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SerenityFTW 11-08-2007 12:19 AM

Should I tell him?
 
Anyone who has an account on Roli probably already knows my story. >w< I have a crush on this dude. We'll call him N - N is a senior, and I'm a freshman. I really like him, but I know it's a crush and that nothing will ever come of it. All I want is to be friends with him.
Anyway, he already knows/suspects that I like him. My question, Menewsha, is... would it be more awkward for him if I told him or if I just let him suspect? (Also, which one gets me more of a chance to become friends with him? I only have 4 more weeks to get to know him because at the end of the semester, no more classes with him.)

I'd appreciate advice. (Roli has basically convinced me to tell him already, but I'm looking for some new opinions.)

Nick Evans 11-08-2007 12:22 AM

tell him if you dont then you will always wonder*
what if
^___^

thats how i met my girlfriend

SerenityFTW 11-08-2007 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Nick Evans
tell him if you dont then you will always wonder*
what if
^___^

thats how i met my girlfriend

I don't want to go out with him or anything D:
Well, I mean... I do, but I'm not expecting it, and I'd be just as happy with friendship.
I'm just not sure if I'd be more likely to become friends with him by telling him or by... not.
(And did she talk to you or did you talk to her? o.o)

Sagitar 11-08-2007 12:45 AM

tell him :3 otherwise you'll regret it later.
what's the worst thing that can happen?
just tell him you really like him, but staying as friends would be enough for you.

SerenityFTW 11-08-2007 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Sagitar
tell him :3 otherwise you'll regret it later.
what's the worst thing that can happen?
just tell him you really like him, but staying as friends would be enough for you.

I think I will tell him...
but the worst that can happen is that he hates me and/or stops talking to me totally, and that scares the shit out of me.
But I'm fairly certain the only way I'll ever actually tell him is if I send him a message on Facebook asking him to make me talk to him before/after class the next time he sees me... I'll never have the nerve to go up to him.
And that's not a Facebook message I want to send ;w;

.~.Secret.love.~. 11-08-2007 03:05 AM


It's a pickle huh? I believe you should tell him. I know that's how one of my best friends met her man. She kind of had me run around and deliver notes. He thought I liked him. We had a problem, my best friend and I, he asked me out and I said no. So she though I had been hitting on him. I told her to just explain it or I was going to. So I explained it to him and he said he liked her, but she didn't seem to show interest...
Anyways, long story...
Just tell him, but don't use any of your friends to do it.

Majinkoz 11-08-2007 03:19 AM

It is a little bit of an age difference, and he may view you as a 'little freshman' or something like that...that's how it was at my high school. Anyways, I know from experience that if you don't tell him, you'll always wonder...would he have said yes?

Did he like me too?

What would have happened if I DID ask him out or tell him that I like him?

And just because you are not going to have class with him anymore doesn't mean that you won't see him still...I'm sure you'll see him around the school or at lunch...(something like that).

And if you're a shy person, maybe just start as friends, just try and talk to him, and get to know him. Then he may know that you're interested...but you said that you think he already knows, which is a GOOD step....but I honestly HATE it when I think a guy knows that I like him...but I'm not sure, I always want to know. And what I say...is that you only live once. I learned that people in high school are often annoying, shallow people, and I started to not care what they thought of me, and pretty much started to do what I wanted without thinking...'hmm will this ruin my reputation?'

Plus, if it doesn't work out, these people in high school you're pretty much never going to see after these 4 years.

Honestly...just go for it, the worst he will do/say is 'no' and if he is a jerk about it, obviously he wasn't really worth anything.

SerenityFTW 11-08-2007 03:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Majinkoz
It is a little bit of an age difference, and he may view you as a 'little freshman' or something like that...that's how it was at my high school. Anyways, I know from experience that if you don't tell him, you'll always wonder...would he have said yes?

Did he like me too?

What would have happened if I DID ask him out or tell him that I like him?

And just because you are not going to have class with him anymore doesn't mean that you won't see him still...I'm sure you'll see him around the school or at lunch...(something like that).

And if you're a shy person, maybe just start as friends, just try and talk to him, and get to know him. Then he may know that you're interested...but you said that you think he already knows, which is a GOOD step....but I honestly HATE it when I think a guy knows that I like him...but I'm not sure, I always want to know. And what I say...is that you only live once. I learned that people in high school are often annoying, shallow people, and I started to not care what they thought of me, and pretty much started to do what I wanted without thinking...'hmm will this ruin my reputation?'

Plus, if it doesn't work out, these people in high school you're pretty much never going to see after these 4 years.

Honestly...just go for it, the worst he will do/say is 'no' and if he is a jerk about it, obviously he wasn't really worth anything.

That right there in bold is what got me.
Okay, I'm going to tell him. Definitely.
I don't know why I'm so freaked about this, but I'm going to get the hell over it and tell him. Thanks :3
But like I've said, all I want is to be friends with him, not anything else.

Livia 11-08-2007 02:17 PM

Try just to be his best friend or just friend. At lest after the classes are over you still have some contact with him. Let him still suspect that you have a crush on him because after a while when you know him better you might just put the crush away and just like him like a friend. It happens =3

SerenityFTW 11-08-2007 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Livia
Try just to be his best friend or just friend. At lest after the classes are over you still have some contact with him. Let him still suspect that you have a crush on him because after a while when you know him better you might just put the crush away and just like him like a friend. It happens =3

That's what nobody notices.
That's all I'm going for - being his friend.
DX Because I'm not expecting to become his girlfriend or anything, he already has one of those.
I'm looking for a way to become his friend.

kegokec 11-10-2007 01:59 AM

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I know it's a crush and that nothing will ever come of it
You said that yourself so, why bother with him? Just be his friend and enjoy his company. There's no use getting attached to someone you won't see regularly (Or maybe at all) after 4 weeks. The stress is too much.

Sasori3 11-26-2007 09:12 PM

I think you should tell him . Don't hesitate just do it . Don't let this chance go by you so just tell him OK?

SerenityFTW 11-29-2007 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Sasori3
I think you should tell him . Don't hesitate just do it . Don't let this chance go by you so just tell him OK?

*rofl*
Don't worry, I did.
Well, actually, I gave him a note.
Either way, it got the point across, and that was several weeks ago. He certainly doesn't seem to hate me.
My more recent problem with him was that Facebook called him 'the hottest girl on Facebook' and I told my whole Drama class about it. >> He walked in after I finished telling it, so I was scared he was pissed at me or something.
I found out today he wasn't and hugged him.
Now I'm scared I've made it more awkward =o=

woopdidoodoo 11-29-2007 01:37 PM

I think just take time in getting to know him and establishing a friendship and a basis for trust. You don't have to automatically get involved romantically with someone just coz you have a crush on them, I think people move to quickly into relationships and don't have time to work them out


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