel special sometimes. xDDD

When you love someone, do you want to tell the world or keep it a secret?
Hm.. I'd rather people know so I don't get anymore stalkers and stuffs. n_n So tell the world! POI IS TAKEN BY SIN AND LOVES HIM!!! >F

The dreaded Top-Friends feature on many websites.
Well... Sin is kinda anti-Myspace so instead my best friend is numero uno on there. xD; On Gaia he's my number one though. I don't tend to care too much if I'm number one on the list or not, though I do prefer actually being apart of the list that shows up on the profile and stuff. >>;

Being the last resort. =__=
Lucky me, Sin never really makes me the last resort for anything. ^^;; I've had past experiences with other people though and it really does suck some assage. Dx I can understand why you're angry. *nod* I think you have a lot of right to be too. You're his damned girlfriend, you're supposed to be special and crap, not a last resort. -.-

My fiance and I tend to be aware of each other's feelings with the blink of an eye, and it was always like that the six or seven years we were close friends. If we mess up and hurt the other's feelings, we tend to mend it quickly. We both get pretty moody otherwise.

When he's down, I'll cook him a good meal and make sure he's top priority. When I'm down, he'll do little things around the house so I don't have to, and he'll always act silly and such until I get smiling again. He usually doesn't quit until he gets what he wants.

I suggest if you feel like things are stressed and that you're under appreciated, communicate. Sit him down and tell him how you feel. Maybe the two of you can get away for a while, even if it's just a long walk with just the two of you. No phones, no interruptions, nothing. Remember what it is that made you fall in love with him in the first place, and him you. Keep your chin up, and I hope everything smooths out and you feel good as new soon.

As for the "top friend" feature, I don't really like it. I don't like anything that screams "I'm better than you". ~~;

It seems as though you may have taken something out of proportion here.

Gaia's new profiles can sometimes randomize the friendslists whenever a new person is added. If not, I really do not know how he re-organized it.

As for the call, things that are taken out context are bad. Perhaps there was more to it than you may have thought.

Boyfriends and girlfriends.
I have a boyfriend. I think relationships are okay, and work better if you're older. [no offense to anyone]

How often do you make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel special?
I dunno...I tell him I love him, and compliment him, talk with him...just normal stuff. ^^;

How often does he or she make you feel special?
He makes time to talk to me, he tells me he loves me. :]

When you love someone, do you want to tell the world or keep it a secret?
I'd like my friends to know, but that's it.

The dreaded Top-Friends feature on many websites.
I don't mind.

Being the last resort. =__=
I've never felt this way...so I can't say anything.

omg well first i think he should be more sympathitic i mean your a girl!



anyway my "boyfriend" right now is great to me but feel as if i'm not putting as much in as he is. and it makes me kinda mad at myself and i guess it's sort of hard to keep a boyfriend for me cause i don't commit and boys flirt with me so much. and i don't think beofre i say or do something i'm WORKING SO HARD to change this about me but it's kind of hard! but i'm going to change well try to change and let him know that i love him cause thats what relationships are about forgiveness, sacrafice, and love and pleasure


ah yes the list of friends on gaia let me tell you when miniwarlord2b takes my friend in common place i get mad! and like i know but i can't stand it!


omg well i never have been the last resort but i guess i would be pretty pissed off. but did you ask him if you were his last resort? i mean usually talking about can solve it (usually)
but if you still feel as if your putting to much commitment and he doesn't give a shit about you i think he's dunzo. cause i think it's ovious he doesn't care for you as much as you care for him and you deserve better.


hope that helps (probably not)