Silly I know. It's something I promised I'd never let happen, but I've honestly fell in love with a guy I met online. I've spoken with him for over 5 months now and I have to say... he's the best guy I've ever talked to.

He doesn't live far away, so we'll probably end up meeting one day; but, neither of us feel the need to meet very soon. It's just that I can't possibly tell my parents about it; they'd freak and take away my computer. Sure, I understand the "he could be a pedophile" thing, but he's not... he's just not. Fact is, he knows my phone number and address, if he wanted to hunt me down, he would've done it by now. I've done background checks on him and even spoken with his MOTHER. I'm 100% sure that he's a decent, normal guy.

So tell me:
-Your opinion on this situation of mine?
-How would YOUR parents react if you were in this situation?
-And your opinions on Internet relationships.

I suggest you meet up and then tell your parents you bumped into him at the mall and it was love at first sight.

I think onlne relationships are more about personality than relationsships that started otherwise. :) So if you're both who you claim to be it's a good thing. :D

Your parents worrying is natural... I mean. I'd freak out too. xD But I suggest you do as I said. And hope my daughter won't ever find this post of mine when she's old enough to surf the web. .__.;;

Welcome to Hell!

Sorry, but that's the first thing I thought of. Why? Because it happened to me. I won't elaborate on specifics as to what happened (unless you want--it's long, drawn out, and spans over the course of six/seven years) because this is about you, so I'll give you the best advice I can (and it's good; it's all the things I DIDN'T do sooner).

Do not procrastinate in meeting once you both agree you're ready. Do not make excuses and sit back in the fear of, "What if I have some odd habit he can't stand?" Go for the gold, as they say so cliche-like.

I do believe you when you say he's a decent guy. And I definitely understand you not wanting to tell your parents. I wouldn't yet. There's no reason to tell them until you're ready to meet him. Then I think it's more appropriate.

From your opening bit, you seemed to have the same stance I did/do on it. "I'd never let happen." No one wants something so difficult. It's much easier to have someone right down the road, but you don't choose love.

Edit: I suppose I forgot to add that we are living together now and are happier than most "we didn't meet on the Internet; you're weird!" couples here. He's the greatest blessing I ever had to work my ass off for. xD <3

Well, if you like him, and he likes you, whats stopping you? :)

The only thing I am going to say is that internet relationships are.. dodgy. I'm not saying every one is like that. But when it comes to relationships over the net, even if you think you really know him, there could be elements that he has kept from you as it's so easy to do.. I could tell you I was an average 15-year-old girl, but really if I was a 19 years old living with my step-mum engaged to my dog you'd never know :lol:

With some people, there's a difference with how they act on the net and how they do in real-life. I'm not saying that's how this guy is! :)
One of my friends wanted to meet a guy from Myspace who was about 18, so I went with her. She told me all about him, she said how he was outgoing, always making her laugh and he seemed to be a really cool guy. When we eventually met him, he took us to a cafe, where he just sat and read the paper and hardly talked to us :/ My friend was disappointed that he wasn't the same..

By all means, meet up with him in a public place and hang out for a while, speaking face-to-face is defiantly a good thing for a relationship :)

That's all I will say. I hope this turns out ok for you ;)

i dont mind internet relationships. as long as the person is close enough so that you could visit them if you wanted to. but long distance relationships are horrible. trust me. dont do it.

I am going to sound really like an open book or a broken record when I say this... but be careful. I had a friend who meet someone online and he tried to do some horrible things to her, and she thought they were in love. Follow your heart and just be careful. Like I said...I sound like a broken record you most likely hear all the time.

That is the only advice I can give because I can't really relate. ><;;

The good thing about meeting someone through the internet is that you're not basing your feelings for the other person on outwards appearances, but on who that person is, their personality, etc.
The bad thing is you can't really trust the person 100% until you've met them at least quite a few times.

