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Help needed -Love in Different strokes?
well...thing is this, I need to help a friend...because she loves her boyfriend, but she is really thinking things because they are very different, maybe not in the heart but life style and education, also life aspirations.
She is a city girl with a private education, honor classes and a great future even the psoibility to study in England when she finishes school. Her parents are both teachers and really cared about her education to be the best, even though all she had she is not the kind of snob girl, she is so loving and caring. But i think she still has a lot of pressure from home not to be together with someone who is almost uneducated. I think they love eachother, but porblem is she feels he doesnt have a future, no idea what to do, he is a couple of years older than her, finished highschool and still didnt go to college and he is living at mom and dad's place, at least he has a job but, you know...no expectations no idea what to do... She is thinking of Cambridge and a great job, being a photographer too, travelling, things that belong to her upper class world....and he is a lower class kid, who dont even care about reading or being interested in more than a chat room and vido games.... will this work for them? Which things should them both consider if they want it to last? I really need advice, she asked me to post this because she knows her bf is here too and he might read it if she posted it... Thanks all |
anyone can be with anyone who they want to be with. She should try to understand him and help him decide on what to do next. and he needs to try to set himself straight, find a good job, move out of his parents' house. he should go to college and straighten his life out, else their relationship may still be on the rocks. both may be different, but i have faith in them both to be able to hang in there and make it work. they seem like they love each other and were meant to be together. they are opposite ends of the spectrum, but opposites attract, right? their will to be together can overecome all obstacles, exept death. i really hope this helps you.
Lemurian |
It's true that no matter what happens you can be with the one that you love etc...etc...
But if this guy is unfortunately going to hold her back, I think she may just have to move on. Finishing high school is great and all, but you'll eventually hit 'the glass ceiling' if he does decide to start to get into something serious (even without a college degree) I would say see how it goes for a little bit...how long have they been dating? I don't know if you said, but I may have just missed it. D: Anyways, in the way of a career she needs to do what's best for her. And if he is just going to hinder your friend, I think that's going to be a problem. But who knows, your friend may become super successful and want to stay with him, because then it would be like she is the 'man' and the guy is a 'stay at home dad' it honestly all depends on what she wants. If she doesn't mind potentially postponing her future success...then yes she should stay with him...(but please make him move out and get a good job). idk, I probably didn't help ,but it's a difficult and pretty sad (as in really sad...not sad like loser you know) situation because she loves him and he loves her...but they don't match up the best...in what they want. |
they have been going out for like 7 months now, thanks
and...yes i think problem is she wants someone like her..someone of her same cultural level to talk ..you know...to really share things... |
Well, my fiance' and I come from very, very different backgrounds too. Even though he's 26, he's still not done with college because he's working at the same time, having to take just one or two classes at a time. He doesn't read books and he just simply isn't from a "higher class" like I am - I come from a very rich family and most of them are doctors; so studying, reading books, being educated etc is important to them. Yet I find that I'm happy with my fiance'. That being said though, he supports my academic career a hundred percent, and was even going to move out of the state when it seemed he'd have to (then things changed but he had agreed to do it). It truly depends on the guy - if he's a wonderful guy like my fiance', then more power to them! If not, then no matter how much she loves him, she might have to move on... |
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