:cry: ive never had a boyfriend and im 13 this is sooo not fair * crawl up in a ball in the corner and crys*

You're too young to be worrying about this yet. If you were 43 then I'd feel a little sympathy but you're barely hitting puberty. Just chill out and young love will come to you if it's meant to be.

I moved this to the life issues forum since it is one of those life issue type things...

Don't cry about not having a boyfriend. They'll come around soon enough. *runs out before the mommy voice starts going*

Sweetie - I didn't get my first boyfriend until I was 18.


Take a deep breath and relax. You don't need a boyfriend yet. You can live a perfectly full and fun life without one. So enjoy your single life while you still can! There's no reason to chain yourself down yet, especially if you start dating a guy just for the sake a dating a guy.

Trust me - It'll all happen before you know it. Just give yourself a bit of time.

I didn't get a boyfriend until I was 17. Ya know what....It's nothin to be all that excited about. I'm settled down and married now. Very happy. The actual dating.....Guys are messed up. It's a big emotional roller coaster. And it's not really something I recommend accompanying with puberty. My sis in law tried that.......Twins at 16. Not pretty.

>>;; In my opinion, guys are stupid and often a waste of time.

I didn't start "dating" until I was fifteen. However, I did acquire my first "boyfriend" at the age of thirteen.

That was probably the biggest mistake I've made yet. It was an elementry thing. I didn't even know what was going on. I got asked one day by one of my friends if I liked this one boy in class. I said yes, but only as a friend, and it completely blew out of porportion. By lunch, I was "dating" the guy. I didn't understand what was going on, and I didn't understand why everyone was saying things about us.

The boy and I were very good friends. He had his relationship troubles and I'm generally one of the people that most people go to to vent to. And because of that, I spent a lot of time with him trying to help him sort out his problems.

Anyway. I truely regret letting that get that far. Nothing happened, but my first relationship lasted until the end of my fourteenth year - I still hadn't been able to figure out how it was that we got together.

At that age, I really couldn't do much. And in my opinion, what good is a relationship where you can only spend time together at school? I'm still not allowed to date, but I am currently in a relationship. I can honestly say that this one is by far better than the rest - mainly because I now have the modes of transportation (without my parent's consent.) to see him and to spend time with him.

In the past though, the guys I've dated have done horrible things. We wern't mature enough to handle it...they cheated on me...etc etc. --shurgs-- Most guys are stupid, but if you give it more time, you'll have the knowledge to pick the "unstupid" ones out from the rest.

• Seriously. You're being trapped by society into thinking that you must have a boyfriend. Avoid the trap and live without society's restrictions if possible. It's nice to be able to move around a bit.
  
  I'm a guy. I've had "girlfriends" in the past, but havn't really started dating. I'm 15. My life kinda can be screwed up, but acctually, part of that was from getting a girlfriend. It eventually kinda didn't work out and now I rarely see her. Yes, we talk and such and still are friends (thankfully), but we can't talk as much as we did before.
  
  
  
  So pretty much, don't worry about it. Just let life flow and you'll eventually find someone you think is right for you. :3

Listen, Im 13 too, Ive had boyfriends before, but I found out it was a REALLY bad idea. Its too young to start dating now. *hits you on the head*

You dont need a "boyfriend" to go on living or be accepted, or such.

Making posts like this on the internet only backs up the fact that you're probably not mature enough to have one yet. :|

Sugar, at age 13, boys are the least of your worries. You're too young to be worrying about boys and dating. You should be more worried about getting through school, not that all the other girls have already had a boyfriend and you haven't.

In truth, most of those relationships are so on and off that it isn't even worth it. How often do you see younger couples trading in their boyfriend for a new model in a month or two? I can remember my friends and their dating ordeals, and believe me, it was so much drama that no one even wanted to get up in the morning to have to deal with it.

My first boyfriend came at age 13 or so, and like you, I just wanted a boyfriend because I felt that I should have one because I wasn't good enough. Well, here's the short story of what happened: I was one of six girls that he had tried to ask out and the only one stupid enough to say yes because I felt pressured. During the time that we were 'dating' which was a whole two days, he asked out four other girls behind my back, and wrote a note to two of them right in front of me (we were sitting at the same table) asking them out. (I know because I snatched it and read it. The moron actually used the same note for both girls, too.)

Boys your age are far too imature to even be worth dating, so just hold off until a nice, mature guy that you really like comes around and then start thinking about boyfriends. It isn't the end of the world if you don't have one, sometimes you're better off.

Everyone is right, you don't need a boyfriend. I'm 17 and I've only been in 3 relationships, none of them serious at all. My longest lasted a month, and God knows how that even lasted that long! I haven't dated anyone for 3 years now and I'm happy as ever. All of my friends are totally run by boys and I just sit back and watch it and learn from their stupid mistakes. Trust me, most guys are totally turned off by girls who are boy crazy. Just let the right guy come along and you will know if he's right to date. For now, just sit back and enjoy your life the way it is as much as you can.