Be very careful and all, don't meet him right away at a place too private, be sure your cell's batteries won't die when you go meet him so that he won't turn off, etc. etc. Just in case.
But by all means, go for it. If you've been talking for a while and you want to meet him (and he wants to meet you), go for it. There's nothing wrong with meeting someone you trust but met on the internet. I do second that you should tell your parents you met somewhere else - through a friend or by chance, at a party, whatever. They tend not to understand it and get worried for you, if they care about you. Understandably. :]

my advice i to tell him to meet you at this place like target and then get your parents to bring you to tarrget and then you meet get a date and you can say you met him at target.


my opinion of internet relationships are that there a risky buissness i mean there great in everyway but i'm not sure if i would take the chance


my parents would freak out to. thats why i don't do it.


omg what do you guys talk about?! i think thats great good for you

I've been with my boyfriend online for six years. We've met in real life, and before that, we gave each other our phone numbers and addresses. I didn't feel unsafe about this, because I'd gotten to know him well before we did this, and I'd talked to his friends and people who knew him in real life. If you're careful about it, I don't think there's anything wrong with doing that. It's too bad that not all parents can't be understanding and realize that not everyone on the internet is a bad person. Yes, it's a possibility that someone might be someone bad, but as long as you're careful you'll probably be alright. My mom knew about me giving my address to my boyfriend and stuff and she didn't have a problem with it. She didn't have a problem with me meeting him recently either and letting him stay at our house. My neighbor, on the other hand, has gotten interested in an online friend of me and my boyfriend. She let him call her and her mom came in and asked who she was talking to and got mad at her and threatened to change her phone number and all sorts of things because she thinks he is a rapist. I hate when parents jump to conclusions like that. It's not like he showed up to her house uninvited, it was just an innocent phone call. I feel so bad for her because her mom barely lets her do anything. >.< I'm just glad my mom was fine with me having a boyfriend online.

I'm not sure if my mother was hesitant. By the time I'd made ticket arrangements (I initially set out to see Sagando Mirasta and Amari Tsuki... that was first on the plate, but Sagando and I were also going to go see my current fiance) my mother didn't question it. I was twenty-one at the time, but I'm not sure age was a factor. A lot could have been the factor, but that's another story.

Anyway. After a while, when it was said that he was moving, I told my family. I didn't beforehand because what was the sense? Not many people understand these things, and I knew it. My grandmother was very skeptical at first, mainly because a girl in our town got really burned by online dating. But, I told her my case was different, and I told her why.

When he arrived, he fit right in. He had a hard time adjusting at first for several reasons outside of us, but now... man, my mother has a second son and my grandmother already calls him "grandson-in-law-type-person-thing". xDDD

They all love him to death, and we couldn't be happier. He's just... perfect. Not only for me, but for our family and friends.

Sorry for being all mushy and stuff. >>;;

I'd say Go for it!
Just don't go to fast...You might crash..! XS

Originally Posted by Vickicat

I've been with my boyfriend online for six years. We've met in real life, and before that, we gave each other our phone numbers and addresses. I didn't feel unsafe about this, because I'd gotten to know him well before we did this, and I'd talked to his friends and people who knew him in real life. If you're careful about it, I don't think there's anything wrong with doing that. It's too bad that not all parents can't be understanding and realize that not everyone on the internet is a bad person. Yes, it's a possibility that someone might be someone bad, but as long as you're careful you'll probably be alright. My mom knew about me giving my address to my boyfriend and stuff and she didn't have a problem with it. She didn't have a problem with me meeting him recently either and letting him stay at our house. My neighbor, on the other hand, has gotten interested in an online friend of me and my boyfriend. She let him call her and her mom came in and asked who she was talking to and got mad at her and threatened to change her phone number and all sorts of things because she thinks he is a rapist. I hate when parents jump to conclusions like that. It's not like he showed up to her house uninvited, it was just an innocent phone call. I feel so bad for her because her mom barely lets her do anything. >.< I'm just glad my mom was fine with me having a boyfriend online.

your mom is really not caring about you thats my opionion i''m not trying to be mean or anything i just think a mom should be more cautious cause yes not everyone is bad like me and you aren't bad it's just it's a big risk. don't want to be racial or anything but is your mom black? cause idk why but all the black moms i know don't care about there kids and stuff. thats just my surrondings. i'm sure that black moms are really cool and all but i have yet to see one and i guess i grew up having to be bullied by black people and them not being very nice even hitting me a couple times.

