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The Whole BOY thing. { You like WHO?! D:< }
Okay so lets start off with the story:
Theres this boy, Matthew, in my swimming team and I am totally crushing on him. O.O He's tall, nice, really kind, never insults anyone and is very athletic. He would do anything for anyone and apperantly, he's easily manipulated. :/ Theres this girl, Erin, who's 2 years older then me/him and shes one of those over-weight, goth chicks who pretend they smoke and get high and drink and cut themselves just to get attention, even when EVERYBODY knows she's just an attention-seeking whore and would lie about doing illegal things to be accepted. She is also always going on about how she's actually one third chinese and that she was just adpoted by american parents, even though she has blonde/red hair, blue eyes and all the american features, plus she says she knows everything about the Chinese culture, but when I ask her about it or ask her if she knows any chinese language, she totally freezes up. All she does is put other people down. D< And apperantly, she hates me. :/ Prolly because shes jealous. 8D Anyways, all she ever does to me is call me names and make fun of me, and yet still calls me her friend, but I ignore her. I told my friends that I liked Matthew and eventually, Erin found out. She wouldn't and won't tell him, but instead, she'll do something worse. Since shes one of those excessive flirty girls who flirts with every guy, she made a plan to steal him away from me. D:< She hugs him, flirts with him, ALWAYS talks to him in front of me about sexual things, and always saying things about herself to him that make her seem really cool. Nobody believe her when she talks about these things, so I didn't really care, I thought he'd just brush her off, BUT HE BELIEVED HER! D:< And now he idolizes her as a "Cool" and "Worshipable" girl..and I'm starting to think hes falling in love with her..BUT HOW? SHES SO UGLY AND MEAN! SHE DOESN'T HAVE A CHIN! D:< Also, the thing with me is, I'm totally shy around him so I NEVER talk to him, whenever he says 'Hi' I blush all over, squeek hello and run away. D: I wish I could just talk to him normally, but i can't. ): It sucks..I want to know, how the hell do I make him realize the obvious about Erin? How do I get him back? How do I Talk to him? ERIN IS A BTCHO. D:< |
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Heh..sorry..I wanted gold. o3o
'Tie' post? o.o What 'tie' post do you mean..? |
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Oh yes. :3 *Looks at PM Box* 1 NEW MESSAGE. 8D I didn't even notice until now. >.> Heh..*Goes to read & Reply* :3 |
Wow That's very long, and very complidated D: I sympathize with you. There's this girl that I hate that calls herself my friend, and she's always tagging around with me, and claiming that all these guys like her, she's a horrible flirt, and if you say something bad about your day, she has to talk about all the bad things in her life just so people will pity her more, although half of those things more than likely never happened to her Dx All I can really say is just try and talk to him more... Be a flirt, let go, and try your hardest to just talk to him, even if it's only teasing him. I've learned that (most) guys like it when you're mean to them/tease them. I don't like any guys in my school, but there are a bunch of guys that talk to me, I'm just mean to them, and somehow they always stick around. x.x They're like irritating little gnats I tell you! D: Anywho, yeah... Just try and put yourself out there. Let it be known that you won't take her shit and that you'll stand up for yourself. Win him back! ;D |
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I'm good at teasing guys. x.x Hehe. Gnats. xD I WILL! *Must have Confidence* D< |
lol. Don't get too upset over it.
Like you said, she's an attention whore and that's why she's doing it. She know you hate it so she even enjoys doing it. My personal opinion is to not reaction such an immature act. Some people are attracted to drama, but me on the other hand tend to stay away from it. I mean, if this girl is that fat and ugly, why would the guy you like even bother to develop a feeling towards her. No? He's probably talking back to her because he's nice. |
@ Garret:
Yeah thats true. I just hope he doesn't have a fetish for X-L. D: There could be a chance hes talking to her from kindeness alone. Awwe. Hes so sweet. xD |
Oooh I HATE girls like that. Hate them with a passion. ALl I can 'say' is
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About the teasing thing, make sure not to over do it.
Too much drives 'em away. Just try to be bolder, more open and let him see his other (better C= ) option. Most guys that are worth anything prefer a girl that is herself. Even if he does gain an interest in her, as soon as he realizes shes not who she claims to be, he'll be on his way. So stay you, stay away from her, and let yourself shine. Oh and she might be trying to steal him just to prove she has some kind of worth. Some people think so little of them selves that only petty acts like this will make her feel as if she's special, by getting what you wanted she feels some sort of false accomplishment. |
that wasnt too much to read..not if you're crushing on someone at the moment as well..its intresting to read stories like that..but the hugging and flirting are things i daydream about doing im also the kind thats like 'sqeek' and runs away if he says something..i think maybe but im not sure..that guys maybe like the shy thing..i think you should get one of your really close friends to talk to him..he might see you in a whole new light :D
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Well... Girls like that either crash and burn or clean up their act eventually... *Remembers highschool* usually they crash and burn...
