ok lats friday i skiped school to go to a movie with my boyfriend. i picked the one day that we werent going to be doing anything because it was the day before christmas break. well my cousin saw at the bridge we were crossing and she decided that she was going to tell my parents about it. now theyre never going to let me see him again and they wont even listen to me when i try to explain. they think im having sex and they are threatening to put a warrant on my boyfriend and his friend who drove us. can anyone help me understand why it seems like my parents hate me more around the holidays?

If my parents did that to me, I would just say: "Go ahead and put a warrant on him. The police will just laugh at you." I know how you feel, my mother and father are very protective- even to the point of paranoia.

That really stinks. I hope the situation sorts out but I don't really know what to say. I haven't really had many real boyfriends due to the fact that I'm just plain paranoid around people.

Punishment is supposed to teach you a lesson.

Like, don't skip school. =/
He influenced you to skip school to see a movie with him, which seems like a bad influence.
I'd probably do something about that as well.

But, I have to say, putting a warrant on him seems REALLY excessive. For what reason would they be legally able to do that? o_O

I have to agree with neur0mancer, they probably did that to keep you from skipping school.
The might want to put a warrant on him if he's over 18 and your under?
If they have reason to believe you are having sex with him, they can legally do that.
I know cause my mom did the same to my ex who was 19 when I was 17. However he didn't get in trouble cause the age here is 17, and I would have had to have pressed charges. If I had been 16, he would have been put away though.
So...Yeah. And your parents don't hate you, I thought the same of my mom, but now I see, now that she's gone, that she did everything for my own good.

Well do you hate your parents for it? Honestly, I think your parents are retarded... As for mines, they are too. Especially since they are traditional asians... The kind you see in movies with bad accents and always yells and treats people badly and seems real heartless. Asian parents have a way with words that are so fucking annoying... If they ever did that to me, which they wouldnt 'cause they don't care about me, I would commit suicide and write a note that says "I killed myself because of my parents. My parents have sexually and physically abused me. I cannot take it anymore". That would really get them feeling guilty, I hope.

my parents have done pretty much the same
i hate them so much and they hate me too they wanted to get rid of me at one point but i have apparently gone past the age for fostering

and guess who they blame...the person who means most to me...my boyfriend

my parents never did like him but ya know not many parents like seeing their baby being taken away from them but its gotten to the point now where they are getting the police involved to split us up and they just hate him and it really hurts me because i love him so much

whenever i argue with them they claim that they are only doing whats best for me but i dont see how taking the person i love most in this world away from me is helping...the only thing it gives me is emotional scars and an eternal hatred towards them

ya totally for the best

:?

The cruelest thing is, is that my parents have contacted his carers and they are also tryign to split us up
i never get to see him unless its at school and we have been arguing so much recently its unbelievable
and its all thanks to my parents
they seem to send off this aura of anger that makes me get angry at my boyfriend

because to be honest if ya parents aren't supportive u slowly lose the will to live
because the thing that means most to you they hate...which just ain't right

my parents hate him because once my parents upset me and my boyfriend being the caring person he is stepped in and told them off pretty much since then they have seen him more as a threat to their ultimate parental power and want him out...

he isn't even allowed to drop off a Christmas present to me
and the worst thing is my next door neighbor is a policeman so if he does step on our property he could get arrested in seconds

another point is that i hug my boyfriends jumper at night because thats how much i miss him :lol:
and my dad hates that he even put it in the bin once and i nearly lost it

he claims that i am too involved,too young and such and such but the thing is
my parents met when my mum was 16 and he was 18 and they are together to this day and currently 54 and 56
and pretty happy

i just dont see the problem..do they hate me being happy that badly?

its weird because my dad is always trying to be a father to me and its really cheesy and annoying

but i cant ever be close to him because he hates the one i love
and about the whole accusing of sex thing just ignore it they are just afraid there baby is growing up parents hate that lol i would know

i really hate my parents they've caused me so much unnecessary pain and it shouldn't be expected especially from those who brought me into the world

oops i am blabbering on but basically my grandma once told me that they are the only blood related mother and father i will ever have so i just gotta live with it because some people out there would do anything for a chance to argue with their parents because of a sad loss or something

so just talk it over with them even if they dont listen eventually it will die down

sadly knowing the stereotype of parents they may carry out their threats
but just think of it this way you love your boyfriend
you'll do anything for him right?
just give it time and i am sure they will see sense

good luck i know what its like...

:roll:

I think parents only do the best the can
in any way they can. Well the good ones who
try anyways. I don't think that they try to be
mean its just that they are older and can see what
might happen in the future if you do things all at
the one time. I hope your parents get a little easier
on you though

Well, first, don't skip school XD
Second, try to write it in a letter what you want to
say to your parrents, but don't make it sound as if you
are angry. Maybe if they read it, they'll have more patience
to read it than when they will listen to you.
Good luck.
Strange beings, parrents... :roll:

(ps: should'nt this be a 'life issues' thread?)

