Ok well my bf lives across the country from me and he's having a really big problem right now for one you have to know

that he lives in a sober house for recovering addicts it's in now way got any clean guys living in the house watching it's kinda an honor system so there on thier own basicly

so theres about 13 or 14 guys that live there and there's one guy that my bf has been raped 3 times by now

and I asked him if he told anyone and he said that he told the land lord (the guy who owns the sober house) and he laughed it off and I told him to tell someone else (like one of the other guys or something and he said that they would believe him if he told them)

and I can't convince him otherwise I don't know to do to help him if he won't help himself because I'm so far away and I can't just go over there and deal with them myself

and I don't know if anyone will believe me because I don't know if they confront him if he will just deny it because he says he deserves it because he's bi

I am really scared for him and don't know what to do please give me any advice you can.

**Update!!!**: MY bf has somehow gotten up the corage to stand up for himself *thank goodness!!!!!* and he's pressing charges the guys p.o. officer now knows about it and so does alot fo higher up people that can help him!!! I'm sooo happy that he is finally doing this for himself.

Hey sarah,one thing that guys have is pride and even though extremely bad things may happen we keep our mouths shut, your boyfriend should let authorities know whats going on because rape is rape whether it be guy-girl girl-girl or guy-guy, now i dont know the laws where ever he is but i doubt they would allow that. sexual harassment/assault doesnt stop and its not something you can laugh off. my friends brother got picked on and beat cause he was bi too and he almost took his life 4 times and he would have if we didnt stop him. find a good time to persuade him because if he is in a bad mood then it isnt going to help that much.talk to him and make him promise you he is 1) either going to report to higher authorities than a landlord , or the usual guy way 2) fight back , try to avoid 2 lol but if that place is hurting him more than helping him get him to find another place, if he loves you he will consider your feelings and wishes,

i hope i helped even a little in anyway possible:)

Sly is right, Sasha- rape is a serious crime. Your boyfriend needs to contact the authorities where he lives and let them know what's going on. If he refuses to do it for himself, remind him that rapists very, very rarely confine themselves to one victim. There's a very good chance this guy has other victims in his past, and he's almost guaranteed to have more in the future. I know guys have their pride - stubborn males are a mainstay of our species - but he probably doesn't consider his pride more important than the other unfortunates that will cross paths with his rapist in the future.

He didn't deserve it. Nobody deserves to be raped, for any reason. Rape is more than just a physical attack- it's physical, emotional, and psychological, and it's one of the worst things a human being can do to another human being. It's an act of violence that does not reflect on the victim at all. This rapist deserves to be punished, for this and any other assault he's committed.

It'll be hard to stand up and admit it, and if he can work up the courage, he'll need your support, but it's the right thing to do.

Well Sly he did try to defend himself against him but he's much stronger and he even tried stabbing him with a kitchen knife but the other guy got his pressure points and made it so that he could get him into the right position. Right now he's not talking to me because he does this thing where he will try to push me away "for my own good" and so he won't answer his phone or my I Ms and I've been trying to talk to someone else to help me but nobody will pick up the phone it;s like he told them I was crazy and to not pick the phone when I call I don't know if I'll be able to talk to him tommorow and try to reason with him but I truly hope so thanks for all the advice so far please keep it coming.