Okay, believe it or not, I'm stuck in the middle of two of the most awesome boys in the world. (No joke, they are awesome.) I'm dating one (let's just call him Bob lol) and the other has claimed all my emotions (we are going to call him Fred) and I take my romantic side out on him.
OKay, so I'm with Bob, but there is something about Fred that makes me swoon every time I see him. My heartbeat quickens and I become a romantic version of my former self. I kissed Fred on the cheek today, and I really couldn't believe what I had done until after. I'm dating Bob, but since we live so far away (yes, it's online) I seem to inject all my feelings into Fred.

So, I love Bob to death, he's absolutely a dream come true. I love him more than death and life itself. The one thing I can't take is how far he wants to take the relationship. Basically, today was the first day I can remember that I've cybered, and it feels completely weird. Is this supposed to feel like a million daggers are puncturing my heart?

Okay, I can't help continuing to like Fred at the same time I am crazy about Bob, I don't want to hurt anybody. What do I do? Who do I choose? Any help???

Heavy shit here...

Well honey I say you find out if fred feels the same way about you BEFORE you do anything that could jepordize your relationship woth bob...

Then I'd talk to bob about the Long distance issue and discuss the posibility of seeing other people.

Though if you really feel like your only projecting your feelings for bob on to fred then you really should think things through before you do ANYTHING and figure out what your real feelings are.

Nice names. xDDDD

Anyway.

Well, I think you should choose Fred. I mean, long-distance is cool and all, but I mean, if you're going all melty with Fred, I think you should date him.

Also, Bob, since he's awesome, should be able to take it.

Guys feel better when the truth is blunt. Bob will be sad, yes, but he'll get better. :3

You have to break it up with Bob, or else you'll be confused forever, Bob will be hurt because you don't really like him, yet are doing all things with him.

Good lucks! :3

Long distance relationships are in the end hurtful and don't really are a good thing to do because when the right person comes near you, you end up trying to decide between a internet relationship and a real relationship. Fred should be the kind of guy for you since you see him everyday, you feel strong emotions toward him and you even feel like having a heart stroke. XD

Break up with bob because a internet relationship is really confusing and it takes a lot of your time, also start focusing more in real life events instead of online.

Online relationships never happen or work out.
So if this Fred guy actually lives close to you and brings out the best part of you, then it's obvious that you should go with Fred.

It would be better if you actually experience a real relationship instead of these online pathetic ones.

Besides, the whole cybering thing, it's rather pathetic and disgusting.
If he made you or talked you into doing it then you have to leave him.

How old are you 3 anyways?

Originally Posted by ` Nitemare

Online relationships never happen or work out.
So if this Fred guy actually lives close to you and brings out the best part of you, then it's obvious that you should go with Fred.

It would be better if you actually experience a real relationship instead of these online pathetic ones.

Besides, the whole cybering thing, it's rather pathetic and disgusting.
If he made you or talked you into doing it then you have to leave him.

How old are you 3 anyways?

Eh hem... Internet relationships DO work out... I met my fiance on gaia of all places and we've been together for nearly 3 years... And we've lived together for about a year and a half...

But yeah... the Cyber thang... Well if you feel like he pressured you into it than tell him you just aren't comfortable with doing it again... If he still pressures you than well... You know what kind of jerk he is...

` Nitemare, while you may feel strongly about this issue, there's no reason to be rude.

Please try and express your opinion in a way that isn't insulting to the person asking for help as that isn't helping the situation at all.

you need to work out your feelings, talk with Fred and talk with Bob, and DECIDE. do not play around with two guys. Does Fred even know about Bob?

Well, for what reasons do you love Bob? How far away is the 'long distance'?

I know this might seem a bit harsh, but have you considered the idea that you are in love with the ideal of loving Bob, instead of him?

Given that I don't know you, Bob of Fred personally, I can't really say, but if one of them had to move out of your life, which guy 'moving out' will make you sadder?

@ Nightmare- I'm 15, the boys are each 17

@Jaded Geisha- I'm not really enough foolish to admit that I brought on the cybering myself

@Sagitar- Yes, Fred knows I'm dating Bob

@Gwendolyr- Well, I can't deny that I'm emotionally attached to Bob, and breaking up with him would probably kill me. I'm not sure what Fred thinks of me, and I haven't had the best experiences in the past with him. This really is a harder problem then in really seems

@Everyone- Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love Bob and it would truly break my heart if I broke up with him. I have no idea what Fred thinks of me, and if I break up with Bob for Fred and Fred rejects me, I'll have nothing... that's part of the pickle that I'm in

@Greta
You need to make a decision, this much is certain. As you are so young, you may be better off being with someone that is close to you in proximity. Internet relationships (stereotypically, mind--this may not apply to you!) take several years to commit to when you're young, and a lot of people can't deal with the frustration, pain and every other difficulty that comes with it. If you've no way to meet each other before you're eighteen and can pay for your own transportation/live your own life, you may miss out on a lot of experiences.

Not all Internet relationships fail, so don't let someone's coarse words bring you down on that. It's all about how faithful you are (and right now your heart is not), how determined you can be, and how much you want to wait for that person.

What you are saying, though, I must admit, is very unfair. "If I break up with Bob for Fred and Fred rejects me, I'll have nothing." This is awful. Having feelings for two people at once ultimately means you have no safety net. You can't "play it safe" because eventually someone will catch on and you'll be left behind without you ever seeing it come.