Shouldn't this go in the life issues forum?

Its kinda your fault for skipping school, or, do your parents give you no free time to spend with him? If that's the case I think that was an ok thing to do xD At least by my books.

Do they not want you to skip school anymore or are they just in a bad situation right now, maybe finicial, and they unleashed all their stress on you, or are they just overprotective?

You need to answer these questions for us to help you or something xD Advice maybeh. Even if you did just rant, it could be useful.

Skipping school isn't that good, knowing they really will punish you for it.

But then, my parents are like that, over-reacting and excessive in anything, especially my mom. She likes to scream at me for the stupidest reasons, and I tell you, she grounds me because I was sick! She says I'm being bad because I don't go with them on trips, BUT HELL! I am sick with measles! How do you expect me to even go with them? Such stupidity.

Well we are two only mine is a different story!! I have my boyfriend and it was a secreat cause my parents din't want me to have a boyfriend soo I was going to tell them when I was in High School, but my mom new that I like him that she did wathever she wanted with my life and separeted from high school!!

Well I realy din't care to much cause a know I can wait for him, but then rumors appear, I know people can trust any rumors but I am kind a idiot!! I stareted to go in a date with a boy but the sad part is that sometimes I think of my boyfriend and my mother still dosent help me in anything in is kinda sad, wath dauther with 9 years to now never has her mother support!! Know I am all confused but I can look for help, my health is not in a good shape and sometimes I think I am no one!! But well somehow something will come!! I hope!!

That's what you get for skipping school. tsk tsk tsk

If you want to have him make a good impression on your parents, you don't go doing things like that.

Put a warrant on him and his friends? For what? That seems just a titch overprotective if you ask me. Unless of course you're a freshman and they're all in their twenties...

You only live once. I was a good girl at school and sometimes wish that I had skipped class had boyfriends. BECAUSE NONE OF IT MATTERS. I got poor grades although I still went to university and I have a great job now. If you take life too seriously you will have a really boring life...

Your parents are right to be angry for skipping school but you you just have to realize that they are never going to see it your way. They are self righteous adults now. The best thing to do like someone else said is write a letter. Written words mean more because you HAVE to read it. And make yourself scarce when they are. But I think it's disgusting they can't trust you that you haven't had sex.. and I think you should put that in the letter

example..
Although I have broken the boundries of your trust by skipping school, I would never go as low as having underage sex... I am still your little girl and I love you both very much and I apologize for any distress I may have cause you.

Your parents are just concerned about you, they don't hate you. You need them to see that you're responsible before they can trust your judgement about this guy. A good place to start would be not skipping school, even if you're not going to be doing anything that day. Instead of fighting your parents, follow their rules for a bit until you can work out a compromise that allows you to see your boyfriend and them to feel like you're making smart decisions.

Eh, they do have a right to be angry about it - they are just trying to protect you, though they may be going a little overboard. You shouldn't have skipped school - why couldn't you have gone to the movie once school was out? I honestly don't understand it.

Well you skipped school.
So of course they are going to be all bitchy.
It's your fault.
Should of just waited until school was out. =/

I hope that everything works out for the better. Your parents care about you and they probably think this guy is a bad influence on you. However I do not understand when parents say that you cannot see a certain boy ever again. When parents forbid something it just makes it even more appealing. I can understand them grounding you, but the warrant thing does not make sense at all.

Your parents don't hate you, they're just concerned and overreacting.
Don't ditch. You should know that'll piss your parents off. You broke your parents' trust, so don't expect them to trust you now.
I doubt they'll never let you see your boyfriend again. And the warrant is an empty threat. If you aren't doing anything of an illegal nature with him, then what do you have to worry about?

I think it's due to all the holiday fuss that's going on. THey're probably stressed and tired, and when their daughter skipped school, that's probably the last straw for them, and they snapped.

I think you should try your best to apologize, to say you were just going to the movies. And get your cousin to testify that you were going in the direction of the movie theatre. x-X

Goodluck!

If your parents hated you they wouldn't care what you did or if you ruined your life. Even though they are blowing it out of proportion, they obviously love you. You did lie to them and skip school so that has them wondering if you lie about anything else most likely. You set yourself up for this one.

That is really stupid of them, they need to talk to you about it and listen to you, they aren't being fair at all.

they don't hate you :roll: they are only trying to protect you. it seems to me that your boyfriend is older than you? they are probably thinking that he'll take advantage of you, and therefore forbid you meeting him. it's not hate.

Looks like they're going a bit over the head with the situation. No going to the police if you could settle it beforehand. It's not that before the holidays they're getting mad, it could be they're more worried. Parents are like that and you know it. First make your parents content and a bit more secure about yourself. Then, you could try to calm them down by everyone coming together to a little party for a couple of days.