Do i Have All rights to be mad or hate her?..
 

My Ex, Austin. Broke Up With Me. My Friend Kayla. Which is my BEST friend said she hated him. but still was his friend. she promised, she wouldn't ever Like him or Date him. There was a thing going around they were Dating, she lied to me. i was VERY mad. i asked she said she wasn't. i found out tonight. [School thing] they were dating. She kept avoiding Me Cause she knew i found out. she said it was a forced Couple thing [or whatever D;] and i was like.. who? She said My other Friend Katie. Katie Knew i didn't Want them together. i was Hanging out with my friends, Dancing a little, then i saw Her, i started walking and i had like 4 people grab me Because i said i was Going to Kick Her ass. when i got to her she said it was no big deal. My Ex Has Gotten like.. 15 Girlfriends by Nov. [when he broke up with me] all i know is hes going to date her, cheat on her, and hurt her. hes Even had Sex A lot too. which she thought was Sick. BUT SHES STILL DATING HIM!? She Lied To Me. I Said I'm Never Talking to you. i hope you get hurt. when i was walking in the hallway Austin Said Stop being such a bitch. Well I'm sorry for caring For a friend But now i don't care since you have the gut to lie to me Since i take all my friends seriously. My Friends know to never lie me.

But My Question is. Since Everyone Thinks i shouldn't Be Mad or Hate her.

Do i Have all the right to Hate her and never want to Speak to her again?

I Think i do. Lieing to a friend is just wrong in my book and not worth a friendship if your going to lie and hide it.

If you need to Ask Any Questions. D; Go ahead.


Edit;
My Avie is a guy, but im really a chick. XD

interesting dilemna you have there. You have every right to be mad for any reaon or to hate people for any reason. Thats the beautiful thing about america. Now the question that should be asked is "Am i justified in being upset or hateful at/towards him./her?"

In this case i see justification in your anger. You should be upset that you were lied to. If you weren't I'd question your sanity. However maybe she lied to you just so you wouldn't be hurt ny her decision.. Kinda like how some guys say no that dress doesn't make you look fat even if they think it does. Granted this is something more major.

But the only person who can truly answer this question is yourself. For a couple of reasons.

1) you know what angers you
2) You are the one in situation thus best able to judge what actions you should take
3) to each their own

I think its rather stupid to hate someone for dating your ex.

But if its because you don't like having your trust betrayed or something that you hate her, go for it.

Heh Maybe I'm Petty... But I'd tell that bitch to take a walk if I had been in your shoes... A cardinal rule for being a good woman is to NEVER hook up with your friend's Ex unless they specifically tell you it's all right...

She sounds Like a sad excuse for a friend and if I were you I too would discontinue my friendship with her... But when the inevitable happens and the douche bag breaks her heart, you should be gracious and not rub her nose in it... But I wouldn't let her get as close to you as she was before the fallout...

@ Jaded - Honestly, I think its extremely petty to be jealous of someone else going out with your ex. Especially after you've been complaining about him for weeks or something. The relationship is over. Why not let someone else try? ._. The entire boy drama is extremely stupid.

Hey! When you TELL your friend that you DON'T want them dating that guy then they really should back off! If they don't that shows you just how much they valued your feelings...

It doesn't have anything to do with jealousy, It has to do with loyalty and Respecting your friends.

@ Jade - No, its petty to prevent your friend from perusing a relationship with someone he or she likes, just because you don't want her to. Honestly, its her heart and her choice. You really shouldn't dish out the friendship card and flash it in her face, and expect her to betray her feelings.
Well, unless she's using it to make you jealous or go all "HAHA BITCH I'M BETTER". THEN you can slap her in the face.

I dunno, I'd atleast wait a few months for the hurt to heal before I went after my friend's Ex... But even then I'd want to make sure she was alright with it...

@ Lacy - Well then hate her. O_o; Its no good having a dishonest friend.

Don't what?? sorry I am confused. And if the name calling and lies of stuff you supposedly said then ya be upset. Most definitely dislike this person whom once called them self your friend. However keep in mind that the guy will eventually hurt her as he hurt you and others. She's gonna come looking for someone to help her through it. And she may even apologize.

I think you're entitled to be mad at her for lying. But you have to keep telling people it's because she lied and not the ex thing, otherwise everyone else is all bleh [because a lot of people are idiots and will think it's coz you're jealous instead of him being a grade-A asshat].

The question is, do you forgive her?

been there done that it sucks..

dating a friends ex is one of those unwritten laws you just DON'T do.... I've always been that way and I've turned down people because I knew it would hurt my friend.

It's a rough thing.. when they should be a best friend but break that honesty because they do what you asked them not to.... if she would have asked if you were ok it might have made it better but the same thing happened to me and I lost my best friend and bf.. and well it took YEARS to even start talking again..

it's hard and I'm sorry you're dealing with it.. you have every right to be mad... but hate is such a strong and vile thing I wouldn't go so far..

and besides... if shes going to let a guy come between her friendship.. she wasn't a very good friend to begin with.

This is sooo totally surreal. I've been in this situation... except I was the other girl.

In my case, the three of us were all really tight. But then Jess asked Jacob out and they started hanging out and being all coupley. And I stayed out of their way. But then he broke up with her. She was heart-broken and the two of us had tons of girls nights and stuff. And all was good for a while, but then he confessed that he liked me. And I kinda liked him too. But then we handled it terribly and didn't tell her right away and she found out about it from my bitter jerkface of an ex-bf. it destroyed our friendship completely and she cut me out of her life totally. Unfriended me on everything and refused to talk to me. Quit anime club where I was president.

It was the worst feeling in the world. People tried to tell me that she was being unreasonable.

Now 2 years later (and a full year after I broke up with him) I finally got in contact with her. Pretty much that fall-out is the thing I regret the most.. pretty much for the entirety of my life.

Maybe you could sit down with her, the 2 of you alone, and talk about all your views on the subject. Ask her why she lied to you about it and then think really hard about deciding to hate her. If you've been friends for so long, do you want to break that over a boy? I know the unwrittwen "friend's ex-bfs are off limits" rule, but sometimes you need to look past that.