I feel kind of lame posting this, but I would like some outside, non-biased opinions and everyone I know is biased.

My grandfather passed away a few weeks ago. We found out that the funeral home was/is really busy and it'd be ten days until the viewing and funeral. I had the dates and times of these events within days after my grandfather passed. My boyfriend knew all the information also, because I had told him and asked him if he had any interest in going with me. (He didn't want to go to any of it, and I'm fine with that. He isn't family, he didn't really know my grandfather, and I didn't want to have worry about how bored he was and have to rush.)

So, in the middle of last week he got his acceptance letter from the law school he wants to go to. He then informs me that he's "going down there" for the weekend to take care of some stuff...during the EXACT time frame of the viewing and funeral. (The viewing was Sunday, the funeral Monday.)
He has to go early Saturday because he has to start looking for a place to live and he has to stay through Monday to go pay some fee at the school.
Three issues:
1) I hate being alone at night, especially for a whole weekend.
2) His ex lives there, and that's where he will be staying. (I'm actually not going into this, it isn't important, considering other things).
3) My grandfather's viewing and funeral is happening during this time. I've never lost anyone I was close to, I'm not sure how I'll handle it, and it'd be nice to have his support. But he's going anyways, even though I point out all this.

He doesn't even leave until almost three, so he couldn't really do much looking for a place to live because it would be evening when he got there. His whole excuse for going Saturday was so he could spend the day looking while people were available. Basically, he's full of s**t for saying that because then there would have been no point in going that late, and he still went. I was upset when he left because he was just leaving me at a very bad time.
He had the nerve to tell me not to blame him because he didn't schedule this. Hello!! He'd known for a week and a half that these things were going to happen and he made the decision to leave anyways. He didn't schedule the funeral and all, but he DID schedule his trip to the school knowing about the funeral. So YES, he DID schedule it!

I ended up getting drunk Saturday night. My grandfather's obituary was in the paper and I freaked out(I had sort of been in shock)and I was completely alone. I ended up spending almost the whole weekend with a friend that I didn't even want to be around because that's how bad I just didn't want to be alone.

I'm trying not to be upset at him for just bailing on me, but I can't help it. Am I really wrong for being upset that he just up and left me during what he KNEW would be a very rough time? He could have waited until this weekend to go, but he chose to go last weekend anyways.

On top of that, he's being a royal prick to me. I'm not handling this loss well at all. I get mad easily and I'm making a real effort not to take it out on him. But I'll say something, something serious, and he'll make some joke about what I say. I'm hurting badly and it seems to just be a big joke to him.

Don't tell me to break up with him because that's already the plan when he leaves to go to law school. But...give me something. Should I not be upset? What should I do to get the point across to him that he's not being funny?

ouch.. yeah he did a really shitty thing :S on the time that you'd really need him..

but.. maybe he just doesn't know how to deal with it, with the joke making and all. some people are like that..

I was really happy that my fiance was there for me when my grandpa died. I had no idea I'd cry so much at the funeral. I think I was the one who cried most there even though we weren't that close really O.o it just really upset me, and hit me hard. it would have been horrible without him..

I guess you can't do anything but try to make him see what an ass he was for bailing you on a time like this. :|
but then again, if you're going to leave him anyway, why bother worrying about him and standing something like this?

You should try to find a friend that you do like to be around and ask her to stay with you after the funeral. It is kind of lame that he's leaving when you need support, but there should be others that you can get support from too, since he can't always be there.

Sometimes people joke when they are confronted with sadness/are nervous. That could possibly be what's happening. If you think that might be it, try not to be too hard on him. It's a coping mechanism that he probably developed to get through a different hard time.

Especially if you are planning on breaking up with him though, you should try to find other people who can support you when you need it. It will probably be important that you have other close friends when you break up with him.

I agree with Sagitar. If you've already consigned the relationship to it's imminent doom, what's the point of all this? If the relationship was really worth it, you'd try to make it work when he went to college. But since you're just going to end it, then does it really matter how he acts?
He may feel this way too. And that may be why he's acting like he is. He doesn't see the need to put effort into a relationship that he knows is just going to end soon.
You could ask him if that's why he's acting like he is, if you want.
But I think you'd be best off seeking some friends to support you right now.

Wait... if you already know you're going to break up, why are you still bothering? Personally, I don't really see a point in sticking around in a problematic relationship when it's just going to end soon anyway. >_<

I agree with Cherry; you should find some other friends to comfort you for now.

I have friends and family who are there for me. The thing is: I've been trying not to show my pain to them, especially my family. Everyone is grieving already, and I don't want to add to that by breaking down in front of them.
We're not breaking up because he is going away to school. We're breaking up because he is going away to school where his ex is going to school, and he WILL be living with her. We've already been in this situation once, and I hated it. As soon as I found out that she ended up going to that school(he has been planning to go there for years, she just "ended up" going there)I told him that I was over it and that we'd be breaking up when he left.

He was just horrible yesterday. It seemed he was going out of his way to be a jerk. I don't think he's making jokes because he doesn't know how else to act. He's making jokes because he thinks he's being cute.
Regardless of whether or not we will be breaking up, I don't feel he should have just left me like that.

I agree that he shouldn't leave you when you're grieving, but I'm really not sure how you could convince him to stay. It sounds like he might not be too much help anyway if he's making inappropriate jokes for no reason.

Do you have any friends that could come spend the night that didn't know your grandpa/didn't know him well? I understand that you don't want to place any further burden on others who are grieving, but you have to let someone in. It's ok to let other people see your pain in cases like these. I'm guessing that you have some friends who would react to seeing you in pain a little more sensitively than your boyfriend. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise that he won't be there.

I did have a friend come stay with me most of Saturday and then my little sister came and stayed with me on Sunday. My boyfriend got home Monday evening. So I wasn't really alone all that much.
It just really bothers me that he just blew me off. I understand that he needed to go down and take care of some things and that it is important because it is for his schooling and all. But he could have waited and gone this weekend to do it all.

It's already done and over with so nothing about it can be changed. And I'm doing my best to not let it bother me and to not act mean towards him because of it. But it really hurts that he just ran off and wasn't there for me at all; and sometimes I do lash out at him for it without meaning to.

He's acting like it's no big deal and I'm just wanting to know if I really should be upset or if I'm just making something out of nothing.