I think, if I were at your age and in your shoes, I would pursue Fred. I would try to think about how many things I would be missing out on if I spent all my time at the computer with my boyfriend as opposed to being outside with my boyfriend, being able to hold his hand, being able to be hugged, to be held, to be kissed... you know?

If Bob is really as great as you say he is, there's still a possibility that you two can get together later on in life. You two may want to get some more experience under your belt before truly committing to each other in your adult lives.

Originally Posted by ` Nitemare

Online relationships never happen or work out.
So if this Fred guy actually lives close to you and brings out the best part of you, then it's obvious that you should go with Fred.

It would be better if you actually experience a real relationship instead of these online pathetic ones.

Besides, the whole cybering thing, it's rather pathetic and disgusting.
If he made you or talked you into doing it then you have to leave him.

How old are you 3 anyways?

That's extremely insulting to anyone who's had an online relationship, especially one that's worked. You can't sit there and say they never work, you don't know that and you have no proof. I met my boyfriend online seven years ago, we've met in person and now he visits me whenever possible, and I plan on marrying this guy. And no, I'm not three years old. I'm probably older than quite a few people on this site. And there's nothing wrong with cybering either. Just because you don't like it, doesn't make it pathetic or disgusting. If you're in a serious relationship with someone and do it privately I don't see what the problem is. I know there's a lot of people out there who cyber in public places where they shouldn't, and with random people, but that's a totally different story. Don't insult people for having an online relationship, it can work out. It just depends on if they're meant for each other. Some people can handle it better than others.

To the creator of this thread: You shouldn't break up with Bob if the reason is that it's online. Things can work out if you try, so that should not be your reason. If you break up with him, it should only be because you feel he isn't right for you, if you think Fred is a better match for yourself. Distance really shouldn't have anything to do with it, but it's up to you.

15? Oh sweety you're to young to be feeling such heavy shit... I don't mean to sound patronizing but seriously... You can't enjoy your teen years if you treat every relationship like it's the differance between happiness or a life alone... Trust me at 15 it totally isn't...

In fact at 15 I wouldn't recomend getting serious with any guy, online or not. Play the feild while you can girl! (But don't sleep around... That's gross :lol: )

And honnestly... At 15 you don't really know who you are yet. You haven't really established your identity... Ya know? I mean ask anyone... Between the ages of 15 and 20 you change about 100% in every facet of yourself.

If you get tied up with a guy too soon It might be hard for you two to be individuals seeing as how you're both at a point in your life where you're really developing your independance as a person...

Does any of this make sense? Or am I rambling again?

Oh and when I was preaching the gospel of internet relationships I didn't think to ask how old you were... At 15 I don't think it would be very safe for you to persue an internet relationship... Wait until you're 18 to try that venue...

And avoid the cyber sex hun... You never know who might see that stuff... They might even try to use it against you...

Well with matters to do with the heart I just think that you need to do whats best for you. I know being honest with people can hurt but I think that if you arn't honest with yourself then you'll only be hurting yourself because you weren't with the one you like the more. So I think you need to weigh up who means more to you and see where your heart takes you

Long distance is hard, and I'm not going to say that it doesn't work, but every one I've seen has failed, and people end up heart broken. It's easier to date within reasonable distance because you see the person every day, you talk to them.

Online relationships hardly work out and if they do then you're lucky, but I think it's really hard to really know someone unless you meet them, talk to them, and see them, plus you don't get all the holding and they can't be their to comfort you when your down.

I hope that helps you a bit in making your decision :wink:

@Chiairen Hoshino- Thank you so much for the advice. I'll have to make a decision at some point, I know that. I'm just trying to figure out when the best time will be.

@Vickicat- Things between us work out great. We've been together for almost 4 weeks... I believe we tell each other everything. He makes me feel incredibly special, and I don't know how I could ever break up with him after that.

@Jaded Geisha- Does age really matter? My family has always gave me the impression that as long you loved the person it's okay. Other than that, yeah, I do need to learn a lot about myself, but because of Bob I want to be a better person. I just get this sudden urge to be nicer, and to never tell lies. Sorry if that sounded too cheesy.

@woopdidoodoo- That's my biggest challenge. At the moment Bob means more, but when I go back to school Fred will mean more until I get back home again. Damn, why does love have to be so complicated.

@dianakitsune- This seems like the kind of relationship that'll work out. I have no heart in me to break up wit him, and he said he'd never break up with me. I've never broke up with a guy in my life. O.O

then stay with Bob and forget about Fred. if you truly love someone you don't need anyone else.

FIrst you need to figure out if Fred feels the same way about you. And if he doesn't then that is pretty much the end of that. Fred seems like a great guy, I don't have very many friends that can calm me down or make me feel great....my boyfriend does a good job at that...but anyways...

Then talk to Bob and tell him that you truly do like him, but you can't handle an on-line relationship right now...that's only if things work out with Fred. I don't want to be negative, but on-line relationships sometimes don't last, and you have no way of knowing if he is talking to other girls on-line or even in person. Maybe it's time to meet Bob.

I'm only posing this for you because it's easy to get tricked on-line...I've never personally been tricked but I have MANY friends that have faced a lot of problems due to on-line relationships.

@Sagitar- I guess that would seem the obvious choice...

@Majinkoz- Yeah, I've come to that conclusion many times, but for some reason I still trsut him... all I keep asking myself is why...