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Tana-dear- How on earth have you been? It has been ages since I've heard anything from you.
Also, for everyone, here is an article featuring 27 male-identifying people holding signs of quotes they were given during sexual assault. It is extremely moving, but also potentially triggering: 27 Male Survivors Of Sexual Assault Quoting The People Who Attacked Them What do you think about sexual violence and how it relates to gender? From my observation... between physicality and years upon years of social-gender contstructs, females seem to be on the "receiving" end. However, I have never thought that men could not be abused :( Children despite their gender are vulnerable. I also feel for trans-people who have been abused as a way to try to keep them from being who they really are. |
i've been good Crow-Sama
I had my baby five weeks ago |
Tana-dear- Congrats on your little one! Boy or girl? Name? Pics?
Also, for discussion, the transgender 16 year old who actually won homecoming queen is... crying: i should be so happy… | GenderTrender |
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Oh that's a cute picture Tana.
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thank you
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Hey everybody, how is everybody doing?
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I'm still trying to come to terms with identity things. I'm figuring out all this stuff when everybody else my age seems to be getting married and such.
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It happens Crow-Sama.
I'm still figuring myself out too, I just have a baby to deal with now and a husband who hates how warm it is in San Diego. |
Aaaah, wow. I was reading over the first page and all, and Kirin sounds like me. Except I'm 23. I get referred to as sir/ma'am at my jobs, sometimes they 'correct' themselves upon revelation of 'born gender'. I, much like Kirin, am constantly thought of as younger. I have been politely [yet accusingly] asked by a police officer how old I was while I was eating breakfast in public. During the school year. At ten in the morning. I promptly stated my age, 21/22 at the time... and his eyes widened and he sighed in relief, "Dear god I thought you were fourteen!" which made me wonder WHAT he would have done had I been underage and playing hookie. Would he have driven me to the nearest school in his cop car? I mean I really didn't see the point of the question unless he really needed to know...
I've also asked some people at my job for ID when buying an M-rated game and a customer has snapped on me for asking him HIS age when I looked 15 and shouldn't even be working. :I I get told that I'm a cute little girl sometimes or that I act rather feminine in motion regardless of my clothing. I get told I have a high pitched voice sometimes and am even mocked for it. In contrast, I have been told I act crude and vulgar with a voice swinging more towards teenage boy in tone. I get really bad social anxieties and so my voice naturally shoots up high when I'm panicking or dealing with public things, aka my job. Overall, I've been granted glorious attraction I guess? I have had both male and female heteros fawn over me, the females saying how 'they'd go gay' for me. I've also had some male and female homos say the same - though straight. I've been asked if I was in the process of a sex change because 'I appeared more boyish'. So in conclusion, I've decided I am a super villain with pronounced youthful looks that attracts every orientation and absorbs it and they all cancel out and makes me asexual. People have said my androgyny is my charm, though? I'm not sure what to make of that. |
shotabot: Thank you for sharing your anecdote. I get accosted trying to buy a single serving of cold medicine. Last time I went to pay someone to cut my hair for me they asked if I was still in (high) school. It is strange in a society that "glorifies" youth, how often people jump on you because you do look 'too' young.
I had a bit of a rough day, but I did want to welcome you. You are not alone, and I hope to get to know you for your intelligence and interests, rather than superficial snap judgements seeded in ageism, racism, sexism, or any other "ism"... and that you can return the same to me. |
Tana just looks her age...I have gotten told I look older, which isn't necessarily something I want to hear when I'm 24...but there is no mistaking my gender. Certain anatomynpeices are to large for that, and I have a dace that screams girl.
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The_Crow: Oh, well thank you for the welcome!! I'm glad you felt well enough to get online after a rough day... normally online social-things cheer me up better than wallowing in my own misery/rough feelings alone. I hope you are doing a bit better now, though? And yes, it seems like everytime age comes into play it's either I'm too young to do squat OR I'm going to relish it when I'm older.
Um. I would rather not have those two extremes be the only viewing I get, butttttt such is life. TanaChan: Nothing wrong at all there. To be fully honest, I was much more well endowed a year ago... but large hoodies took care of that rather well. I eventually balled up enough courage and got medically-needed breast reductions for back pain. Now I'm much more androgynous in less layers but also in a lot less pain. C: So as long as you aren't in pain and are not self-loathing for women-based traits, absolutely perfect. |
I don't self loath, I like my figure for the most part...I think I'm a bit flabby at the moment, but I did just give birth
but I was a bit over weight according to standards before getting pregnant |
*wanders in* Hello everybody, how are you all doing? I hope you are all doing well.
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As a gender-flexibile person, I see that these observations about polarized gender are true. I love living in the world between, and I feel that trying to be the extreme of either gender is cross dressing, so to speak.
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I'll have to watch that video later.
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