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Is there something wrong with me? [very mature]
So recently I've noticed that I haven't been wanting sex so much or been all to horny. Which is a huge deal to me because usually within 1-2 days I'm wanting sex or is thinking a lot about it.
My boyfriend and I haven't had sex for...jeeze...I don't even remember. D: I think it was about 2 days before Halloween. He treated me with a nice licking but that was it. So I'm probably running on about 4-6 days without sex. We have sex very often but it's been kinda random over the past few weeks. On Halloween my boyfriend got his hair cut and the damn lady cut 4 inches off inside of 1. >< He looked completely different and he was very upset about it. It was almost to the point where if he wore his hair a certain way, I couldn't even recognize him anymore! It scared me to tears. ;-; After we both calmed down, we started to put on his make-up. He was going as a vampire, so I first added a light touch of red all around his eyes. And then lightly adding some black on his eye lashes. Once we finished, he looked like a real vampire. Now with this make-up on and his new styled hair (it had to be set a certain way so it doesn't look like it got cut) it made me want to just grab him and throw him on my bed. >w> But for some reason, I wasn't really feeling it. My mind went crazy and my heart started to beat extremely fast. But my urge for sex wasn't there. D: It was strange, I wanted to tackle him on Halloween and have sex where ever we were, even if it was in front of people! But I was basically dead on the horniness level. =/ Even today I was thinking about grabbing him in front of his friends (under the table. :P) and I kind of felt horny but it quickly died off. I did have the chance to treat him tonight but I decided not to since I didn't have the urge and or the horniness. D: So is there something wrong with me or do I just need go for it and build from there? Could it be because of his hair cut? Or what? >< Side-note; I might be having my period soon so would that cause anything? :o |
Hey Nea Nea, I don't think that there is anything wrong with you at all. We all want something different at different times is all. I have been with my fiance for a year and six months and we have been living together now for nine months. We used to have a huge sex life and would be at it like rabbits at least once every day but now we are lucky if we have the energy for it twice a week. I think you should just work at it and be honest about what you both want and need and what you are able to give,etc. I hope you work things out, you sound young and fun loving so I am sure you will.
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nothing wrong with you :3
completely normal. and yeah, I'm pretty much the same myself.. I feel kinda ashamed that I want so much sex, it sometimes feels like I'm DEMANDING sex or forcing my boyfriend to it. :/ and I really don't want that.. but I love to make love to him so much! and I feel so bad if he rejects me.. :/ he's that type who WANTS it when he can't have it, but when he can have it, he doesn't want it. >.> it's tiresome sometimes to be this "horny", and I have a pretty good idea about how you feel.. |
There's nothing wrong with you.
Same thing has actually been happening to me lately, too. I have a crazy huge sex drive, and lately, I just... haven't been in the mood. Of course, yesterday sex drive came right back full force. Just wait it out, and I'm sure it'll return. |
A fetish maybe? The thought of getting caught makes me go nuts kinda like what you're describing. There's also the mentality that you can't have it right then working against you. A you can't get what you want kinda thing. Do you think that could be it?
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I'm still a virgin, but I have a ton a friends into the sex scene. I agree with the rest of you, there's nothing wrong with you. I think your kinda just used to it so you don't get a kick out of it or don't get the urge at least. So try seeiing how long you can go, and it's almost certain eventually you'll get your urge back.
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Yeah, I think I was just worried that I might not be attracted to him after the brutal hair cut. D:
So I kept away from the thought of sex until I calmed down. But thankfully that went away and well my horniness got the best of me. >;D InYourMind; We use to try that but the thing is, my boyfriend and I always hit on each other. Even if it's just play or we're joking. It's actually really fun. Giving each other sexual looks, comments, touchy feely kind of stuff. So going as long as we could, it use to last only for about 4 days. lol This time it was a week. D: |
:shock: You're having sex? But what about waiting untill your married? ^^; Isn't that well wrong? I mean what if he isn't the guy you were destined to marry?
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Well first off, I wanted to wait for the right guy but one of my ex's forced me to have sex with him when I was 15. =/
I didn't want to but he well shoved me into the car... I would of liked to wait but as you can see, I couldn't. D: It's wrong to your moral standers, not mine. And here's a lil hint about my boyfriend and I, we know about the future. We've seen it, even when we weren't together. ;D My boyfriend is my soul mate and I'm in love with him so much that if I could, I would marry him right now. Destiny doesn't exist. If so, then what about the woman who get married to abusive men who don't give two shits about them? Are they suppose to marry someone that horrible? |
I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. And your period can have an effect on your sexual urges. Most women feel less of a sexual urge while on their period... I, however, am actually hornier while on my period. Thankfully I have a guy who has no problem with having sex while I'm menstrating.
