I've just tuned 17 on the 4th of this month ((I read somewhere that you can't understand true love until you 17, but Idk. . .)) , and I love this boy, not like, love. And i've never felt this way about any of my other bf's and i've been though a lot in this year alone. and is sucks not knowing if they feel the same way about you. But we've talked about things like children and our future plans together, and he even told me he loved me first. But I often still find myself up at night thinking about him, and I can't sleep because he's all I can think about. And this isn't a new "you just started dating" thing either because we've been dating for awhile now. But everytime I think about him my stomach hurts, and when we talk I smile like a idiot the entire time, but when he leaves i'm so sad I feel like i'm going to throwing up. He's even talked about marrage with me, but I think i'm a too young for that, but if he ever did ask me I know that i'd jump at the chance to say yes. Sometimes he even calls me his wife, or his angel, and I really don't think he knows what kind of effect it has on me, anything he says just makes me love him more. But I hate feeling like this, knowing that he could completely crush me at any moment, if he left me I don't know what I would do, and I hate that feeling, even when I was little I told myself I would never feel like this about someone because the pains not worth the little time you've had with that person. So I don't know what to do, I thought about breaking up with him, just for the shear fact that he doesn't have any power over me, but i'd still be crushed no matter what I did. . . So yea, love sucks :(

Well, whatever you read about not understanding love until you're seventeen is BS. Everyone is different, everyone has different relationships and feelings. It's perfectly possible to feel love before that age, I'm sure I was in love at fifteen, a year into a relationship I'm still in at twenty-one. There's also people out there who probably don't understand or fall in love until many years after seventeen. Anyways, it does sound like you do love this guy and it sounds like things are going well with the relationship. I understand being scared though, it is scary, and it does hurt to lose someone you care about so much. But if you don't allow yourself to feel that way about someone, you could be missing out. I don't think you should break up with him for fear that he'll hurt you. I think you'll just end up hurting yourself if you do and make yourself miserable. Have you told him how you feel? I think one of the hardest things is knowing whether or not the other person feels as strongly for you as you do for them. It's hard to describe feelings like that so it's hard to really know. As for marriage, even at my age I feel too young for it, though I have talked about it with my boyfriend. I think it's something people who are serious about end up talking about, even if they're not ready for it yet. There's nothing wrong with simply talking or thinking about the future. If he asked me now (which isn't very likely, given the situations we're in) I'd definitely say yes, but I'd insist on waiting a couple of years so we could get our lives in order first. I think you should let him know how serious you are about the relationship, and try to find out if he is feeling just as serious about it as you are.

don't be so negative ... love doesn't suck....
it's just different than the other things you have felt so this is making you feeling like this...
every time you think about this person you feel deep love.... breaking up is pointless .... you will still love him and being in love with him without being his gf is worse,believe me...
you are wrong with something.... love does deserve pain.... because even if you will cry (if you break up) you will still have the memories back.. and remember when you were happy....
what if you didn't have him?
what if you wanted to have a bf.. to be loved... to love... to feel something special and you didn't have him?
stay calm... you are in love... you have to face it...

It's not a bad thing. Love isn't, anyway. I'm only fifteen years old, and I know what a bad relationship is, and I know what love is. So that "u onlee no wut lub iz if ur sebunteen" is bull.
Anyhow.
You just have to know how to set your priorities straight. He cannot be the most important thing in your life, or your relationship will destroy you. If he makes you as happy as you say he does, I wouldn't suggest ending it with him, either. Just put your head on straight and think about it.
You yourself said it was unhealthy to love him so much, and it really is. If you care about him, though, you'll find a way to make it work. You just can't have him on this huge pedestal all the time.
Good luck. >< I hope my rambling helped a little.

Guys are human. Girls are human. There are a lot of humans out there. Let him know how you feel. If he's a good guy he'll understand.

Originally Posted by Enzeru

Guys are human. Girls are human. There are a lot of humans out there. Let him know how you feel. If he's a good guy he'll understand.

I'm no too sure I agree with you, I think your saying that even if things don't work out then there are plenty of other people out there, but if shes truely loves him, then he's unreplaceable, because every person had a certain things about them that no one else has, and even though some people might have simular qualitys you can never replace any person on earth. So thats pretty much saying, Hey! Your mom just died, so go to your next door neighbors, she likes to swim your mom liked to swim, there pretty much the same, so replace her!

If thats not what you ment i'm sorry, but to you Dragon, I would just have to say your going to have to face the cold hard truth of being truly in love, and treasure it, not many people truely feel love at your age, and sometimes never at all. So even if he doesn't feel the same about you, you still have the memories, and it's going to hurt like hell if it does happen, i'm not going to lie, you might not ever get completely over it, but if it doesn't work out don't fret over it for too long, because if you throw your self in a depression about it you could miss something truely amazing thats happening infront of you.

Family is irreplaceable. It's different. However, when you're young it's easier to fall in and out of love. Now before you say 'zomg, u cnt fallz out of luv' you can, I've seen it, I've done it.

Anyway, have a nice talk with the guy. Let him know how you feel and what's going through your head.

Thank you too all of your suggestions, and I guess i'll just tell him how I feel, but I was kinda hopeing he knew without me telling him, but I suppose thats how problems get started

You are totally and completely INFATUATED. :)

That is not love, honey. I know it feels like it MIGHT be, but isn't Infatuation so much more fun? No crazy commitments, you wanna hold them all the time, kiss them non stop and hang on to their every word..

Love will come later for you I'm sure, and the longer you stay with this boy the more possibility of it developing into real, true, love.

Good luck!

Any pain you MAY get from rejection IS worth it.
It really, truly IS better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
If he were to hurt you, it would hurt like hell. But in order for it to hurt that much, it means you had to be really happy with him.

Besides, if you like him this much, he's probably not a jackass, right?
I mean, honestly think about him. Is he the kind of guy who would just up and dump you? I don't think so.

Being paranoid and feeling vulnerable is normal. But calm down, it'll be fine.

The problem with being 'in love' at such a young age is that you might be in love, but you just don't know yet. Infatuation, at this age, can be very easily mistaken for love. And even worse, you might be in love and not even realize it!

But let me tell you one thing: Love isn't exactly like this. It can start like this but real love is comfort with passion, so to say. You cannot spend the rest of your life with someone constantly holding your breath, it just doesn't work that way. You get relaxed, yet want them and care about them just as much.

This, if anything, is the beginning of love, I think.

And the "or else he'll break up with me" fear is something you should try and get over - it will only grow worse if you don't get over it as soon as possible, at an age where you can get over it even if it happens. Because later it will become your defense mechanism and you'll never be able to hold a relationship together.

Just my two cents.

Honesty, that did absolutely nothing, I told him about how I felt and what I was scared about and all he smiled, kissed me and we cuddled. But i'm definitely not thinking about breaking up with him anymore, I know that was even stupid of me to think. And I don't think i'm infatuation with him, but I honestly don't know, so I guess i'll just wait and see where our relationship takes us. Thanks guys :].

Dont worry love always stinks

You've been bit by the love bug :p lol xD

Well I would imagine you would be afraid it's natural. ^_^ Sometimes in life we have to take risks, if we play it safe all the time, how are we suppose to get anywhere? :?

If you really can't stop thinking about him, wanting to be with him, then my opinion would be to stay by him. But I'm not you, and it's your life after all. :D

So whatever you do is completely up to you, just remember though that ever cause leads to an effect no matter what the circumstance.