And the boys who are dumb enough to fall for them see their true colors in no time... And then dump their fat asses... My advice? DON'T SINK TO HER LEVEL! Don't talk bad about her to anyone ESPECIALLY that guy! It will just make you look petty. Instead, be a good friend! Get to know this guy for real, get over your shyness and just act like yourself. Infact try your best to forget that you are attracted to him at all. Just think of him as a fun guy you'd like to be friends with. I guarentee that eventually, if you two are meant for each other your really good friendship will turn into a really good relationship! |
Awww poop-ii <3
Tis nawt fair that Erins such a blish and yoor just trying to solve your poor heartache <33 I say, move on and wait till you get all sexay and hawt. Then give Mattew a piece of yoor mind? On second thought.. Just be yourself..you`ll move on when the time`s right :]] PS: The after-effects of a crush last 3 years aprox. :333 |
The after effects of a crush does not last three years, it lasts a life time, lol
nah just be honest and let your friends know whats going on inside of your head. Otherwise people won't learn from their mistakes if you can't communicate to them about it. Talking honestly will help most situations and problems I find. |
Ahhh ><
This is a pickle. competitive liars are a big problem when it comes to a girl's love life. Perhaps she thinks she can get your man by upstageing you, but actions speak louder than words- sometimes. Flirt with your crush, ESPECIALLY when she is around, but also when she isn't. If you flirt with her present, she might try to interrupt you, or, even better, flirt HARDER than you. This can be absolutely hilarious to watch, but she deserves it from what I gather. Also, try to set up more you&him hangout time. Without her. Even if you've got other friends with you. Catch a movie, go to the mall, anything entertaining where there is no threat of this chick bugging you two. A good way to keep her from finding out (I know this type of girl, they'll squeeze things out of ANYONE, and when your meet-up comes, there she is, and you have NO CLUE how she got there) is to plan these outings almost right before they happen, at most a day or two in advance- like, 'Hey, we're going to the mall tomarrow, want to come?'. But definetly don't sink to her level, no bad-talking her with ANYONE. Keep it subtle and less-than evil. Then he'll see that you are better than she is. <3 Hope that helped <3 (It probably didn't) |
Rip the stupid bitch apart.
Srsly. Don't take that crap. He's yourrrrrs. </worst help ever> No, really. Just talkkkkk to him. x3 He'll learn to love you more. Ignore the fact you like him and just think of him as another person. Like he is. o: |
I'm very sorry to hear that this hoebag is moving in on him. To boost up your social skills with this guy, try dressing more appealing. Not all skanked out but dress up a bit and see if he notices you. If he compliments you then say thank you and tell how nice he may look[if he looks nice anyway] and see if things take off from there. If not, say something else. Lol. It's hard to talk to boys, I know but you have to say SOMETHING. Squeaking out a 'hi' won't get him to talk to you. xDD As for Erin, I say we torch her house. Just kidding.
But really now try to make her look like a fool by cornering her in her own lie. If she knows so much about chinese culture, look some stuff up and the next day question her something easy and see if she knows anything. Even if she is 1/4 chinese, she's still white. << If she is even white. Anyway, quiz on some chinese culture and if she freezes up, follow that pause from her with a "Oh, so you don't know shit? I see. If you really knew chinese culture, you'd know blah blah blah." Not only will she look like an idiot but you will look better. :] I hope this helps! |
I wish you lots of luck with your boy...<3
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I use to have that problem .. But then she backed off and found a new "victim" and now I am becoming really good friends with him ^^
Talk to him slowly then eventually you will have convo's with him I am sure ^^ |
I'm sorry that's happening to you.
I'd be totally angry with her- I hate people that are like that. Make a really nice diss for her, to use against her. Lol. Anyways, try and convince Matthew about her. Maybe flirt with him some more? And dress pretty, like people said to you. About her- maybe you should flirt with her. That'll get her off. Lol. Good luck getting him back~ |
You, are probably going to need some help with this. My first advice is get buddies. then, the whole group of you ambush him, when Erin isn't around. Get his mind of Erin, away from Erin, and totally on you. Not too obviously. But still, start with a group of firends, and then have your buddies drop away one by one until it's just afew of you mad maybe even jsut ot you.
You can try subtle flirting techniques as well. such as smile at him, bite your lip a little and then look away. It's a coy action, but it works if your shy... <<;; No... I never used that before... Never...>>;; Also, you gotta stop being SCARED of Matthew. You're goign to make him think he's undesirable and weird-looking if you run away everytime he talks to you. It's the whole. "What, is there something on my face?" thing. |
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