so if i sounded offencive don't respond

Well first I'd ask how old are you? If your 18 or over then go meet him. You have to.
And of course meet in a public place the first time but of course your probably now all this n_n

But if you want a crazy story. Here is what I did. My fiance is french and I'm american. We met through Gaia online and had talked for about a year before I did this.
I left the country and flew to Paris to meet him all by myself for the first time ever out of country flight by myself. The first time I met him was in the airport after that terribly long flight from Kansas and I was there for 3 months. I was going through a divorce at the time and I hadn't even told my parents about the divorce let alone that I was leaving the country. 0_0;;
So I'm glad he was no crazy person and it's all worked out for the best. He's my match in every way I couldn't be more happy. But I am 23 mind you I can do that kinda thing legally n_n;

For meeting up, I'd have some friends spread out in a public area just to keep tabs. Just in case. He could be the nice guy, but then he could not. (Don't worry, I think he's the nice guy. But better safe then sorry, right? ^_^)

I think you should play it off like you met in person to begin with, like suggested. Your parents wouldn't be suspicious and it would be a lot easier to visit each other.

internet relationships never work :] i dont really think its healthy to "date" and "be in love" with somone over the internet. it just doesnt seem... right o.O i think you need real social interaction. if you guys meet up one day and you really are in love then great. but im just saying, dont take it 'too' seriously until you two actually meet. but more back on subject... telling your parents?.. hmm.. i think it might be a little embarresing.. but i think it depends on how old you are.

i never ment to offend anyone with this message, just speaking my opinions.

To me, meeting with people you met online may be taking a risk. Because, you really don't know.
But having some sense, knowing someone truely for a long time..there actually wouldn't be any problem. Especially if you guys just meet up in a mall, where there are alot of people, and if you don't like each other, thats okey.

I don't know about you actually in 'love' with this person, cuz i dunno about [email protected]@...too young..lolz
But maybe before you start saying you love him, you really should meet up and learn many things that you cant learn over the internet about each other.

He can start off as a friend, that you don't have to tell your parents right？

So ya..i am not against internet relationships.
PS: because i have met a friend over the internet and she happened to move to my city, maybe partially cuz of me..and now she is in my school right now, and we are still pretty good friends both on internet and life.

Originally Posted by Kooky

internet relationships never work :] i dont really think its healthy to "date" and "be in love" with somone over the internet. it just doesnt seem... right o.O i think you need real social interaction. if you guys meet up one day and you really are in love then great. but im just saying, dont take it 'too' seriously until you two actually meet. but more back on subject... telling your parents?.. hmm.. i think it might be a little embarresing.. but i think it depends on how old you are.

i never ment to offend anyone with this message, just speaking my opinions.

I think this is important what you said.

That before you meet don't bind yourself into a relationship with this person It's a total waste of time. I did that once with someone else and it really wasted many of my years because when we did meet in person the spark just wasn't there like it was on the internet.
But with my fiance now he is the person he is on the internet. It was the REAL thing n_n

Originally Posted by Kooky

internet relationships never work :] i dont really think its healthy to "date" and "be in love" with somone over the internet. it just doesnt seem... right o.O i think you need real social interaction. if you guys meet up one day and you really are in love then great. but im just saying, dont take it 'too' seriously until you two actually meet. but more back on subject... telling your parents?.. hmm.. i think it might be a little embarresing.. but i think it depends on how old you are.

i never ment to offend anyone with this message, just speaking my opinions.

Dude, marriages and relationships HAVE worked through the internet. Just you have to be more careful on here, cause everyone can lie on here, or maybe the opposite of what you thought he or she was. Or when you meet them they might chop you up into peices >> << But er, that can happen to anyone.

When you spoke to his mother, you could of spoken to his friend or something. Theres an example.

Agreed I'd heard of more successful relationships for the long term from people who meet over the internet then of those that fall apart.

-Your opinion on this situation of mine?
Be careful and don't get yourself too deep into it. You never know when the fates will want to throw a curve ball at you.... more of my opinion is in the 3rd little section of this thing though.

-How would YOUR parents react if you were in this situation?
My parents would freak of course. I told my mom about my one friend who met her current boyfriend on the internet. She didn't want to say anything bad about my friend (she really is a nice girl) but I could tell she disapproved. In fact, my friend's dad doesn't know that she met her current boyfriend on the internet... he assumes that they met when he came here on a trip at an arcade...

