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neur0mancer 08-15-2007 11:10 AM
Stupid relationship issues. >_>
 
So, Ive been having some.. relationship issues.
I had a boyfriend, we broke up because of some certain issues, he started dating someone else, says hes unhappy with her and wants to break up. His current girlfriend has been out of state for a while.
SO.
YEAH.
I wrote a letter to him, but im not exactly sure how good it is, and I wanted you all to at least take a glance at it and see if Im getting a good point across. o_o;
And here is the said letter (Which has mature language, heads up.)
http://www.freewebs.com/arccy/ReadItOrDie.doc

I promise its not a virus. A prompt will come up asking you to save or open, it doesnt matter what you choose. :3

While youre here, after you've all read it, do you have any advice on what I should believe? o_o;

Nathuram 08-15-2007 03:09 PM
I only skimmed through it, and there's already so many things wrong D:

Don't write a letter like that. No matter how frustrated you may be now, your opinions could change in the future and he could still have a grudge about that letter. Then what? If you're going to write a letter that could be remembered months from now, then write it without so much profanity and passionate emotion.

I only skimmed it, so I'm not entirely sure what the point was you wanted to send.. but a simple "If you want to be with me, you're going to have to earn my trust. It wont be easy, and it wont be overnight." would suffice.

Seriously, if you send that letter.. you'll feel powerful for a couple of days, but you'll regret it majorly at some point.

life in red and black 08-15-2007 06:35 PM
this is stuff you should say in person...

I skimmed the letter too and unless you really want to make this relationship go bad and unfriendly...

I wouldn't write something like that unless you have the guts to tell it too him.

Since you still have feelings for him, and you know he's using it, ignore him and wait until your feelings have dampened.

since you think that's how he's like, you should be smart and know it's a bad idea to get back with him while his gf is out of town.

neur0mancer 08-16-2007 02:12 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Nathuram
I only skimmed through it, and there's already so many things wrong D:

Don't write a letter like that. No matter how frustrated you may be now, your opinions could change in the future and he could still have a grudge about that letter. Then what? If you're going to write a letter that could be remembered months from now, then write it without so much profanity and passionate emotion.

I only skimmed it, so I'm not entirely sure what the point was you wanted to send.. but a simple "If you want to be with me, you're going to have to earn my trust. It wont be easy, and it wont be overnight." would suffice.

Seriously, if you send that letter.. you'll feel powerful for a couple of days, but you'll regret it majorly at some point.
Ugh, i know. But this seems like this is the only way I can tell him something like this without him freaking out on me. If he doesnt want to talk to me for a week or so, thats fine, at least i know he gave the letter a thought...? D:

neur0mancer 08-16-2007 02:14 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by life in red and black
this is stuff you should say in person...

I skimmed the letter too and unless you really want to make this relationship go bad and unfriendly...

I wouldn't write something like that unless you have the guts to tell it too him.

Since you still have feelings for him, and you know he's using it, ignore him and wait until your feelings have dampened.

since you think that's how he's like, you should be smart and know it's a bad idea to get back with him while his gf is out of town.
Yeah, I know its a bad idea. Thats why Im making him wait until shes back to make his decision.
I do have the guts to tell it to him in person, but I currently cant. Its not like we see eachother every other day. D:

Nathuram 08-16-2007 02:15 AM
Well if the incident was just recent.. give it a few more days to think it over. When you want to write something that could affect the long term, it's best not to write the emotions you feel right now in the moment.

If you only take one piece of advice from me, let it be that you give it a few days before you act.


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