*hugs Crow* Good luck with everything. I wish I could help more. :<

@ljos- True, and at least you didn't guess younger! Oh, I hate that! "So, you like dressing up as a dude, but you're dating a guy? Doesn't that just make you a straight girl?" It's as if they think one cancels the other out! ,:C

Well, like, if dad is the dominant trait and mom is the recessive trait, dad would be DD and mom would be dd. You're Dd, one of your brothers is DD and the other is dd. 8D

In a lot of ways I am more masculine than my boyfriend. I don't mind this at all. I've often been called a "Tom boy" <3

People really are so uneducated and ignorant about trans matters, it's incredibly frustrating. Though I can understand it's probably a pretty difficult concept to get when you don't feel the same way at all. We can only hope education on these matters will get better, like with different sexualities. I'm guessing it was equally difficult to explain you were homosexual only a few years back (and still is in a lot of places I reckon), and that you'd get a similar reaction a lot. What annoys me the most is just when people don't seem to even care to listen to you when you try to explain it but just reject the notion immediately. That's just ignorance.

Oh yeah, duh, I knew that. >.>

Hey zia! (Can I call you that?) I am more masculine than a lot of my male friends, and still more feminine than some of my female friends. xD

Yeah! Ugh. Luckily, most of the people I know are pretty accepting. In fact the only people I know that aren't accepting are my boyfriend, his mom and his church. Conflicts, baah. >_>
Still, there are a lot of people who give me weird looks when I go out with a bound chest or say that I like girls and pretty much nobody I talk to understand any gay terms but GLB and sometimes T. D:,

That.. sounds like the worst person ever to have problems with it. >.< Most of the people I know are pretty open-minded anyway, but I've not really talked about it to a lot of them, so even though they see me being more masculine/feminine/androgynous and I don't exactly keep that or my sexuality a secret, I don't really know most of my friends' honest views on it. But they haven't confronted me about it either, so I'm guessing they at least don't disapprove strongly. I've been realising lately though that perhaps I should talk more about it, because a lot of people don't understand it and they might be afraid to ask or whatever. I think I'll probably at least talk to my family about it this summer, like, formally, when I go home.
But my country as a whole is very accepting of all kinds of things, including LGBT matters, and I know most of the people I know are very accepting. Still, there's a difference between saying you accept something and actually understanding it.. if you don't understand something, you'll never truly accept it, even though you might act like you do.

Are there any LGBT societies or something where you live? It can sometimes help to join those for the understanding, though to be honest, LGB people often don't really understand the T bit.. the LGBT society in my uni is pretty good, and they had a trans lecture this winter which was very interesting.

Yeah, I know. I think that I don't have to deal with that anymore. I don't know.
Good luck with that! Wow! That sounds so hard. D:
What country do you live in? America claims to be supportive and stuff, but it's about half and half.
Well, there's Rainbow Alley, but the people there don't particularly like me. They're really hypocritical.

I like to play myself off as male just because its more comfortable, and a lot of people I come across online never even guess that I'm not. I'm beginning to not see myself locked in the role of a certain gender, but as just a person with a unique personality.

It also irks me when people think I'm a lesbian because of the way I talk or act. Even my parents have gone there, which is disappointing. They still worry to this day that I'm queer. :/

It started back when I went to a boarding school and became close friends with one of the girls there. Still am today, she's an amazing person. But my parents freaked out over one night when I went to sleep over in her room and shared her bed. Immediately they pulled me out and told it to the whole church like we were "partners."

Do you mind me asking why, Anna? :/
I don't think it should be too hard. I've never tried to hide it anyway and it's just a part of who I am. I'm lucky enough that I've never viewed it as a problem, and I'm optimistic enough about my family's open-mindedness that I'm not feeling nervous about it.
I'm from Iceland, though I'm currently living in London. Both places are pretty gay-friendly.
Aw, that's too bad. LGBT communities can be super friendly.. and they can be super bitchy and/or hypocritical. :/

Louis, I usually play male too because it's more comfortable. I can never fit really properly into the girl role, and I usually have a hard time connecting with girls. And overly effeminate gay men. P:
And ugh, that sounds annoying as hell. I remember once two of my friends stayed over at my place because they missed the bus home - one guy, one girl. We have this big sofa-bed and we all slept on that. My mum found out the morning after and was a bit cross, but only because of the friend of the opposite sex. Even though I'd told her I was pansexual. ô.õ

Well, I broke up with him. He doesn't want me to tell anyone until Sunday, I think because he thinks I'll fall bak in love with him. The thing is, I didn't even want to break up with him last night, I wanted to wait until he was okay, until he had a job, but it was just inevitable. I don't want to play the religion card here, but I know there was a reason for me to break up with him last night. I don't think I would have been able to fake it.
Well, I'm glad it won't be hard for you! :D My family is pretty accepting, too. The first time I told my dad I was bi (in 8th grade), he told me it was a phase, but when I told him about my crush a few months ago, he asked if I liked women and we had a pretty nice chat about it. Of course, that made him root for the girl I have a crush on. >u>;;
I know, right? :< It's probably because it's in a bad neighborhood. :/ They're moving locations soon, so I'll go back and check.

