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My girlfriend..
so im really not gonna sugar coat anything. i was drunk at a party, and me and this girl started making out. the next morning she calls me and says im her boyfriend and says she loves me... after one day... i know we didnt do anything past making out.. but i think this is a little too quick.. dont you?? so i want to break up with her... tell me your opinions.
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Side Note: I remember you! You posted in my thread in General Discussion a little while ago x]
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i kinda thought it was just one of those nights i was just having some fun ._. but the other problem is her best friend is like my really good friend and like... i dont want her to stop being my friend cuz i broke up with her best friend...
and yes i did post in your thread :3 |
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no clue ._.
i just REALLY dont like this girl who claims to be my girlfriend ._. i guess i should try talking with my friend first though... |
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(Note: I tried asking one of my friends for any suggestions on this situation. He just said "Mannn. This dude's screwed X___X". He's pretty negative at times xD) EDIT: I'll be back on at another time. It's nighttime in my timezone and I need to go to sleep x]. If you can, keep in touch with me about this subject. I'm quite curious to see what's going to happen ;3 |
This could be a difficult situation, unless you're just an insensitive jerk. Which I'm thinking is not the case or it would be east to come right out and say that what happened meant nothing at all to you.
Since you say that you really don't even like her, using the angle that "we should slow down, and get to know one another" isn't even really an option. The only thing I can suggest is telling her that you were drunk and made a mistake. And you hope that you could still be friends perhaps. Though the "being friends" part would be awkward at best, at least for a while. |
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There's nothing to break up because this girl needs a reality check if it went down the way I'm reading it. Unless you told her you wanted a relationship, she is being psycho and immature to assume that just because you made out with each other that you are now bonded together. Obviously you need to make it clear to her that you're not together if you don't want to be with her - or if you do....you really should spend some time dating before declaring your "love" for each other. :?
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Whatever you do, you need to talk with this girl for more than five minutes. Please don't walk up to her and say 'I'm breaking up with you' and then leave. D= Especially if you don't feed she's your girlfriend in the first place.
Perhaps talk to her, and tell her that you were drunk and you don't remember her asking you out and/or her asking you if it was okay that she call you that. Tell her you don't mind being friends with her, but you don't feel ready for your relationship with her to go that far. Dating is something that BOTH people have to agree to. Also, if you really don't like her, why were you making out with her?! D= I know you were drunk, but jeeze... You might also want to talk to you friend, and tell him/her what's going on. How you were drunk, and suddenly this girl is calling you her boyfriend and you didn't even know you were dating! And ask for your friend's advice. |
If she's the only one who just automatically says or assumes you two are going out, then it's not a valid relationship. I would just confront the girl who's saying this and tell her that you were just having fun, you were a bit out of it the night before, and there isn't anything there. She just sounds like she's clingy and that she just "falls in love" with whoever she kisses. ... I've known a girl who's like that, she hung around with my group of friends at the college campus that I went to. She was twenty-three and acted like she was five because of the way she handled herself. The second a guy even so much as talked to her, it was "love at first sight", and she didn't want to give up on getting into a relationship even though she was just so annoying to everyone else. She could be told flat out that there wouldn't be a relationship, and yet she'd still expect one anyways. Dx Let's just hope this girl that's wanting to be all over you isn't quite that bad. D:
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I agree with talking to your friend first. Tell her what happened and explain your feelings on the matter, though not in a harsh or rude way. Just matter of factly.
When you actually talk to your not-girlfriend, explain to her that you'd had a little too much to drink, and seemed to have given her the wrong impression. If you feel the need to apologize, apologize for confusing her and not telling her sooner. You can say you were looking for a way to say it that wouldn't hurt her feelings. Tell her gently you're really not interested in dating. If she persists, get mean. I've had to do this. :roll: It sucks, but sometimes you can't get the point across. One other thing: Don't feel bad. You weren't dating in the first place. She's at fault for trying to take advantage of the situation and an obviously kind person. I would say you're at fault for not saying anything sooner, but I can't really blame you. That's an awkward situation to be in. ._. |
i agree with what you all are saying. i don not have the time to resapon personally to each and all of your tips and advices, but i take all you said into consideration and thought.
i mean, shes not a bad person, but she was moving WAY to fast D: i even told her later that i didnt want her saying she loved me or anything.... but instead she still does.... then she gets all physco when i dont say i love her ._. i hope im not being the immature jackass here. but if i am somone let me know. how should i go about this?.. breaking up with her or otherwise? getting to know her?? |
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That is borderline stalkerish isn't it? I would tell her that you are interested in being friends, and maybe if it goes beyond that, than great, but for now to be nothing more than friends. Good Luck! |
Just "break up with her". Tell her it was just a drunken moment and move on . I'm sorry but it's kind of hard for me to feel sorry for this girl and care about her feelings if she makes out with someone who's drunk off their butt and expect an automatic relationship due to a couple of kisses.
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Just tell her that you think that she's rushing it, and if she'd slow down then maybe it would work.
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It's not for us to tell you whether to break up with her or to try and make it work....that has to be done according to your feelings. Either you want to go out with her or you don't.
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Well I say it was pretty much a one night stand.
Even though it was just making out. lol If you care about her, and see if she's pretty. xD Go out but if you don't feel anything for her, just end it. lol She's probably new at the whole dating world. Since most newbies get so attached to those who are their 'firsts.' Blah. Drinking. >.< How retarded. |
The most important thing to do is to not lead her on. Don't make her think you're that serious if you're not. If it was just a drunk, meaningless make-out session, tell her before things get worse. Apologize. If you think you may like this girl, tell her, but you still need to let her know that her saying, "I love you." after making out just once, while you were drunk, makes you uncomfortable and that you don't want to be that serious with her. |
Tell her that what you did wasn't anything special. Just break up with her, but don't be skipping around the truth. Be blatant and just tell her that you were never a couple. You cannot let this go on longer because then it'll be harder to get rid of her.
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well, if you really aren't interested in trying to have a relationship with this girl, then definitely tell her the truth. tell her that she is going to fast and taking what you two did way too seriously, even if it "breaks her heart." better to get it done and over with before she takes it too far. maybe go as far as give her tips or something like "maybe you should tell a guy after knowing him one night that you love him."
also, you may want to talk to your mutual friend first. your mutual friend should understand where you are coming from (even though she may be a little peeved at the idea that you just wanted a little fun and it happened to be with her friend). |
I don't think you guys actually count as 'went out' with each other. So just tell her that let's "not start" because you don't want to. Like you told us, don't sugarcoat it. It probably won't hurt her so bad this early in the game. She probably suspects this isn't really what gf bf should be like.
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say it's to quick and say she means nothing and say you were drunk and nothing more. it's straight up but she won't bother you anymore
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