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Self esteem (Kinda lots of reading >.<)
I've had problems with it since I was about 10. My life wasn't exactly the greatest thing ever, and I was harassed a lot my whole childhood and so on. From about Age 6-16... A good majority of my life. I was also brought up in a very messed up family life too. No dad, abusive step-dad, my brother was a mess (He's 26). I also am very anti-social and sometimes don't like being around a lot of people I don't know. But recently at school I've gotten involved in a special class for people like me called the Integrated Studies Program.
The class is a confidential, safe environment where you can openly talk about your life without the risk of someone talking (if you do you are immediately removed from the class). The class was designed 30 years ago for teens with broken home lives, alcohol and drug problems, bad self esteem, having trouble with keeping up in class, not showing up for school, and other such school effecting problems. I was in there for being in a broken home. No surprise I was also in there for skipping classes too. Well, not until recently it's hit me pretty hard that my self esteem is extremely low. A lot lower then I expected. It's almost devastated me in a sense. I don't know who to talk to about it. My teacher in this class always tell me I need to do exercises like speaking my mind and joining the media studies class at school (They do video announcements every Friday). It's just not that easy. I just want to hear other peoples options of how I should handle this. Or even tell if you feel the same way. It'd feel nice to know if I'm not alone right now. |
I think every person has self esteem issues in their lives. Some people have more extreme cases, but that doesn't change them at all. I mean, up until I was 17 years old, I had a lot of problems with myself. I started hanging out with the wrong kind of people at a young age, I was ridiculed by a lot of my family members for the choices I made, some of my family who lived with me while I was a kid were heavily dependent on drugs and alcohol. I didn't have many plans for my life. But after a while... I just realized: I'm tired of hating myself because of what others say. Why can't I be happy for me?
I think people have got to realize you have one life to live: love it, love yourself. I've never been happier since I started to care what happends to me. I think that can help other people too. |
wow...
wow i never knew that someone could have such a harsh life, maybe i should join one of those classes, my life is so stressed, im usually not happy, my dad was abusive..the list can go on and on
nobody call me emo! |
That's true. But sometimes it's kind of hard to ignore. I too was hanging out with the wrong people up until this year... I was smoking weed and going to parties not really caring. Now I stopped all that, but no matter what I do I kinda always have hate for myself somewhere in there. x_x
@Blaze: No reason to call you emo. I don't typically tell people my problems like this. I just was seeking a tad bit of advice. I don't consider my life rough, but definitely not an enjoyable hand of cards. A lot of other people have some bad stuff going on. It's good that you want to get help too. It's never a good thing to feel alone or like you don't belong. |
I think it's a part of life everyone goes through bouts of low self esteem some go through it a little worse then others but we are all in that state at some point..
I for one spent years struggling and fighting against it.. and I know what it's like to live in a kind of broken home.. my parents are still together but they were split for a year and a half when I was younger and they dated other people.. which is enough to mess with a 14 year old girl... Self esteem can have a lot of effects on you.. it makes you depressed and you always wonder if others are thinking what you are... but there are cruel people in the world.... theres not much I can tell you. you should be comfortable in your skin, you should be happy with who you are but your the only one who can do that.. I'm a plus size girl... so I know what it's like to go through bad bouts of self esteem.. I has was in a relationship for two years where the guy told me I was lucky to have someone like him cause most people don't like big girls... I also dealt with his mother changing everything about me from my hair color to the clothes I wore because I wasn't meeting her aspects in life... so when I got dumped trust me, I was a wreck and a mess..... the best advice.. get a good friend.. open up and talk to someone... thats how I got confidence and am doing well... my first friend was there to listen to everything I had to say and always tell me shut up your beautiful ::nods:: sooooooo I wish you the best of luck <3 and if you need an ear I'm here ok? <3 |
it seems to be common these days.. I too have a low self-esteem :/
I don't know what to say, I haven't delt it myself so I wouldn't know how to "treat" it |
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you just have to learn to not care what others think.. and look in the mirror and be happy with who you are.. it takes a lot of time... and theres always going to be times you falter cause not everyone can be happy and feel awesome all the time. |
I actually agree with the teacher. You say it's not that easy - and I agree - but it will be the first step to helping you gain confidence and be able to speak your mind you know? I used to have so horrible self esteem that futhered my depression further and further - and my mom wanted to send me to therapy - but it didn't help. I think I sort of just realized the only way for me to get better is to start helping myself and I did. I started doing things just for me - when I did well at something I would congratulate myself - and I started looking at the bright side of things - not the negative side like I was so used to doing.
I wish you good luck! |
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