Well this really cute senior asked me out on a date but the problem is that my BEST friend likes him to. but then she got all mad at me cause he asked me out then she IM'ed me and said i was ugly and i didn't deserve him. but then i told her to buzz off and she hasn't talked to me since.

i want to go on the date but i've been friends with her since 3rd grade and i think if i go out with him then she won't like me anymore. but it's just guy yeah i know. but i don't want to give him up but i don't want to give her up either. it's like i have to chose and i don't want to.

should i ditch them all?

so now i don't know what to do so any thoughts suggestions???

huh huh!!!

• Oh wow. :( My impression is that she's not a very good friend just from her reaction to you telling her news that you were so excited about. That's really mean of her to 1. call you ugly and 2. say you don't deserve someone. She's massively jealous, and she's inconsiderate of your feelings. If she was a good friend, she would not be saying such things to you. She's willing to give up her best friend just because of a boy? D: She should be a little supportive...
  
  It's not really the quantity of time you have known her that should matter. It's the quality of your relationship.
  
  Honestly, I'd sit down and have a talk with her in person. I would tell her that what she said hurt you, especially since she's your best friend. Tell her how much you value her friendship, and how you hope this incident won't break you two apart. How you work it out with her is how much you want to keep her as a friend. Even if she was emotional, she should not be telling you such things. I personally don't think you should lose a friend and a date all at once.
  
  That's...my perspective on the situation.
  Good luck to you. :D

Tell this guy what is going on. Maybe he was really trying to use you to get to her, its been known to happen o.o;
Irony at its finest is what I call it.

He asked you. He didn't ask her. ANd if she tells you you're ugly and that's why you don't desevre him I think she's suffering from some mental illness. If your friendship is mutual she would have asked you not to go because she lieks him. She wouldn't tell you you're ugly! That doesn't make ANY sense. ><;;

I'd recommend dissing her.

But... I doubt you're as harsh as I am...
I suggest you tell him you'r enot sure, becasue your best friend likes him too. :) And if he's like: "Well, I asked you and not her' I'd say go on the date.
You don't need her if she can't think of a better reason than 'you're ugly'! WTH!? I hate her already you know that? If she's your BEST friend I feel sorry for you.

I tend to agree with what the others said.
You are the one he asked out and not her. Saying petty things to you out of jealousy is a pretty typical reaction of a jealous person.
I would go out with him, get to know him and see how things work out.
Hopefully your friend will get over her jealousy
I would just give her a little time..

I don't mean to sound harsh or rude toward your friend, but the fact she got upset with YOU for what the guy did... I dunno.

I can understand that you've been best friends since third grade, but you'd think she'd understand the fact that it was his choice. :/ Doesn't always work to that maturity level, though.

Had your friend not acted the way she did, I would have said, "It's one guy, so unless you think he's THE one, is it worth it?" Now I'm not so sure.

If your main concern is losing your friend, talk to her first. Tell her how rude she was and how much it bothered you, but then sit down together and talk about this guy. See if you can't come to some conclusion.

The only thing I DO know is that without communication, you can't solve it. Sometimes it's the hardest thing to keep doing.

Ah now this, I can relate too; this same thing happened to me in school. I know what you are going through. Now I am not going to say this is going to be easy though.

She is your friend right, you have known her since the 3rd grade. Too me friendship comes before relationships but that was a lesson I had to learn the hard way. If she is really your friend she should think that well things aren't really going to go her way all the time and that the fact she got upset with you over what this guy did. That is just stupid. Plan and simple as that. Is it your fault he asked you out on a date? No. So why is she blaming you? Because she needs somewhere to put the blame.

You see jealousy is a very interesting emotion and to tell the truth, you should be able to do what you want; in high school you are going to loose a lot of friends over the silliest things, but that means that they really weren't your true friends in the first place.

Consider this. Place yourself in her shoes; how would you react. Think about that for a while and then after you do; talk to her about and even if you shouldn't be the one to apologize, I would go a head and do it anyways; saying sorry is the hardest thing to do especially when it comes to friends. But you are going to go through things like this all the times. Don't let a guy come between your friendship.

I learned that one the hard way. Either way; I hope that this high school rap just stops and what not, it really sucks when things like this happen. But hang in their! I am sure things will sort out.

i get what y'all are saying but i can't talk to her she won't have it. i can't talk to her cause all she does now is make stupid decisions on her part but i don't want to ditch her and i don't want to lose he guy either, but if he's using me i'll tell and ditch him and slap him in the face. so thats what i'll do thats for all y'alls advice.

o___O How bizzare.

Aww, that sounds cool that he asked you out n___n.

Although, your friend doesn't seem like a very good one to be calling you ugly when he asked you out >:l. Your friend's just jealous, that's all. Usually, I would say to put your friend first but your friend doesn't seem like a true friend at all :S

I say you ask your friend "Is this senior asking me out really going to ruin our friendship? It's ridiculous." If your friend says "No, go out on the date and we can still be friends" then I suggest you keep them as a friend. But if your friend says something along the lines of "Yeah it will. Tell the senior you won't go or I won't be friends with you anymore" then you should lose them as a friend. A real friend would be happy for you ;D

I just think it's time to evaluate if it was a true friendship or not. I think you should go with the senior on the date and see how it all works our from there n____n

I don't think she deserves(sp?) to be your friend. If she really liked him, then she would ask you "not do it" or at least say that she will maybe "be uncomfertable(sp?),but good luck anyway"....

Though I actually don't think she did like him,probably the only reason she liked him was for his 'looks', you know?
And if she really was your (best)friend,then she would stay with you no matter what,desho?


Anyway,if you still want to be her friend try to date him if you want,and if you don't really like him,just tell her that even though you liked him she can have him.XD


Problem solved!

Dude, shes not worth being your friend in the first place D :
I mean, no true friends say you are ugly and that you arnt worth it for him, thats a red flag saying "Hey, Im supposed to be your friend, but Ill act like a total ass toward you anyways" or something like that.
Go get the guy, have fun.

I completely agree with what other people are posting.

This girl sounds horrible, and doesn't sound like a good friend to me. Shes immature and needs to grow up.

Go on the date, don't let her control your life like shes trying to do. It's unfair of her to try and make you choose.

I'd suggest trying to meet new people as well, so that you can surround yourself with better people who will be better friends to you :]

Never choose a boy over your best friend. That's never good. You could lose someone who cares for you as a real friend. Boys are a short term thing even if you really really do like him. I say just let him be and keep your friend.