-And your opinions on Internet relationships
I'll confess, I've never been a supporter of internet relationships. Although you live close to each other and it may work, but unless you can meet each other on a regular basis (when you establish a relationship and meet in real life), I (personally) don't see much happening.

Originally Posted by Chrysopoeia

Silly I know. It's something I promised I'd never let happen, but I've honestly fell in love with a guy I met online. I've spoken with him for over 5 months now and I have to say... he's the best guy I've ever talked to.

He doesn't live far away, so we'll probably end up meeting one day; but, neither of us feel the need to meet very soon. It's just that I can't possibly tell my parents about it; they'd freak and take away my computer. Sure, I understand the "he could be a pedophile" thing, but he's not... he's just not. Fact is, he knows my phone number and address, if he wanted to hunt me down, he would've done it by now. I've done background checks on him and even spoken with his MOTHER. I'm 100% sure that he's a decent, normal guy.

So tell me:
-Your opinion on this situation of mine?
-How would YOUR parents react if you were in this situation?
-And your opinions on Internet relationships.

;O Whoa.

• I can't really say I can relate because I've never really fallen in love with a guy online. I mean, I've made some good guy friends online, but nothing really beyond that.
  
  I certainly agree with your choice on not telling your mom though =3. I mean, why should you now? If you tell her though, you should do it in the event that you two want to meet up in real life.
  
  I'm sure you've heard this line a million times ><;;
  but
  "BE CAREFUL!"
  
  My parents would full on freak out on me if I was in love with a guy over the internet O___x. Only recently did they even let me date guys in real life xD.
  
  Anyways, just be safe and I hope it all turns out for the best ;D

You can never be to sure of someone over the internet no matter how long you've known them.
Just recently at my school *Before school ended* We had a police officer come to my High School & chat about online predators.
From the information he was giving us, an Online predator will follow or "talk" to someone fro as long as they want, just as long as they know they could possible get somewhere with that other person.
But their are some who just get a kick out of talking to younger girls/boys.

If I was in your position I wouldn't meet up with him, you may be "In Love" but how can you be fully in love with someone you've never met, seen , cuddle with, or kissed?
I would stick with boys who live near you. Besides it's much safer then trying to meet a man who've you've only "talked" too.
Oh & if he's shown you a picture, he could have easily googled it on the internet, or used another picture from another person that he's talked too.
Like I said, you can NEVER be to sure. So it's best to be careful & never meet.

Originally Posted by Kooky

internet relationships never work :] i dont really think its healthy to "date" and "be in love" with somone over the internet. it just doesnt seem... right o.O i think you need real social interaction. if you guys meet up one day and you really are in love then great. but im just saying, dont take it 'too' seriously until you two actually meet. but more back on subject... telling your parents?.. hmm.. i think it might be a little embarresing.. but i think it depends on how old you are.

i never ment to offend anyone with this message, just speaking my opinions.

what would you define as "work" though? ive been with my internet boyfriend for like four years or something.

Your opinion on this situation of mine?
I think your fine, if you did checks on him and talked with his mom your in good hands. Heck, I met my boyfriend online, because all the local guys in my town are jerks. Anyway, I asked my guy the list of 100 questions you should ask someone before you start a online relationship and it worked like a charm.
How would YOUR parents react if you were in this situation?
My mom was skeptical at first, but she knew I'm not dumb and I wouldn't do anything stupid.
And your opinions on Internet relationships.
I think if you take the right steps and don't give away your personal info until you've either met or talked to in real life (that's what I did and it worked.)
Hint: If you are gonna randomly meet people you've met go with a friend and go to a place away from your residence.

I fell in love with someone and am dating him over the internet, have
been for over a year and a half now. And even though he lives so far away, I
know that he is not a pedophile or anything like that. I've talked to him on the
phone and I talk to him a lot, besides if he was a pedophile I think he would have
given up on getting me quite a while ago. xD


I told my mother about it and she was fine with it. :] She didn't freak
out or anything, she just said "Oh really? o.o"
She knows that I'm pretty level headed and that I know what I'm doing, she
trusts me.