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He broke up with me =[
My (ex) boyfriend broke up with me via text message (impersonal much?) like an hour ago. We were only going out for 2 weeks. He kissed me this morning, and now he decides he doesn't like me anymore. I'm confused. And he wants to be friends when I don't think I could bear to look him in the face. Yet some incredibly stupid part of me still likes him. What do I do? I want to give him another chance (it's not like it could hurt much if I force myself not to get too attached until I can be sure he won't be an ass again).
Nevermind, he's being an ass because my friend talked to him (without me knowing). I never want to see his face again. |
Well that's a horrible situation u are in. Make sure tho wutever it is u do its on your terms and not his.
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I know how you feel. My (ex) Girlfriend did the same thing to me. They say they still want to be friends but they start neglecting you more and more. At least yours was on a text message, hers was on a napkin with an oatmeal raisin cookie next to it! T_T. *I love oatmean raisin cookies.*
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Before you make any decisions, sit down with this guy and talk it out. Things like this need to be discussed face to face. Talk about why he broke up with you, why you felt that there was still potential for the relationship, and see exactly where each of you stands.
If doesn't want to date, then he doesn't want to date. There's no way of forcing yourself on him and try to make something work when there's just no effort on his side. But you deserve an explanation, and he deserves to hear how you feel about everything going on. Just take an hour or so of private time with each other to straighten everything out. Once you've talked, your choice will be much easier. |
Either he's a jerk or he's scared to get closer. Course since it was broken off via text message and the relationship was only 2 weeks long I'm going with the first option. Unless you two have been friends for a very long time, I really don't see how it could be the second option because you just started seeing each other. I would stay away from him, not necessarily ignore him completely, just not hang out with him solo for awhile to at least avoid any extremely awkward moments. If he asks you out again, really think how you feel about him. You don't have to say yes or no immediately if he does, and honestly I would make him squirm a little bit before giving any kind of positive answer.
About two weeks before my 1 year anniversary with my boyfriend, he broke up with me and wanted to stay friends. A week later he confessed that he was just scared because he realized he loved me and that we were both going to be going away from each other soon (it was near the end of our senior year of high school). Yes I did make him squirm for awhile when he asked me out again before I said yes. |
Oh no! I'm sorry! T____T That's terrible. Grrah, I wouldn't give him another chance, but if you feel you can keep being his friend. It's never good to lose a relationship completely. |
Angel has been there!
Isn't it strange how someone breaks up with you then says but we can still be friends right? Do they not understand that it blooming well hurts? Give it a bit of time. Get over the hurt and anger over it and then decide if you still want to be friends. I don't know about you but I say yes right away and then there's always a huge falling out where I tend to want to kill my ex forever-after. As for the text, it's probably because breaking up is awefully hard and painful. Typing and pressing send is so much easier. It's the cruellest way, but also the easiest sadly. |
First, I would talk with your ex...he still wants to be friends, so obviously he has some sort of feeling(s) for you other than hate...a lot of the time that's what happens....boyfriend/girlfriends often end up hating eachother, especially after a break up.
Tell him, that you would also like to be friends, and that you also still view him as more than a friend. Maybe he was just nervous about being with you and he really still DOES like you....It's just hard to tell. But talking is always the best solution, and make it casual...a lot of the times guys dont' want to get into this BIG serious discussion. Just as him why he decided to break up with you? If he doesn't want to talk about it then I say don't get back together with him...You want a boyfriend that is willing to at least talk about a few things that are serious...but at the same time you want it to be fun. And that was REALLY un-cool of him dumping you via text message...I think that's tacky and I almost want to tell you to not give him a chance, but everyone deserves a second chance, maybe he things he made a mistake...talking will most likely solve a lot of your issues. <33 |
The guy is a wuss. He couldn't do this face to face and he couldn't even be honest with you. If he wanted to be friends he would have treated you with some basic respect. I know it hurts regardless of how he is, but don't let him affect you for to long.
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Don't go back with him, some thing happed to me, my feeling werent the same when we got back together, it felt wrong to still be with him, also ever hear this XD it's like ur situation,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XcidD2HFK8M find some one better, im still working on my crush |
I wouldn't. He should have told you face to face. That just shows that he's not a strong person. I think you should forget about him. If he gets a new girlfriend, and you still like him and are just friends...Well bad things could happen. You can talk to eachother rarely or something, but not hang out that much unless it's with a group...
That's just my opinion and suggestion. You should do what you think is best though. |
Don't even bother with him. Anyone who breaks up with you in a way as shitty as a text message obviously doesn't care about you and isn't deserving of you. If you want to be friends with him first, so be it, but don't do it right now. Wait until you're over him so you won't get sucked back in. He doesn't sound like a guy you really want to be in a relationship with.
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Awww...
Tell him that you need some time. :] And when you get over him, you guys can be friends. Personally, I don't think he's even a good friend, because he can't be honest and straightforward. But do whatever you want. :] Best of luck! :] |
I was in a similar situation once and generally in my opinion that ex's can't be friends. Theres too much whatever already involved and its just messy whatever way you look at, try to get over him the best you can and just be yourself is my advice
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That's really sad :( :(
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