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It's not terribly unusual. I think it's been a few months since my man and I got down, and we live together. Part of it is adjusting to being comfortable with each other. It could be time constraints, or just having other stuff to do. There are people who go their entire lives without sex. You went years, I'm sure. You're fine.
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To the thread creator- You are normal. People go through phases. You might have had a busy week, a stressful week, hormones from your oncoming period, or just never gotten the right moment. Though I have to say, if you want to throw your boyfriend down but think you just don't have the "oomph" to actually go through with anything afterwards... do it anyways. There are days I'm like "Meeeeeeh." But once I get going, everything comes back to me. =D |
Agreeing with Moonlight Silver. Sometimes your hormone levels are just a little bit off for any number of factors - it's not that you're abnormal, it's more that human beings are very delicate creatures so any flux in the amount of chemicals/hormones our bodies produce can totally throw us into a headspin.
I would just go for it and see if it doesn't build from there. Chances are you'll get warmed right up. Plus, adding some variety to the way you approach sex might help. :3 |
It could have a lot to do with the haircut, I have been there too. I also noticed pleasuring my man will turn me on a whole lot, so maybe try that ;)
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I dunno..I don't even have someone to hold..xP but I think if a woman knows the man is abusive and doesn't give them the time of day then they should dump them and find a guy who loves them for who they are. Sure people do hide things, but if someone's beating on you and you still marry them...then I really don't know what to say. ^^; |
Because no one else has brought it up: Are your by chance taking birth control pills? I ask because the hormones in the pill can really f-up your sex drive.
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Moonlightshadows
Well I have thought of what our supposedly honeymoon would be like, and I don't know what the hell we would do. But I'm sure sex for us will never get old. But there are harder things to get past then just dump the guy. Children, money, emotions, they are under law. It isn't so easy for someone in that state can just run away from him. Bippy Yes, I've been taking birth control for more then a year and I believe 4 months. They use to make things all fucked up but now I am stable and I know it's not the pills that are causing it. I think I was just nervous since we haven't had sex for awhile. |
Moonligthtshadows= rofl xD
Does anyone really believe that anymore? As long as you wear an off-white wedding dress instead of the traditional white, there's nothing wrong with it. (White at a wedding= virginity) Marriage isn't supposed to be a liscence to have sex. As I'm a virgin, I can't tell you what is normal ornot, but I've heard those urges run rampant at the begining of a relationship and gradually settle down. |
I do. People won't understand. But I choose to wait. I am probably one of the few guys out there that is a virgin. And I choose to wait because, my love will be the ultimate gift for her on my wedding night.
I can say 'I waited all my life and my love for you and ONLY you! I didn't run around with Sue, or have fun with Sally, my love now and forever will always be for just you.' Yes it sounds stupid and dumb, sure some people don't even give a hoot. But I do. People can have sex until they're blue in the face. They get drunk, they have sex. They feel horny, they have sex. Sex to people is just a 'fun' way of saying 'hello'. To wait until you're married to actually make love I think shows that you really, really love that person very much and will continue to love them for what they are inside. It's not always about appearance you know? I mean it's easy to sustain a thin stature now, but will you be able to hold onto that thin stature in 10 or 20 years? Let's face it, no matter how much you try to prevent wrinkles you do get them eventually. But now I'm getting off topic so sorry. |
I've had days where I wanted sexvery badly, but I just was not up for it. It happens to all women, I think. The best advice I can offer is, whenever you're not feeling it, ask yourself if there is a reason. If you want to really bad, let him touch you in your most sensitive spots. After that, you'll want to take him easily.
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No, I personally think there is NOTHING wrong with you. I go through these strange phases too...where I'll be REALLY horny and in the mood all the time, to the point where I want it more than my boyfriend does...and then there are other times where he'll be in the mood and I'll just be like...'don't touch me' and this will go on for a long time...not super long...like maybe a week. So it could be a phase with you...but maybe not. I would say just wait it out for a little bit (few days or even a week) and if you're STILL not feeling it, just talk to your boyfriend.
I'm sure he'll want to help you with your problem. |
I really dunno maybe they're both burned out? ^^;
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There's absolutely nothing wrong with it. It's the same with me. But, I get no joy out of making love at all. o.-; I just kinda do it for my man.
It might just be you calming down or something. Sex isn't everything, so don't worry about it. If he starts making a fuss, you don't need to be in the relationship anyway. The urge won't go away forever. Maybe your body just needs some cool down time. xD |
I don't think there is anything wrong with you and the fact that your period is happening has anything to do with anything so . Hope everything turns out OK . :D
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