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Boyfriend Issue
Well my friend asked me out and I said yes, I mean he's so sweet and everything. Well my friend kind of dated him last year but she dumped him and went after his friend, who's now going out with my friend. Well, she says she's happy for me, but when I told her he kissed me she looked so annoyed. She's admitted she likes him again, but she said she got over it.
Well see, I have a feeling she's been trying to break up up. First she told me he doesent care about me, but now I think she's onto him. he says im the best thing that has ever happened to him, that I mean the world to him and ect ect. Well I also told her he planned to buy me something made of diamonds for Christmas, she was so angry and I could tell she was hating me because he admitted he loves me way more then he liked her. Well I also have the feeling she tried to get him to stop dating me, because he randomly asked if I was going to dump him anytime soon, I asked him why and he said that I was out of his league and I deserve better, so is it possible she's planting these really stupid thoughts in his mind? Edit: The whole diamonds thing she overheard and asked me about in an MSN convo that was: Her: So what were you and ________ talking about? Me: Oh...nothing really..... Her: Come on you can tell me anything..... Me: Well if your sure, he was asking what I wanted for Christmas.... Her: Okay....what did you tell him? Me: That I wasn't sure Her: So did he figure anything out Me: yeah he wnated to buy someting made of diamond but its not like I wear jewlery much anyways though. |
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I really don't know what you should do in situations like these. There's a reason why it's kind of a social rule not to date friend's exes. Maybe you should try talking to her about it.
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If it's your friends ex then it was a bad idea to date him. But still yet she shouldn't be planting lies like that either.Just simply tell her how you feel.
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I had a friend who did the same thing to me. We had a rule, you couldn't date a friends ex without their permission. It was so you knew that they were over the ex. She had dated an ex of mine before with my blessing. He was an okay guy, just not the guy for me so I was okay with it.
She said it was fine if I dated her ex. We had been friends for a very long time and decided to see if our spark would ignite. It did, we got along wonderfully, but then she started trying to seperate us. Oh, I saw him with her kissing, he tried to feel me up, etc. Eventually we got her in a lie and she had no way out of it. I lost what had been a good friend that day, but it was for the best. She obviously didn't want to see either of us happy. I would set up some sort of intervention. Find out what she really thinks. It could be your imagination, or she could be plotting against you. You're better off finding out before both relationships are destroyed. |
I'm not sure about the friend. I agree with Vickicat that you should try talking to her. I know its hard [sometimes] to actually confront people on these things but if it really bothers you it's important to do that.
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she doesn't hate you.. she's just jealous. that's what I believe :3
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TV addict opinion: Are you sure you know who's the bad guy here? Is it your boyfriend or her? It's just that happens in a lot of dramas I watch *shrugs* I'd say try to block her out. I DON'T believe you needed her permission to date him. It's your life. Don't you find it disturbing that your friend "admitted she likes him again, but she said she got over it"? I'd say the girl is definitely jealous and envious. Get her a guy to keep her mind on. |
Ditch the friend. If she's trying to break you two up, you don't need her. She left HIM, he didn't dump her, so she needs to just get the h311 over it and move on and be happy for you. A true friend, even if annoyed, would just tell you how they feel and move on with their life.
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I think she is extremely jealous of you.
She can't stand the thought of you being happier with him and the emotion you get from him that she never got. Tell her to stop because a real friend would be happy and forget about the whole thing, not trying to break you two up. What a selfish bitch. =/ |
Well first off just because he says your are better then him and you deserve better and all that stuff doesnt mean your friend has talked to him. Thats just what all guys say to there girl and thats how all guys feel. I know i get told the same thing and there isnt anyone tring to break us up.
On her issue. She doesnt like him and she knows it. She is just jealous that he likes you instead of her. I bet if you guys did break up and they went out it wouldnt last long. She is just jealous they didnt work out and that you and him are together. Most ex's dont like to see there ex happy. Personally i dont think it has anything to do with you. She just doesnt want him happy. Thats just how some are. All i can say is talk to her tell her that you care alot about him and he cares about you and you wish she would stop tring to break you guys up and if she doesnt listen then you will most likly have to choose. Do you want him, Or do you want her. Because sooner or later it will come down to that. He will want you to stay away from her b.c of all the stuff she is saying to you and him and then she will most likly want the same saying he is wrong for you and that he is telling you the same stuff he told me and alot of other lies tring to make you see that he is using you. Just go with your heart on this one! |
I think it's the whole "you never know what you have until it's gone." mentality, like how he was hers before, and thus can't go out with anyone else. Whenever he asks you about whether you'd leave him, tell him the truth about how you feel [which is hopefully not breaking up], but don't mention her. Otherwise your relationship might end up revolving around her, and then she's won.
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She's probably not over him yet. And I don't think it was a good idea telling her that he kissed you. I mean I know she's your friend and you two talk about your relationships. But this is her ex we're talking about here. Those wounds are still open in her and it may take time for her to get over that fact that your dating him. I think it would be best when you two are talking about stuff. Don't bring up her ex, because its only gonna make things worse on your behave and you might end up losing a best friend because of that. And if she brings it up then change the subject. Seriously I've been in your shoes and believe me it gets worse as the time goes by. Talk to him too, let him know what's going on. Because sometimes guys don't know what girls go through. And if he doesn't seem to care, make him listen. Because Jealously is a dangerous feeling and believe me I've had best friends who lost their lives because of other jealous person. Try to avoid the subject. Try and keep the relationship on the low and away at least until things die down.
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I think she's jeleous because he likes you more than he ever liked her so normaly I'd say try to talk to her but if he's said that then I think you should just let what will happen happen so don't try to fix it that much still try but don't over exurt yourself k ? :D
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She's just jealous. And not a very good friend, either.
She dated him LAST YEAR, and she broke up with him. I don't see any problem with you dating him. She had plenty of time to get back together with him... she sounds like she just wants him now because you have him. Tell her to back the fuck off. |
It is obvious that she feels jealous, she has showed it on any way as possible and the best thing you should do is stop telling her everything that you say or do with your boyfriend, she will try to use anything to try to break up the relationship for now.
Just let her know that you want to conserve her friendship and your relationship with your boyfriend and that you don't want anyone getting between both of you. |
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