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I work 12 hours a day and i hate it
yes i simply hate the fact of not having time for myself and not enough to share with my wife and parents in law which I love.
I work with my father who I hate 12 hs a day in a clothes shop, it is not what i like I studied to be a computers engineer that is what I like and not selling clothes, but well he needs me and it is not that cause i could have sent him to hell it is the fact that i make considerabily more money with him than anywhere working with computers (wich I already tried doing) I have also tried working on my own but it is not enough to support my family. I hate this and try to spend every free sencond enjoying life but the time I spent outside it is just too much.... Apart from all these I am thinking in the future, when i have kids what will I do? I wont stand the fact of not seeing them in the whole day and probably when i come back home after 45 minites driving it will be like 9 pm and they will be sleeping...I wont be an absent father no.... And if you are thinking why dont you go talk to your fahter....welll it is just impossible...he is just the most cruel careless demon on earth...it is true...dont make me make a list of all the things he has done for me to call him that because it is huge. man my life is just too hard sometimes...i see my wife suffering cause she missed me and the only times I have for "myself" are like 2 hs a week total in periods of 1/2 hour top per time and that is if I stay awake till 2am after trying to deal with house and family issues.... Need Advice....thanks |
I am not sure what to suggest to fix your situation immediately, but would you be able to set aside a bit of your pay into a good savings account? That way you'll have something to back you up while you get established in the computer business and then when kids come you won't have to be absent. And I know you don't like your father, but it might help to try to talk to him, if you haven't already. It could backfire, it did with me and my mom, but maybe you'll have better results?
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I work 12 hours a day too. So I know what your saying about having no time at all it seems like all I do is work! Especially as I live over an hour away from work and I work nights so even on my days off I have trouble socialising because I only wake up at 6pm!
I don't know what to suggest though. I love work. Maybe if you train in the management area you could move from working 12 hours a week at lowly wages and for your dad and work as a supervisor somewhere else. In computers? Supervisors earn a fair bit of money and usually have to work with computers if it's in a computing enviroment so you'd be doing what you love for a better wage and less hours, only you'd have more responsability as you'd be responsable for a team... |
thanks for trying guys! I am thinking of talking to him (my dad) and ask for less hors thing is that the agreement for a rise was to work this amount of hours >.< jesus I really wish I could be in charge of the shop and he could retire, that way it wouldnt be so bad with him being other place.
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I think maybe if you can spare it work less hours, or take a day off during the week if you are able to. You are not living to work, you are working to living and its hard. I also work about twelve to thirteen hours a day but I am not married or have any children that I need to worry about, sure I have a fiance and a family to work with but I live with my fiance and see him when I come home from work which is great. I also get the weekends off so I can organize seeing family and friends around that time.
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