But surely the masculine and feminine "qualities" are social constructions and therefore it is not a question of "staying in the sex you are born in" (which is problematic in its own right) but rather a question of whether you want to adhere to society's strict gender rules or break free of them?

Let me first say I'm glad you're not the type to take arguments personally, I enjoy debates too but I know I can come off as a bit harsh. It's always the difficulty with the internet, where there are no facial expressions, and I always feel like I'm somehow dumbing down my argument if I post a bunch of smiley faces in there!

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Originally Posted by greendragon06 (Post 1770425661) While I understand where you are coming from ljos, are all qualities male or female by society's standards alone? Can we say with 100% certainty that there are not some things that are innately male and innately female? I'm very hesitant to put things in black and white because I think that there are grays in nearly everything. Even the idea of their only being two sexes is an idea created by society as there is more than two sexes although I would have to pull the research to tell you how many there actually are, but xx and xy are not the only genetic sexes there is also xxy and xo at least and probably other combinations as well.

I would say that there are female and male things but only with regard to physical abilities. Even then I am extremely hesitant to call them male or female, as I know it upsets a lot, if not most trans* people to hear things like "becoming pregnant = FEMALE" (since trans men can indeed become pregnant while trans women cannot and all other trans* people are a mixture thereof). So I will accept that if you are born with a uterus, you can likely become pregnant, if you are born with testicles you can likely get someone pregnant and there's probably also some strength and muscle related differences in the general build up of the bodies, though those can I think all be overcome in most cases with the right workout.
There is nothing inherent about being born with a uterus and.. I don't know, liking fashion and the colour pink or about being born with testicles and liking cars and sports. Those are social standards we are raised with, and they change between generations, which I think is proof enough that they have nothing to do with the body we are born with.

And yes, there are much more than two sexes. There is a huge variety of intersex people though most of them are sadly mutilated by doctors at their birth to forcefully push them into the mold of either male or female. The question of chromosomes is always a funny one too because it's something people tend to fall back on, while the fact is that most people have never had a chromosome test and therefore cannot know a 100% which chromosomes they have!
If you're interested, here [TW: medical violence] is a fantastic blog post about the variety of genitalia (specifically regarding intersex) and how they are changed by doctors to "fit" either a vagina or penis. It also mentions some chromosome differences.
Here is also a very good quote from the same blog (link to the post):

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Originally Posted by Intersex roadshow There is a lot of variation in how each of the four basic parts of the genitalia develop from person to person in all of us. For example, we acknowledge with a lot of rib-elbowing the variation in penile size. Variation in the size and shape of genitalia, and in other parts of the body, is part of human diversity. Surgeons are well aware that livers and lungs and blood vessels vary a lot between individuals, and may look quite different from an iconic anatomical diagram. But we rarely care about having an unusually shaped liver. The shape of genitals, however, is given huge cultural weight, because we pin our commitment to dyadic gender roles on them. We look at the shape of a newborn’s genitalia and project a future of dresses and diets and talking about emotions, or sports and strength and getting under the hood of a car. We do know that people are complicated. Most of us want to be more than walking gender stereotypes. Still, we understand people through the lens of dyadic gender difference, and intersex people call that into question. When we see a baby born with intermediate genitalia, and can’t project a future for them based on our well-known gender narratives, people in our society—including doctors—freak out.

Also... blueberry coffee?? That is a thing? O____o

Really? Where? :)

How would I process that? I'm not sure I understand your question.. so if someone assigned female at birth said that they didn't like their genitals/voice/other physical traits generally seen as belonging to people with uterus..es(?) then.. what? Sorry, I'm going to need you to elaborate.. :x

I can't decide whether I think blueberry coffee sounds horrible or interesting.. where do you get it from?