Your still young and having a boyfriend isn't always the right choice.
Stuff happens and things go wrong.
I've never had a boyfriend and i don't think i will for awhile either
Dx
But i don't need or want one.

Boys take a lot of time out of your education because you'll want to be with him a lot.

Also i heard that breaking up is hard also

Don't try and be like the other girls
You should be proud your Single

Why do you feel you need a boyfriend at thirteen? You're not even in high school yet. It seems like kids are getting younger and younger and wanting things like boyfriends and stuff when they're still not very mature yet. I was eleven when I got my first boyfriend, in middle school, but I don't think I was exactly mature enough. XD I wasn't even all that interested in boys at that age, but he was nice, but it didn't last. A few years later I finally found the right guy. Sometimes you just need to wait. If you do get a boyfriend right now, how serious is that even going to be? Really at thirteen I wasn't all that interested in boys still, it wasn't until at least a year later that I was. You have plenty of time to worry about things like that later.

Dude...>.> I've yet to date anyone, I'm 16.

It's not that out of the norm, really. No need to get worked up.

You're only 13, relax you really don't need the complication of a boyfriend. Have fun, enjoy life with your friends, worry about school and your grades. A boyfriend will come in time.

I'm seventeen and I haven't had a boyfriend.

Why do you want one at your age?
Just because you find it "ag" or "cool" or whatever else people call it where you live.

A boyfriend should not be thought as an item to collect.
When you meet someone you fall in love with, you should like them for them and not for the whole "OMGZ!1!!!1 I haz byfrein!!11" factor.

Originally Posted by Sanctuary

A boyfriend should not be thought as an item to collect.

Completely, completely agreed.

Just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean that you have a meaningful relationship. Just because you have a meaningful relationship doesn't mean that you have a boyfriend. One should never be directly associated with the other.

... You know, that makes me feel horrible. I'm 19 and I have never had anything remotely close to a boyfriend... You are 13, not 30 and remember that.

Thirteen is a bit too young i think... I just became 15 myself and i've haqd one girlfriend, about half a year ago. But she broke up with me again after about two weeks because she said she found out she was still in love with her ex... I felt sad for almost a week. can you believe that? a relationship of two weeks can cause you a whole week of sadness? :? its just not worth it... since then I just let my life flow on and i'm sure that one day or another i'll meet that special person. but i'm not ready for it now. You realy shouldn't hurry trying to get a boyfriend, just take it easy and wait til you find someone that you realy love and who realy loves you. I know I'm telling exactly what everyone else said, but its the truth, its as simple as that...

I'm 21 and i just got my first BF a few months ago. He's great, but it's alot of work. You're thirteen, you shouldn't have to worry about that stuff yet.

WHAT THE HELL.
You're 13 and your sad because you've never had a boyfriend?!
What has this world come to..
First off..nobody under 13 should have a boyfriend, I mean, you're not even a teenager, and, 13 is still too young to have a boyfriend/girlfriend. 14 is even a bit young. Wait until you're 15.

I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 15 and a half. There is not point to them really though. You don't date someone just because you want to have a boyfriend, you date someone because you can see yourself having a future together. I'm so sick of girls dating who ever askes them out just because they want to have a boyfriend! Then they get all hurt when he does something stupid when they never even liked him in the first place. :/
My first boyfriend was a guy I really cared about and I wanted to date him for almost a year before we actually started going out. 3 years later we were married.
PLEASE don't get a boyfriend just for the status of having a boyfriend. It's honestly no the brightest thing to do. Get a boyfriend because you care about the guy and he cares about you.

Settle down... I had my first boyfriend at 13 and boy do I regret him!
I've had many in the two years since then but by saying that there were many, that means that there were many that didn't work out.
Just remember that everything happens for a reason and if you try to rush into these things you are likely to make the wrong decision.
But if you get out there and meet new people and really socialise then I'm sure that you'll find someone.
I remember back at 13 you always feel pressured to do things that are really stupid when they will happen at your own time.
Just don't feel pressured.

Being 13 all you are meant to be worried about is school, friends and what you are meant to be wearing the next day. Not to belittle your problem or anything but its just that you are too young, (I believe anyways) don't worry about boyfriends as you will soon learn that all they will bring is heartache and problems if you start out too soon.

Relax, darling. You're only thirteen. Not having a boyfriend at your age should not be at the top of your list of worries.
It'll be a few years before any of your relationships have any degree of seriousness anyway. This isn't meant to be taken offensively or anything of the like, but it doesn't sound like you're mature enough to be in a relationship at the moment.

13 year old boys.. they're idiots anyway. Why would you WANT one of them?