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Dating Problems :/
There is this guy who I'm pretty sure likes me, he was playing his guitar to me on the phone and then he had finished he told me,” This weekend I played my guitar in front of thirty strangers, and the odd thing was I wasn’t no where near as nervous as I am now."
And of course I was just about stunned because he is constantly picking on me about stupid things. I keep trying to tell myself that I don't like him but it hurts, I don't want to get involved with him because he smokes ((Were 16)) and is constantly talking about sex and girls. I know I shouldn't get involved with him, but he is so sweet and he know what to say and when to say it. Thats not even my only problem, well I have dial-up and me and him were talking and he said something that made me laugh, and all of a sudden the line went dead, my little sister had unplugged the phone to get on the internet, so I plugged the phone back in and called him back and told him I was sorry and what had happened and I said, "Hey, I'm gonna go so my little sister can get on the internet, okay?" and he said no, so I laughed figuring he was kidding around and said I would call him back later, and he told me not to bother, so I was like okay..... and we said our goodbyes. I don't know if that is looking to much into it but it kinda hurt and he said no to bother so cold before he went back to his normal tone, and even then he sounded troubled. I know it sounds like an obvious answer, but I want other peoples opinions before I completely make up my mind. And another thing I want to know is why do ALL men/boys have to ruin a good friendship to ask you out and make everything awkward! |
He definitely likes you. He probably picks on you because he wants to find a way to be close to you, but he's nervous. Since you talk to him on the phone, and he said he was nervous playing for you, I'm going to assume that he does like you, and he is nervous about it.
If you like him but don't want to be with him just because he smokes and talks about sex alot, then tell him that. If he really likes you he can give up smoking. And if you tell him to not talk about sex and girls as much, he'll probably stop. If he tries to make sexual advances on you, tell him no. He'll listen. Trust me. I used to be one of the most lustful person I knew. In my current relationship, which has lasted three months so far and isn't fading away anytime soon, my girlfriend isn't a very sexual person, and has told me she doesn't want to do sexual things until a certain time months into the future. I've accepted that. So I've gone to being an extremely sexual person to someone who doesn't think of sex that much because of her. And that little incident with "don't bother" doesn't seem like a big deal. If I know guys, and I do, he probably forgot about the whole thing. He's probably sitting in his room right now feeling stupid and wondering how he can make it up to you. Either that, or he said it because he didn't think you should go out of your way for him. I don't know the person, and you do, so I'll let you make up that conclusion. I'm really sexist towards guys (I'm a guy, I know :[), but go for it. He seems like a nice guy, and I'm sure you can help him with his small issues if he truly likes you. Plus you guys are young, so it probably wont last that long. In a few weeks, or months, it could be over. Try it out, see how it goes. |
i think hes wasnt really seriously about the whole guitar thing..xD
sounds super corney to me.:P but mabey im wrong!;o + i wouldnt wanna go out with someone who smokes.xD there clothes smell like smoke,and there mouth would smell like smoke.;p but if you like him or what every give him a chance? |
@Nathuram- True, and he is sweet, but I don't want him to change on my behalf, when my mother quit smoking she got moody and screamed a lot.
@Stewart- I guess it sounds abit corny x3 But I thought it was cute |
He's young. He probably doesn't have nearly as much to stress about as your mother does if he quits. Plus smoking is extremely unhealthy. So even if you help him quit and wind up not being together, it'd still benefit him.
If you don't want him to change on your behalf, even if that change would be beneficial, then you probably don't really want to be with him. Let him down softly, but make the point clear. If you do it, do it soon. It's bad to lead him on, then later on tell him you don't want to be with him. |
He probably likes you alot. He seems sweet and wants to get to know you more. And guys tend to go for girls they are friends with. I date a guy who was my bestest friend for years. We have been dating for 4 years and still going strong. Its alot better to since you know the person more and comfortable with them.
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He pretty obviously likes you, and as you said he smokes, and talks about sex and girls. The sex and girls part is normal for boys his age, the smoking is a tad irregular, but a lot of underage teens do it. Maybe if you got with him, and voiced your opinion that you disliked his smoking he'd stop. Boys being cold with what they say happens a LOT, they don't know how to say stuff, and they get awkward, they mean it maybe 10% of the time, and maybe he did, but maybe you should call him back anyways. Show him you possibly have feelings for him, flirt back if you like him, it's not that difficult to wrap a guy around your finger. It's fairly amusing too...
Well good luck anyways. |
I think he likes you. Boys often tease you when they like you, you know. :]
As for the smoking problem...well, if you like him, why not give him a chance? And if you're dating him, try to get him off of drugs. :] |
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