Ah, I see. I'm sorry you had to break up, but it sounds like it was for the best? I hate breaking up with people.. I've only been in three actual relationship-relationships, and I ended all of them.. which means at least two of them still really resent me for it.. >.< But I felt so good afterward, even though I felt sad for them, it was so liberating for me. So I hope you feel that, and that he'll accept it faster than my exes. >.>
Haha, that's cool. xD I've sort of been waiting for a convenient moment for me to sort of.. spring it on them casually, which is what I did with my mum, but like, where I can properly explain it and get the feeling they get it and believe me, but I dunno.. if that chance doesn't come this summer, I'll just bring it up anyway.
Ah yeah, hopefully the attitude will change. :)

I definitely feel liberated, but he's so far from letting go. He still wants to hold my hand and see me on Sunday. He hopes he'll win me back. He tried to on the phone tonight. He's guilt-tripping and arguing and bringing his mother into this. It sucks. x_x What also sucks is that I can't feel sad about it because I'm feeling really happy about someone else. Of course, that someone else isn't online right now. </3 :lol:
Well, good luck with that! :) I hope, for your sake, that you find a good time.
Fingers crossed. :3

Egh, guilt-tripping. That sucks. >.< I broke up with my ex in early June last year and he still occasionally sends me text messages saying he misses me and that he can't live without me. We only dated for like three months or something, it's pretty disconcerting. X___x Hopefully you'll have better luck, and hopefully he won't manage to bring you down with him too much. It's good you're feeling happy about someone else. :)

What, really? :gonk: I really hope John doesn't do that... we dated for 2 years. I saw him today after the final night of Rent, and he didn't try to kiss me or anything, but he was acting as though we were still dating. I think he just needs time. :/
Hee, thanks. I feel really bad about liking someone else, but it's not like I can help it. >w>;;

Don't worry, he probably won't. My ex had issues. e____e I dated my first boyfriend for two years and it did indeed take him a little while to get used to the idea, understandably, but he got over it completely in a couple of months, by which time he'd long stopped bothering me about it. I usually just try my best to keep my distance as much as possible while they get over it, because that's what works best for me when I'm trying to get over someone.
Aw don't feel bad. Like you say, it's not like you can help it. Just enjoy the feeling. :)

All of my exes have had issues. Even my most recent significant other with whom I was "non exclusive"... upon their dating someone else still acted like they were dating me. Quite frustrating. Cuddling. Disciplinary Smacking. Tears. Accusations and Confusion. Not good all the way around.

[EDIT] ljos gets 50 gold in celebration of our thread's 100th post. We wouldn't have gotten this far if it wasn't for all of you. Hell my life is turned upside down at the moment so I'm really glad that as many of you feel at home here as you do.

Ooh, I didn't even notice I made the 100th post. Thanks! This place is awesome, so thank you for making it. :) Hope things are moving in the right direction with your real life situation.

And guh at exes. What is it with people like that? I just want to shake them, slap them once or twice and tell them to clear their brain and think for once. e____e It's really not that difficult.

In Japantown, SF a store called "New People" opened, and in it is a branch of the Japanese brand Black Peace Now as seen in the fashion-pron magazine "Gothic and Lolita Bibile". (Mana-sama is win as a guy or a girl). Anyways, the store caries girls clothing, guys clothing, and girls clothing inspired by guys clothing, for example a waistcoat looking deal but with a corset in back, and an awesome trenchcoat with a 'fluttering' flap over just one shouder, diagonally... I can't remember... it's been years since I've gone into a clothing store and actually really wanted to just joy browse and try different things on. Seriously... normally playing with a cat and a laser pointer ranks higher than the mere idea of clothing shopping any day.

But cats and laser pointers put together are so entertaining. o_o
My cats aren't, though.. They fancy themselves 'too smart' to chase after light.
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Anyways~ Hello again
That sounds like fun, crow.. I've actually heard of that magazine and clothing brand, lol. They have some really awesome clothes, and.. booots. @[email protected]'
Are you planning on buying anything from them? :P

I want a kittyyyyy~ ;_;

Dude, Crow, that sounds like the coolest store! 8D; I'd totally go with you, if I could. xP Also if I had several hundred dollars to blow but, pft, details.

Speaking of boots, Rainy! I just got the coolest Doc Marten boots because my stepmom bought them and didn't like them and she wears the same size as me. >w< (I love boots!)

Hiya, I'm Raven and was immediately drawn to this discussion due to my own identity and expressing myself as I choose to online. It's so comforting to see that other people are doing it too. Much love everyone!

Birdy said Flink should post here, so she is.

But she's posting here to ask. Birdy, if someone calls Flink sir at work, can she smack them? <3

Woo back from holiday! How has everyone been?

Since Birdy doesn't seem to want to answer.

LJOS! Can Flink hurt the people if they call her SIR at work? <3

Yes you can!!
Or maybe just glare at them, if you really like your job. Y'know, just to be on the safe side.
I went to a bar in Turkey and I was just dressed normally, looking.. I dunno, somewhere inbetween I guess. And one of the waiters thought I was the opposite sex. xD That's the second time in like, two weeks.. though the first time I was actually trying. It made my night.

Flink wasn't trying. XD

She was wearing her work clothes and had her hair down, for crying out loud. Flink's hair is in ringlets. >.< It's not like she was like the man in her line the other day in womens clothing, wearing makeup and everything who got pissed when the woman behind him called him ma'am when she complimented his shirt. XD