I don't know what happened. When I was a lot younger I had a lot of friends and we all liked each other and could hang out and talk about anything, but now...It just seems that everyone I make friends with either has to move away or doesn't like me anymore. There are people that I've known for less than a year on the internet and I don't even know in real life that are nicer than some people I've known for a lot longer. It just seems like all my friends start to avoid me. I still have friends in real life, but I don't get to see them as much because we only have a few classes together and I don't see them as often. It's just really stressing and I don't get why people don't like me anymore.

Aweetie... How old are you? I'm guess you're between 14 and 17 years of age right?

Well honey the sad fact is that durring your high school years you and your friends are all going to change the most you ever have in your entire lives. It's not anything you're doing or anything that your friends are doing, its just something that happens. I mean by the time most people turn 18 they probably only have maybe one or two friends that they had known prior to their high school days. Most people end up drifting away from everyone they knew in that time.

It's sad and for a while you're gonna feel pretty damn lonely but trust me, You will make new friends. This is just a little bump in the road...

I guess you're right...><

Jaded Geisha is right.. :3 you are all changing now, and not all changes are good for everybody.. :3 you and your friends start to think a little differently, and maybe try and find your own place.. many friendships can end or you may get distant, but it's only normal. happens to everybody.

I myself find myself completely alone .. D: but I've learned to manage it.

Thanks for the advice. I guess I should try to make new friends...^^'

I felt that way for a while but then I realized people change and we grow apart - but I will meet new friends that I will love even more. I'll always treasure the memories and check up on them - but I will work hard to find new friends as well.

I hope things work out for you! Maybe talk to them about your worries? It might help because they might be feeling the same way.

I was one of the lucky ones, in a way, but now that I think about it, I'm probably one of the weirdest ones.. All my friends in middle school were either a year older than me, or a year younger than me except for a few here and there(only one of which I'm still good friends with), so when I graduated to high school, the friends that I hadn't hung out with as much in middle school, the older friends, became my new best friends. I drifted further from the younger ones, but didn't realize it at the time because I already had friends that I knew wouldn't abandon me. Then when my younger friends became freshman, and I was a sophomore, I hung out with both groups rather equally. However, this year I'm hanging out with the older group because they're seniors now and will graduate soon. Meaning I'll never see most of them again. A rather depressing thought..

But those of you who didn't already know people in high school and drifted apart from their previous friends, I'm sure you'll make close friends soon. Just talk to people. Joining a club helps too. =^-^=
~Willow

Originally Posted by Maria-Minamino

I felt that way for a while but then I realized people change and we grow apart - but I will meet new friends that I will love even more. I'll always treasure the memories and check up on them - but I will work hard to find new friends as well.

I hope things work out for you! Maybe talk to them about your worries? It might help because they might be feeling the same way.

Actually...It's more like they don't like me anymore. I dunno, they just get tired of me or they found someone else they like better, or they decide that they don't like me or we get into an arguement and they're to immature about it to move on or something like that...

Maybe I should be more careful about who I choose to be my friend...

Thats the thing with high school, I have gone thru probably 2 or 3 groups of friends. in about 5 years at least (well cycled them around I suppose) and most of my friends that I know I'm going to keep being friends with are in their 20s (hell my boyfriend is 21) because people change WAY too much. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be changing much anymore since I kinda got thrown into the "maturing" stage a bit early (thus making school even harder, but make having a job nice).
I have 1 friend that I met in elementary school when we were both about 7 that I'm still friends with. We have been friends for over 10 years and I would be lying if I told you we didn't fight. We had a year that we couldn't stand each other-she got into the boyfriend faze before me then got over it when I got into my first relationship. Just gotta keep looking for new people-everyone can teach you something about yourself or the world around you, some lessons are harder then others so don't get your feelings too wound up into it. :) you will be just fine-I know.
Good luck c:

This seems like a High School/Late Middle School sort of thing. I think your blaming it on yourself too much, this is normal for people to do that. Late middle school and high school is the main time for drama; It's when a lot of people come out of their shell and turn out to be completely different then what you have originally thought of them. For me it's become just figuring out who I am, and getting rid of all the fake friends and finding (and keeping) all the real ones. I really don't think it's your fault, I mean, sometimes friends just drift away due to differences or changes within themselves. I mean, I used to be friends with a ton of people that I know either hate or they hate me. The whole thing about it is basically just growing older and searching for the right people to rely on. From the beginning of the year alone, my friends dramatically changed. From the small group of girls from my middle school who loved everything "normal" to most teenagers to a mixed group of people from a million different places. I'm happy with my friends I have now, they accept me for who I am, and don't shun me because I like stuff most teenagers don't like. I think that's the main thing to look for in High School; Friends who are always there for you and love you for the person you are. I have no clue how many teenagers there are where you live, but keep searching, and when you find your real friends you'll know :]. Trust me. And high school can be tough sometimes, we can get pretty vicious at our school, but stick it out and you can make it ^___^.

And, don't worry about your character. You're pretty cool if you ask me (:

I think that happens to a lot of people. People's interests change and we start to drift apart. When I was in high school, my friends and I thought we would be together forever, I don't talk to any of them any more, everyone got married and had kids and got divorced etc. and I just don't see them anymore. I wouldn't stress too much about it, it's normal.

I've found that as we get older.. friends seem to drift more and more.. in highschool I had a lot of friends then my final year I had like three really good ones..

now I'm 20 and I have one good friend and a few ok friends.. it's just you grow apart.. you like different things or discover different things and it just seems to happen...

if you have one good friend in life.. you're doing awesome! remember that!

it's not about how many friends you have.. it's how many you could open yourself to and them love you always.. :nods:

so no worries hunni!! <3

Thank you for the advice everyone, I feel a lot better now ^^

you are welcome

People meet new people. They tend to forget that you still need them, and that they someday may still need you. It sucks, I know. Most of my old friends still remember me though, surprisingly. We get along pretty well. ^ ^

have you made any new friends? Sometimes moving on helps a total lot. I had to move to a new school, and many of my friends from my old school don't remember me, and so I decided to move on by making new friends. It really helped me.