Okay, so my boyfriend is friends with someone I have hated since 6th grade. I am now a junior in high school. Is it wrong of me to want to kill her for being friends with my boyfriend or even getting hugs from him?
I have always really hated her, and he is more attached to her (so it seems to me) then he is to me. I know that they dated but it really should be the other way right?... :x
He won't even let me touch his psp! which is just weird... :?
I am an exclusively jealous person but to me this just seems wrong.
What do you think?

No, it's not really wrong for you to hate her. I'd feel the same way if my boyfriend were to go around hugging and acting all super-affectionate to someone I've not been able to stand for years. I'm sort of the jealous type too, though :P

I can understand where you're coming from but just give him some space. He might have feelings, and its just supposed to happen that way. Things happen for a reason, so don't try to take control or he'll like her even more. Honestly,I don't like controlling people and if someone's trying to restrict me from doing something, I'll want to do it more. And look, you're only in Middle School. Theres going to be a TON of other guys in High School for you and maybe someone will transfer to YOUR school, and you might like him. Whatever the case may be, theres other guys. Don't let him stress you out. Good luck. Hope my advice helped.

I give him plenty of space... :?
I am the one that never goes anywhere, while he is out with his friends...
he never asks me to go anywhere with him... except to the movies with his cousin or his friends...
I get barely any alone time with him at all...
:(

I know how that is too. Why don't you call him and try talking to him about it? Tell him that you care for him and that you don't want him to hurt or feel restricted but you don't want to hurt either.

:? I have trouble with the whole...
"share your feelings?" thing. and when I try he changes the subject... :| it usually take a lot from me to even mention it, so after the subject is changed I can't really bring it up again.
I want to but I just can't... :?
I am a shy person.
:cry:

I feel ya, honey. I'm a jealous little person too.
Unfortunately, you don't have the right to dictate who he is and isn't friends with. If you don't like her, don't be around her, but you can't stop him from being friends with her.

You can talk to him about the affection, though. If you don't talk to him, he won't even know he's doing it.
Personally, I am very affectionate with all of my friends. I don't mean it in any romantic way, just... a friendly way. Perhaps that's it?

Anyway. Maybe you can try to bring up that you're uncomfortable with how he treats her?

Well I'm not going to say that it's wrong because I'm kind of in the same situation...

Only I have not known this girl for that long...and he was my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend...so that REALLY sucks. But they don't see eachother too often anymore...but I still just hate her.

I think you should dump him. It sounds like he doesn't value you as much as that chick. So he's not worth it if he doesn't care for you the way he should.

You are in highschool and even when you get in your 20s, sometimes relationships are hard in that way. It is never fun when you have to feel stressed over what your boyfriend is doing. I think maybe talking to him about the situation may help.

I take it he's becoming more distant to you as days go by. You have to think very carefully if you still want to be with him or not. If you do, you might have to confront the girl and tell her to stay the fuck away from your boyfriend. If you don't, then it's time to dump him.

look if you dont like her and he still wont leave her alone then you need to leave him aloe this guy sounds lik a jerk so even if you dont think my advise is write then do what your heart says

Ugh, I had problems like this with my boyfriend for quite a while. He would be friends with people who were downright mean and rude to me all the time. And it's like he just couldn't see it. He blamed me for them disliking me, even though I never did a thing to them in the beginning and they just took a dislike to me. It was only after they started harassing me in the first place that I started retaliating. I talked to him about it and he wouldn't listen. Eventually these people moved on to being rude to him, and he finally realized that they were not nice people. Like he couldn't see it when it was happening to me but not him, but when they started being that way with him, he noticed. It's so frustrating because it's one of those "I told you so" situations. If she really is a jerky person, eventually she will probably be that way to your boyfriend too. The most I can say is try to talk to him and tell him how you feel. He may or may not listen. After all the crap I've been through with people my boyfriend made friends with, he finally has started to listen to me more and take me more seriously. Sometimes you just have to wait for people to wake up and realize they're hanging with a bad crowd.

@vikicat : I tried telling how I felt about her... he just replied
"I don't care what you say about my friends, they are my friends regardless."
:?

@kalium : I did tell her to back off... didn't work. thus I hated her more. :x :?

news report: He is a jerk and he knows it, I have told him plenty of times... :o but somehow the problem got mended and such. my problem lately is that he is telling me he is not going to see me at all during January, and I really want to talk to him...

:? why I love him I really don't know...
-looks at her family-
oh... thats why. :x

OK so give him a taste of his own medication. Start looking around for another guy. (before you think I am saying cheat on him Im not) Find someone that may like the same music as you or whatever.(it would be easier if he was in your classes) Become friends with them and hang around with them. Your boyfriend will either get upset by it (which is kind of the idea) or blow it off. If he blows it off he more than likely likes the other girl. Dump him!! And hey you'll have a new friend and maybe a better boyfriend in the end of it all.

I just have to say that I don't think revenge is the way to go, as Kushinada suggested. In the end that would just break everyone's heart. I mean would you really feel that great about hurting someone you love?

Anywho, with this situation you need to back off a little and stop asking about it. It sounds like your boyfriend is getting annoyed that you keep talking about it. You need to trust him, and have faith in him. Sure you may not like one of his friends, but does that really matter in the long run? You probably get along with his other friends, so when you two do go out together as a group go with those friends. Allow him to be friends with who he wishes to be friends with, but also remember that you don't have to like everything and everyone he does.

If you truly love him, you will trust him and stop worrying about what he is or isn't doing.

CLK i beleave you are taking what I said the wrong way...