it is for me. and i have been steadily gaining weight since getting back. once it spiked and I ahd a sudden gain. understandable. but its been steadily going up for the last three months

Hon, I weigh 200lbs and I'm skin and bones.

Just do some simple work outs in the morning, and try to relax more. Stress causes problems like this. Besides, you are pretty, and a little extra weight won't change that. I'd know. I'm discerning when it comes to aesthetics.

*tackles joo* Meh

your also probably all muscle, it weighs more than fat

I weigh circa 86 lbs and I'm not anorexic. Then again, according to the DSM-IV one of the criteria for anorexia nervosia is stopping one's period, so I really do not know how that applies to males.

I did ask my new Primary Care Provider (ie Doctor) about that and he simply replied that my BMI (Body Mass Index) was still in the range of not being anorexic.

Then again, I do not have the mental disorder. I know I am underweight. I know I 'should' eat more. However I am often in too much pain to wash dishes, prepare food, etc, and then I'm too depressed oftentimes to do anything except try to keep my pain in check and not urinate on myself. =/

It's a bit funny and a bit sad, my roomate and I both do hate our body images and between the two of us we haven't any mirrors in our whole apartment save for the 1950's style medicine cabinent above the bathroom sink.

Tana will donate her body fat to you ^_^
I'm getting fat according to Navy standards, and I'm getting unomphortable with it myself.
but I find that I lack the motivation to actualy get up and do something about it.

Crow: I saw you on Facebook, too! I should know this, but who exactly are you cosplaying there in the blue uniform? :headscratch:

Tana: I am muscle and bone yeah. lol. but skinny skinny. And I have seen your pictures and you are fine. :P

scholar: Well, it depends on which album. Due to my height and hair colour I decided to give Haruhi Fujioka of Ouran High School Host Club a try. However, later that afternoon I met an Ouran group who was one character short. Their Kyoya became Mori-senpai to Honey-Senpai which left me to be Kyoya. I had to position myself/stand in such ways to make me look taller than I actually was in each picture of that set.

Either way, you are still free to designate me as your Host -glitter smile-

Crow:: I thought you were cosplaying someone from Ouran, but I haven't watched it and haven't read much of it at all, so I didn't know who. :P

Yeah, I know of Ouran but don't know the story. I should watch/read it sometime!

It's pretty good. I liked it very much. :)

I've got an article to write on some Ghibli stuff that's due in a month (and yay, it's my first, real, published article!), so probably after that I'll check out Ouran and see what the hype is.

I had an interesting thought earlier this week when I was driving by a school where some kids were playing dodgeball or something... how many times as a child did (or does, for those still in school) your school split you up for PE as "boys against girls"? It *seems* like such a "natural" split for those who don't think about gender as anything fluid, but the moment you start questioning the boy/girl binary, it becomes something horribly uncomfortable... Just a thought I had, really. I wonder if any schools are changing their policies so that kids might not be "outed" before they're ready.

Or, to take the devil's advocate side, should it simply not be an issue if a biological or outwardly-appearing "boy" prefers to be on the girls' team, or the other way around? Sometimes I wonder if it's in fact detrimental to gender identity to walk on eggshells around the question... Hm. Thoughts, anyone?

We had some gym classes that were split all the way, girls gym and boys gym. But that was only a couple, the rest were co-ed and the teams were too, because they wanted them to be fair. They thought all girl teams would be at a disadvantage.

In my middle school, the girls usually won at dodgeball, about half the time at basketball, but we always lost at soccer and baseball. Then again, my eighth grade was 10 people: four girls, six boys.

.... >.> I've known quite a few women who are stronger than most of the men I know. Kinda scary, but it's funny too XD

I'm a strong woman. lol.

My friend posted this on Facebook, and I thought it would be interesting for you guys. It was for me. ^^
One teachers approach to preventing gender bullying in a classroom

`Kitami:- That was a beautiful post, and it almost made me want to cry.

(Oh no, I said the word 'cry'! You know, that reminds me. During university I was in Linguistics class, and before class had really come together I was talking with a handful of other students about the load of work that was being piled upon us all at once because every single professor seemed to be under the impression that their course was our _only_ course. At one point, a few silent tears silpped down my cheek and one girl started freaking out and said "You really you know we're in trouble if [myrealname] starts crying!")

Anyways, I digress. That was a beautiful article to learn from.

I must say I rather liked the article as well. Though... like is probably too light a term, but love is all wrong too.
Anyway. It makes me wish there were more teachers like that.
Thank you for sharing.

As for a personal story relating to that: I actually have one.
There was a girl in my elementary school who was a tomboy. Sort of like the girl in the story. I can't count the times someone who was new had felt it necessary to ask and pester other students about "is she a girl? is he a boy?" It wasn't abnormal for us to see [name] dressed in more stereo-typically male clothing and with short hair because everyone just grew up around her. It was a good school with students who didn't care about what your differences were - just if you wanted to play freeze tag or not. Everyone included everyone and there was minimal bullying. I do remember very clearly replying to a new girl who was asking about [name] that "[name] is just [name] - why does it matter?"
I really miss that school. I wonder if those sort of values are still being taught to the kids there... though... I don't know who instilled them. I think it may have just been having a good group of kids in the older grades. It influenced everyone younger and everything went very smoothly. Hm.

Originally Posted by `Kitami

My friend posted this on Facebook, and I thought it would be interesting for you guys. It was for me. ^^
One teachers approach to preventing gender bullying in a classroom

Tana likes!!!!!!

Originally Posted by TanaChan

Tana likes!!!!!!

I like the article too. :) I shared it on my Facebook. ^_^; It was a very interesting article. :)

I was somewhat girly as a kid, although I played with "boys" toys too. I grew up with my great aunt, and over the years we realized the Gender Stereotyping was wrong. Although she grew up during the 50s, and things were different during that era. Women didn't wear pants. :S Dresses and skirts. :-/

I never liked dresses too much or skirts, just wore 'em to keep family happy.

Glad y'all liked the article. ^_^

Myself, I wore dresses, skirts, tights, lacy little socks, and Mary-Jane shoes nearly every day until I was like 12. But at that point most of my friends were boys and I felt out of place in girly clothes. I got progressively more tomboyish, till I was like 18 or 19. Then I was sort of tired of being treated like "one of the guys", so I compromised and dressed a little more femininely.

How I dressed was entirely up to me though, my family never preferred one style of clothing over another. They didn't stereotype. My teachers were fairly good about it too, the only time I can remember them saying someone couldn't dress a certain way (meaning in opposite gender clothing) was a time when my friend came to school in her older brother's jeans, which she had to change because they were too big and kept trying to fall down. :XD And the other time was when this boy lost a bet and wore his sister's blouse to school, and they made him change because it was too small for him and so it showed "an inappropriate amount of skin". :lol:

The latter story amuses me. lol.

Sometimes I find it funny how I'm treated because of my different nature. Honestly, most guys don't notice unless I tell them, and Girls seem to really like it.

Girls like that kind of thing. You understand us. :P

I understand everyone though. lol. It's a brain thing I have. You know this.