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There's this guy who I have a crush on, maybe more than a crush. but it's not love. We're duo partners, and we have two periods together. I know almost everything about him, except for the fact if he have a crush on anybody..
My "snail spies" are trying to get the fact out of him. I really don't want to be the one to admit who I like first if he does have a crush on me, if he doesn't then I definitely don't want to admit that I have a crush on him. Then, there's my friend who ALWAYS hangs out with him. They're in a higher math class and the only 9th graders in that period. Grr...She admitted that she have a crush on him and knows that I have a crush on him. I know that I can't stop someone from liking someone, but it just feels like I can.. I'm seriously getting obsessed with him though (not really a problem), I memorized his address, phone number, locker combination (hehe..), e-mail address, schedule, and even how many times he practices the songs on the piano. Hehe... My issue is that I can't find out who he likes (or if he even likes someone) and I can't stop that girl who keeps on hanging out with him.. |
stalking people too much
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Well, why are you so afraid of him knowing that you have a crush on him? SOMEONE has to say it first.
What's the worst that could realistically happen? He says "I'm sorry, I don't feel that way about you." and you're a little embarrassed. If he's a guy that's even worth your time in the first place, he wouldn't be a dick to you about it or make fun of you or something. I asked a guy out once. He didn't like me back. He said he had a girlfriend. But the world didn't stop turning. :) He was actually really really cool about it. I was embarrassed and couldn't talk to him for a week or two, but he just acted like it never happened. But y'know, even though I was turned down, I was really glad that I did it. Because then I KNEW. I was free of that "Does he like me? Is he talking to me because he thinks I'm cute, or because I'm his friend? Would we make a good couple? Will he ask me out?" all all those endless questions. I KNEW how he felt, and he knew how I felt, and my world didn't crash down on me. And I just felt so good for ASKING, y'know? It was a good experience to have. I don't regret doing it. And even if you do get turned down, it was just like I told the guy I asked out. "It was worth asking." So get him! It's worth a shot! |
Chidori, that is not very nice.
Flying: Hm... I think maybe you should just ask him yourself? Guys sort of have a way of knowing when girls like them- like we have a way of noticing when guys are hitting on us. I think he might already know, if he is not too oblivious. It is a Catch-22. He can either like you, or not like you. |
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Cherry-That's true. ^^ â—• w â—•-I should try by myself I suppose ^^ He definitely does not know, even when that my friend told him that I liked him, he didn't believe her. >__< |
the only way to for sure know is ask him to do something sometime, if you get shot down move on to the next one. and don't tell me that you are too shy, b/c i am the most introverted person when it comes to guys especially when i was high school. but i was able to ask a guy that i liked for a casual "hang out" date. not a date date, just a hang out session to see if i actually liked him one on one. go out after school get some ice cream, go to the mall, someplace where you can be alone. then see if he wants to do something else some other time. if ur sweet and just urself, people will be attracted to you!
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I know a friend who had this problem. She just asked him out one time, and he said that he had wanted to ask her out too, but just didn't know whether she liked him or not. They've now been together for a month and are super-happy.
The moral is that you can't get what you want unless you go for it! So I suggest you ask or tell him. [^^] |
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Yorikobii-That's such a sweet story! >w< Thank you! <3 I hope that happens! :3 |
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Okay, I guess I'll tell him when school begins again. ^^
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...So you're only in 8th grade I'll guess by them being in a 9th grade class?
Umm. I think you should...perhaps move on. Sure, he may be cute, but he's probably not going to be the guy you end up marrying. Why bother knowing all of this, stressing yourself out like this, if even if you were to date him, it probably wouldn't last. The best way to find out who he likes, is tell him you like him. If he likes you back, yay, if not..well..at least you know you had the courage to tell him. |
No, I'm in 9th grade, he's in 9th grade. ^^ He's just in a super duper smart math class...>.>
Thanks for your advice! <3 I don't think that I would go out with him, especially when you're in a special program for smart people which automatically means that you have to do a quiz and a test each week..D; |
(I used to have the same problem when I was a freshmen. I even remembered his Myspace "about me" page. It was horrible. lol. I love cute-sy love.)
Honestly, there is really no way to actually know unless he told someone else that he likes your or someone else. Just don't ask your friend to ask him if he likes you. (it never works. trust me.) I guess guys know who your friends are so of course they will lie to them. Just be yourself. There's no need to change yourself just for a guy. (I learned it through the hard way.) |
I used to have this same problem, one of my better friends would know I liked a guy, and she would go and make her move on him. It annoyed me, and my parents hated her for it.
What I would suggest is that you make a move before she can, you may or may not start dating, but really, the only downfall would be if he doesn't feel the same way. It doesn't hurt to try^^ Good luck! |
"I'm seriously getting obsessed with him though (not really a problem), I memorized his address, phone number, locker combination (hehe..), e-mail address, schedule, and even how many times he practices the songs on the piano. Hehe... " I think that's a bit obsessive, but that's fine! All girls are like that a bit time after time. But be sure not to do anything bad like.. call him everyday, etc. I think you should really tell him first! But have you hung out around him first? Do you just know him because you've talked to him in about a week? I think you should talk a bit more about him than.. 'stalking' him a bit. o__O Boys get a freaked out when stalked by a girl x3 I say talk to him a bit more than even trying anything else out-- he may not be, he may, be the guy your looking for or not. But if he has a girlfriend, I wouldn't even try to do so, you can catch him when he's single~ and if he IS the guy and you DO talk to him a lot: Confess~ your not going to lose ANYTHING since he's not officially yours yet! You can have a friend find out if he likes you by asking him, or you can just ask him yourself. ;D |
I think someone needs to get out and go and do something with herself before she embarasses herself. Crushes are fine and fun in their own right don't get me wrong, I have had a few myself but I think that all you really need to do is get to know him one on one if you can and not in a stalkerish way but in an honest and genuine way as you'd like to be friends with him. A good relationship needs an element of trust before anything can evolve from it, I do think that you need to leave things alone with him for a little bit and see if he likes you for you and not for you going to all the effort to make meetings or getting to know him in the way that you are doing so. I do hope that something comes out of it though and I hope that I don't sound to harsh its just that if he works out that you have been manipulating scenarios then he won't be happy and you will be hurt
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