this is from gaia..but I wanted to hear a response from others.

here it is:

Hi LI. I am a 16 year old girl, who really needs help. I don't know why I'm comeing here because I know I can help myself but with this thing, I can't. Its about a boy, not a boy a man, a full grown man. Well this issue that you will read is not a lie, nor is it bullshit. THIS IS REAL. Oh yes he's 6 years older then me.

I've been with this guy for about 6months, he's an online bf, I've seen him on cam (no need to worry what he looks like), but here's the thing, we do some bad stuff, we know its bad and so on. I don't have cam so I'm out of luck, but I do have a video camera, so I use that so he can see me, and I do bad things for him in the videos. I've told him that I didn't know what I wanted, or I'm confuse about all of it, and we talked about it but we got in a fight because I was mad at him, and I wanted to tell him, but I couldn't cause I thought I would lose him if I did, and I was scared to tell even more stuff. And when he ask me to do it, he acts all sweet and stuff, and he does the same for me, he does stuff for me too. He tells me he loves me, and I love him. He says that he wants to make me happy in my life, and give me everything in my life. But does he just say this to get the videos? He's sweet, he's kind, he cares for others, and he's a Muslim, that's another thing I wanted to say, it was Ramadan, and he couldn't do anything bad, and so I didn't do anything bad too because I care alot about him, so we just didn't do anything, so when we weren't doing anything, it was just us talking, and I think we got along with each other even more, and loved each other more.

But anyway my friends tell me its rape, is it? To me I think it isn't, I think he just wants me to love him in that way, in all kinds of ways, and I would like that, but there's so many things that's wrong with it. He does the same like I said, and he does his best to love me.

This guy is my first bf, he's helped me, I know I've changed alittle since I've known him, and I'm more happy with my life, and I believe in myself more. I love him with all my heart. And don't tell me that he's selling the videos, or that he wants to just have fun, he's been with me for 6months now! So I don't think a guy who just wants alittle fun would stay in a relationship for this long.

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She's nuts! She really does need some help.
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Rape is bad :3

You should put that in quotes, because I saw in another thread someone getting in trouble for not quoting, and having the gold they got from posting taken away.

That should have been quoted, yeah, but getting to the actual topic...

well, the girl's right about it not being rape, not if she's agreeing to it, but I think she is kind of nuts for agreeing to it. She has no idea what he could be doing with the videos, and six months isn't really long, not in terms of proving "this isn't a scam"--there are people who keep up online facades for years.

She's not crazy. This is what's happening:

- Manipulation of a minor by an adult
- Sexual abuse on a minor
- Rape (not physically but mentally)
- Child abuse

This man should be reported and kept away from her at all costs. Authorities NEED to be made aware of this. She hasn't done anything wrong. She needs support and attention from her family is all.

Originally Posted by Anahita

She's not crazy. This is what's happening:

- Manipulation of a minor by an adult
- Sexual abuse on a minor
- Rape (not physically but mentally)
- Child abuse

This man should be reported and kept away from her at all costs. Authorities NEED to be made aware of this. She hasn't done anything wrong. She needs support and attention from her family is all.

I agree with you right there. She needs help, and the man needs to find a real girl.

Originally Posted by Anahita

She's not crazy. This is what's happening:

- Manipulation of a minor by an adult
- Sexual abuse on a minor
- Rape (not physically but mentally)
- Child abuse

This man should be reported and kept away from her at all costs. Authorities NEED to be made aware of this. She hasn't done anything wrong. She needs support and attention from her family is all.

This is exactly now I feel...the girl is just being foolish.

Millions of Muslim full grown men add me on msn (I have no idea HOW they get my msn..) and tell me they love me and they want to make me happy and act all sweet when they see me on cam, even though I'm 14 and they're freaking 40. Its manipulation. He has a fetish for younger children. He really DOES love her, but this love wasn't meant. He wouldn't go out with a woman his age, hes not into that. Instead he wants to wank off to a kid less then half his age.
It's terrible, this girll will NEVER meet him and will never have a real, meaningful relationship with him.
She's not crazy, shes being fooled by this man. Most girls can get fooled and manipulated when it comes down to love. All a girl wants in life is to be admired by someone, and for her, she thinks the only guy she can catch is him, and fears if she loses him, she'll never find love again.
Its quite sad, actually. She needs to talk to her parents about it.

Since that isn't your writing, I've put it all in quotes.

The girl isn't crazy, not at all. She's just young and a bit confused. The man hasn't done anything directly to her, nor physically hurt her, so I don't see how it could constitute as rape. She is simply allowing herself to be taken in by a relationship that will most likely not work out. From the information given, it seems that he is using her for excitement. I wish I could help her out.

Wouldn't something like this fall into statutory rape? Meh, I'm unsure, and honestly, I don't even get the vibe that he's using her, more the vibe that she's not emotionally ready for a "bad things" (sexual) relationship.

My being naive is a possibility too, though.

No, your not crazy, But you should be carefull. The most important thing is NOT TO MEET HIM! Dont meet him in real life!

Just because you have been together for 6 months does not mean anything, that is not along time, some child molester have been at it for years. That really means nothing.

You say he's nice? understanding? cares for people? trustworthy? So did many other girls. They got raped.

You do not know what is happening with or to the tapes that you send him, he could be selling them to his freinds as porn or something along thoes lines. You have no way of knowing in they are staying with him only.

Do not be niave, he might not be as nice as you think he is. Everyone says "it will never happen to me." well, it might! Thoes girls im sure said the same thing. It helped them alot, ne?-.-

He is an adult and you are a minor, even if he does love you and has nothing bad in mind (cough, cough) it still an illegal relationship.

Suggestion, ask him if you can just remain freinds untill you become an adult. Then meet him. in the mean time TAKE MARTIAL ARTS! Or at least a very good self defence cass. Dont tell him either. so if he does try and rape you, you can kick his ass.
If he really does love you, and is as nice and understanding as you say, he will wait for you. but if he pushes you to meet with him at any time, SAY NO!



If you have anymore questions or need to talk to someone, just pm me.

well im not shure if shes crazy it all depends on how you look at it im a littel uncomfertabel for me so i am going to stop talking no

I don't believe in internet relationships just on the factor if you haven't met them before then how do you really know who they are? doesn't matter on how old they are you can't trust them properly and he might have a wife and family or anything like that of his own. I think its sad that this girl is so desperate in wanting a relationship that she will go this far to be able to have one.

I feel sorry for her. I mean, the reason it's an online relationship is because it'd be illegal for the man [in most places] to be in this relationship. He's just taking advantage of her, and it's terrible. :(

I don't know if it's rape, but it certainly sounds like child pornography. He may be keeping the tapes and not posting them on the internet, but there's a chance he isn't. Plus, just the fact that he is keeping tapes of her doing things means he owns child porn. Which is gross. o.o;

I don't know that she is crazy, confused would probably be a better word for it. I don't understand why young girls let themselves get into "relationships" like that. That guy is probably older than he told her and he is definitely using her for the "sex" and he probably is selling the videos. I hope she got some decent advice from people instead of just being flamed by some of the stupid people who tend to go on Gaia and if she did, I hope she listened.