warning! wall of text! long story!

this all started in middle school. I was really shy and never asked any guy out and i met this guy in my class. I liked him right away and i had a huge crush on him right away. I hung out with him and his friends some days and all his friends thought i was cool which was a plus for me!

And when we left middle school he called some people and found my number. After that he would call me every few weeks just to talk. We became best friends fast and i was happy about that.

Then at my 3rd year of high school he told me that he liked me and he has had a crush on me since middle school. I told him i felt the same and we started to date.

He was my first true love and everything was perfect expect for the last two months. Then early this month he did the unthinkable. He cheated on me. I tried to get over what he had done and try and continue the relationship but it didn't work out and he broke things off with me in a matter of days.

It was a two year relationship and he was my first love.

Now lets back track a little bit and go back to middle school. Come to find out sorta recently that his best friend in middle school also had a crush on me just like he had but never told me.

they stopped talking to each other after middle school and his best friend went to high school with me for a year. Things got intense for both of us at one point and my (now ex) boyfriend he didn't want me to talk to him anymore. And in a way it was what i needed to do. I refused to go down as a cheat so i did. He now hates his ex best friend and made me promise that i would never go out with him if we didn't work out because of all the stress and drama it caused for us. . .

Now that my ex is not talking to me, his old best friend is talking to me again. I really like him but i don't know if it would be right to date him.

What should i do? date him against the promise i made to my ex or just let it go and find someone else?

This is a tricky situation, but it depends on a lot of things. You say your ex cheated on you and doesn't talk to you anymore. Do you see the lack of contact changing anytime soon? And would you want to be friends with him again later? If you're not going to talk to him anymore, and he doesn't talk to the other guy, then I suppose I don't see anything wrong with going out with the friend.

The only thing I caution is that you take more time before getting into another relationship. It's really easy to end a relationship and then jump right into another because you miss that. Make *really* sure that it's not a rebound before doing anything. If it is, then everyone will end up more hurt.

I'd date his ex best friend. your ex heated on you, so you own him nothing >.>
if you really like the "new" guy, go for it.

thanx for the advise guys.