I posted this on Gaia and I'm posting it here.

I just spent a week on vacation with one of my best friends. It was an awesome time, no doubt, but I noticed my friend isn't the same person she was a year ago (we didn't speak much in the past year because of our assorted activities).

On the outside she's a little chubbier (2 years ago we were the same height and weight, now she's an inch taller than me and about 15 or 20 pounds heavier) but she looks the same.

But when I talked to her-she just wasn't the person who was like my twin barely a year ago. She spaced out a lot while I was speaking (which, admittedly, isn't something new for her, and I'm guilty of doing that as well, but she's doing it more often). She spent more time vegetating in front of the computer than is normal, even for her. She seemed to care more about writing her story, reading Naruto fanfictions, and working on her profile here on Gaia than talking to me. She would do those things, or pick up a book, while I was talking. She seemed to get annoyed at me more easily (I'm a very random and annoying person, but she seemed to get bored with me quicker). When we actually had a decent conversation, I could see the person she used to be for a little while-I could see my best friend. But that person was gone as quickly as they appeared.

I know I've changed over the past year-my sense of humor is more perverted and I'm less likely to trust people because of some unrelated events that went on last year. But I'm still the same basic person. She's totally different unless you dig really deep. I'm at a complete loss-do I get over it and accept that people-especially teenagers-change? Or do I let her know how I feel?

I don't know if letting her know how you feel will really make much a difference, especially since it appears she changed for the worse. Most teenagers who are told they have changed over some period of time deny it and get pissed off by that. Dramadrama at school with the whole changing thing ><; And I was always stuck in the middle. xD

Originally Posted by Lulu

I don't know if letting her know how you feel will really make much a difference, especially since it appears she changed for the worse. Most teenagers who are told they have changed over some period of time deny it and get pissed off by that. Dramadrama at school with the whole changing thing ><; And I was always stuck in the middle. xD

Yeah I know. I'm always the one that doesn't change. Blah. What's wrong with being the same person for more than a few months?

People change. People around that age change dramatically. I know when I went from middle school to high school I changed so much people didn't recognize me. I went from being a secluded loner to a fashionable social butterfly.

If you and your friend were older, maybe I'd have different advice. But for now it's just something you'll have to accept; nothing is going to stay the same forever. Change doesn't have to be bad. It's just.. different. You and your friend might not be as close, but I'm barely friends with the same people I was a few years ago either. Don't worry about who's your friend today, and who's your friend tomorrow; just go with the flow. You'll know who your true friends are when years go by and they're still coming to your house.

Shes Changing.
thats it.
We all Change.
My Best friend That I've known for 10 years Noticed that I changed.
I Became Quilter and a bit Darker.
We Still talk shes still like my litter sister.
but were not as close.
She became a Happy-go-lucky person.
Shes Still the same little Shit i grew up with.
Just Older and Wiser.
Our Paths Changed.
You and your Friends Paths have Changed.
You just can't let that put a damper on your Friendship.

It happens, all people's personalities morph. My best friend and I changed right in front of each other, so much so that we're no longer friends because our personalities became something incompatable. People can go from like sisters to something the other just really doesn't want to hang out with anymore.

People told me that you lose your high school friends. It's not always true, but when it is, I don't think it's always because of college and moving away and I think it's because we grow up and sometimes we grow up in a different direction and just move on.

Ah, these things happen.

Like clockwork.

I can see friendships and literally predict when they will be over based on my high school and middle school experiences.

And I have done it more times than i wish.

But these things are bound to happen unfortunately.

That happened to me 3 few times. I lost a lot of my best friends to the dark side :(. Amanda was my best friend for two years in high school and we would talk about everything. She was athletic and tom-boyish. Now she puts on a lot of make-up, drinks, does shisha and a lot of other things. I missed her and was sad for a whole summer. I felt like people get bored of me eventually. I rarely change that much in a short period of time. I'm a stable rock that everyone can count on but when it comes to me needing someone to pull me out when I'm drowning, noone is there except for my mom. Soemtimes i feel happy and popular, other times I feel sad because I make a lot of new best friends but I still would rather have a best friend that I've known and understood for years! Maybe moving a lot is a factor too but they shouldn't just stop talking to me just because I'm not in their class anymore!

You'll move on, you'll get really close to another person soon. Unless you're like me and wants to hang onto good memories and want to stay friends. It hurts especially since we put so much value into a friendship and then you see the other person just throw it away like it was something useless or else they are your friends some days and then other days, they ignore you. Your friend should know that having pixels on gaia isn't as important as your friendship. Her loss, anyways.

People change over time. :[

I used to have a friend that I was really close with. We shared the same interests, liked doing the same things, had the same mannerisms. I think we might have been too alike. :/

Then we had a disagreement...not an actual fight, though...

Two years later, and we're as different as night and day.

I've started to become more interested in fashion, she's not. I've branched out, while she hasn't. :/ I think that I may have matured a little faster than she did, since she has a habit of making inappropriate comments at times...which really makes people dislike her. ;w;

Maybe you could talk to your friend about the situation, but don't address it as a problem.

maybe you could just start reminiscing about the past. xD; bring up topics about what you used to do, and how much fun you two had.

But like others have said, we all change. :] Don't let it ruin your friendship.

Originally Posted by Azureile

People change over time. :[

I used to have a friend that I was really close with. We shared the same interests, liked doing the same things, had the same mannerisms. I think we might have been too alike. :/

Then we had a disagreement...not an actual fight, though...

Two years later, and we're as different as night and day.

I've started to become more interested in fashion, she's not. I've branched out, while she hasn't. :/ I think that I may have matured a little faster than she did, since she has a habit of making inappropriate comments at times...which really makes people dislike her. ;w;

Maybe you could talk to your friend about the situation, but don't address it as a problem.

maybe you could just start reminiscing about the past. xD; bring up topics about what you used to do, and how much fun you two had.

But like others have said, we all change. :] Don't let it ruin your friendship.

Your old friend sounds like me, except I'm the girlier of the 2 of us (I actually own a skirt and a few purses).

I have a habit of doing that anyway, but it doesn't seem to have any affect. She'll laugh if it's something funny we did, or whatever the appropriate reaction is, but it doesn't do anything.

I hate change with a fiery passion. It brings so much more bad than good. Blah.

Originally Posted by Queen Fool

I hate change with a fiery passion. It brings so much more bad than good. Blah.

That's extremely true, but change is something we don't have control of.

Grab your hardhat. This is life, and it's going to be rough :[ Think, though, it could be worse. It could always be worse. Work around change, because life isn't going to mold to how we want it, unfortunately.

Maybe try talking to her and see if she has anything on her mind.