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Maybe you should let Steven go. Or I have a novel idea. Polyamory. It's where you have multiple love relationships at one time and it's not cheating. Come one, you just got out of high school, these relationships won't last forever, there's a LOT of stuff you need to live through. Also, if you're concerned about polyamory think about how you want them doth and then consider this way to do it. It takes alot of effort to put aside and transcend jealousy but in the end it is totally worth it. Also, if you are bisexual then there's no reason that Steven, Nick, you and another girl couldn't have a commited plural-relationship. It's definately not the norm but I think you need to consider what you want not what the norm is. Google polyamory and think about it.
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Damn, I am a thread killer!
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I'm really bad when it comes to jealousy. I'm good with hiding it, but NOT being jealous is really hard for me. Steven and I already broke up, and I've been finding out lie after lie he spoonfed me. He fooled with my friend Crystal and even tried to have sex with her, but she wouldn't go that far. He told my friend Alex and told him that he already told me, and when I found out the truth about everything, Alex told me that he thought I already knew. Steven and Nick don't get along either, mostly cause of me. Nick never liked the way Steven treated me, and Steven didn't like Nick because he's my ex. |
I dont think you really need to explain yourself to Steven about visiting Nick. You two are broken up and he shouldnt have any say about what you do. But if you really must come up with a reason, Id have to first ask if your in college? If so you could say you went to check out the country because you were thinking of doing some time studying abroad and it was convenient to stay at Nick's place or have him show you around and stuff. If your not in college or graduated it by now If I were you I would get a friend who understands your situation to try and go with you so then you wont be by yourself. And if she cant, you two can say that she was planning on going but something came up at the last minute that prevented her.
As for actually living in Europe, youd have to for one thing think very carefully about it. My dad is in the air force and my mom always tells me to try and find someone out of it or who at least wont be transferred alot or out of country. Its a very hard task to remain together or married in situations like that. My family is one of the few whos made it out of the many who normally dont. Not to mention moving out of country is worse then out of state since youll be so far from family and friends and it might be a long time before you can see them again. Finally, I have to say if you feel you really like these guys, try and go with Nick. As ive said its going to be hard but worth it if it does work out. The fact that Steven went out with a girl he knew was your best friend is not right, whether you were on break or not. At the very least they couldve asked if it was alright. The fact is I think you need to forget about him. Talk to him less and less, try and see him less and less and things will get better. I did it to my ex and now he no longer tries to talk to me (thank god!) Its not that he hates me, but its more like we drifted apart because I wanted us to. If steven calls, ignore it. the next time you see him say something like you werent home or you had lost your cell and forgot to call back. Little things like that make a difference in the long run. |
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Thank you so much, this helps a lot. But now Steven is having a few of his friends call me from private numbers harassing and threatening me. I called the local cops and they came to my house so I could kill out a report. And as soon as the cops came again, I got another phone call and said if they have a problem that they can report it to the police, because I had one right there with me. And ever since then, no phone calls. :] |
To be honest, I don't like Steven. He's a disgrace to men to be honest >_> he's a pig. Seriously. I mean, how do you know he'll stay faithful?
And, Nick. Seems like Nick really cares about you. I mean, if he doesn't like Steven because of the way he treats you, that's good. So, I'd say Nick. |
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It seems like things are going slow but steady. And I got rid of Steven from my life, and I feel relived. |
Well, good luck in life : D Hope you have a healthy relationship with Nick then.
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Are you serious? Now those phone calls is really taking it to far. Im glad you called the police about it and dealed with it right then ( I personally would have probably delayed it till I couldnt any long.) It was the right thing to do (and even brave in my eyes) And Im glad youve expelled him from your life. Maybe in a few years you can laugh about? xD maybe. I hope everything works out for you and things get better |
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I always used to push off constant pranks off, but after a year of them, I've finally got tired of it. Which was kind of ironic because Steven and I were together when most of the pranking was happening, yet he decides to do the same thing to me. And I'll probably be able to laugh about this. :] |
awe your story about you and Nick is so cute to me! :D
But I think either way you're going to have to tell Steven, hurting him or not. tell what you feel. o_o |
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I don't have to worry about Steven anymore, he's out of my life for good.. |
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