I could send him those types of pics to his email, though. >o> bahaha. Still don't think I'm going to.

I have to be careful to what pictures I send to Loveh.
So I totally understand you're reasoning Stern. :hug:

I got a new car.

Hopeh: How come, lol?

Fall: Yay! What'd you get?

Zombie and I had an argument last night over him saying he would get on Skype to see his daughter and he hasn't done it. We haven't said anything to each other since...

Cupcake keeps hitting the keyboard so I have to keep editing my post, bahaha.

She's a modern day writer.

I got a '99 buick century.

Oh nice, lol!! I hear those last forever! What color is it?

Hey Stern, Good idea for a thread. I tried opening a similar one up when i first joined. It was more general though, as in being apart from them for a long time xD

My partner isn't on deployment yet, but we are long distance. He's planning on joining the Navy in the near future too, so its certainly coming, as he's wanting to be an officer in the Subs D=

I was also pokin through to see if Hoplessly was in here, and she was ^^

Thanks! You tried? What happened to it? Mine was pretty dead here for a while, with just me and my bestie talking (who isn't in a long distance relationship or have a hubby in the military. she is thinking about joining, though). I think long distance relationships are hard too. I've been in a few of those, myself, before I met my hubby, lol. The navy, huh? Wow. I'm not sure if I could handle him being gone in a sub with no way to contact me for months at a time. Oy. D:

hehe, yeah. Hopeh posts in here, too! <3

Indeed, and thats what worries me D=

Its ok when you get the opportunity to write letters or call. But there'd be times when he's down there and i wouldn't get a zip for 3/6 months.

I go mental if i don't at least get a phone call everyday, so goodness knows how i'm going to handle that =/

Still, i haven't seen him for nearly 3 weeks atm, and its gonna be another 2 yet. -sniffle-

Have you heard from your hubby yet? -huggle!-

Even then it's not really okay, lol, but I know what you mean. It's hard having to deal with it but you deal with it as best you can (and sometimes not so much, like me recently). I haven't heard from him in a couple days.

Bless you. How long is he on deployment for?

And i hope your little one is doing ok. It can't be easy not having daddy helping. I bet it'll be hard for him if he's got to miss cupcakes first steps and stuff D=

James said that will be the hardest parts about him joining the Navy, missing the little things like that.

Lovey isn't left yet, and it bothers me how much our contact has dropped. He only calls every 2 to 3 weeks. Not often enough at all.

:hug:

-Huggles Hopeh-

So far the contact thing hasn't been an issue. But i do know how hard it is to say goodbye, me hates it! D=

I have goodbyes as well!! :(

Lavi: He's gone for six months. :(
She's doing okay. Sometime she cries "for no reason" but I know it's because she knows something isn't right, someone who was in her daily life isn't anymore. Plus she can sense that somethings different, anyway. Yeah, it sucks not having him around to help. He actually helped me out a lot with her, so not getting to get a real break until she goes to bed at night is kind of stressful, but oh well. Gotta do what you gotta do. Yeah, not just that though, he's going to miss her crawling, first steps, saying more than "dada" (she recently started saying "mama" and "baba" since he's been gone), our first wedding anniversary, and her first birthday. So it's going to suck.

Yeah, you have to expect to miss out on things like that when you join up, but they're around whenever that can be. 6 months gone, 15 months home, that's really not that bad. It just seems absolutely horrible when they are gone.

Hopeh: I hate that. I'm sorry you guys aren't communicating like normal.

Sooo, zombie called me tonight. Well, this afternoon really. All he said about what happened was that it was hard to see her growing up with him not here. Sigh. Then the conversation moved along, like we never got into an argument in the first place. I just hope he really realizes that if he does shut his daughter out because it's "too hard for him", she really won't remember him when he gets back. And what's going to hurt more? Watching her grow up? Or her not knowing who you are when you walk up to her? It took everything I had not to ask him those questions. I just really didn't want to start up another argument, or he's not going to try to contact me anymore (like he did yesterday, got nothing from him all day long cus he was pissed).

-group huggle-

I don't even like saying goodbye when its over the phone. Like if he has to go to bed or work, im like nuuuuuu, 5 more minutes please! xD

*joins in on the huggles*

Stern
Oh, that does suck that he's going to miss all of that. :(
:hug:
And yeah, it's hard, I just wish that he could call more often. Bothers me, but when he does, it makes me happy. I did get to talk to him online briefly on Friday, which was great, I could just tell that I didn't have his full attention.

Awe! At least he called you. And that's probably a good thing, not starting another argument. I hope that would be hard, I can imagine, if she doesn't remember him when he gets back. :hug: I hope that he can get online so she can see him on webcam soon!! :yes: I don't want her to forget her father!

-joins in the group huggle as well- <3

Lavinia
I am the same way when ever Loveh calls me. We're always like "Ok, bye." "No bye." "Bye?" "Bye?" and then just laughing as neither of us wants to hang up.

Ugh, i feel bad for you Stern. It must be hard being alone like that. And if i was him i'd hate to leave them so early. She probably wouldn't remember him, she'd be what, 13 months old then? Walking, forming baby sentences, forming a personality. It will probably be hard but if its meant to be it will work out :)

I can imagine its tempting to get angry and ask questions like that, but i guess when you hardly get chance to talk you hold back. Im sure there will be times in these 6 months you will break down though, it is expected, and you would go mad if you didn't do it!

And Hope - I hope it gets better for you soon. I imagine he's havin hard days too eh. Ack, and i thought my distance was harsh...its only gonna get worse when he joins up D=

Lavinia
Oh, thanks. Yeah, I know he is. He told me on Friday, it was an off day, and I was like "Oh my Poor Dork, anything I can do to make it better?" He wasn't all that talkative. -huggles- We'll all make it through together.

Hopeh: :hug: What do you mean about knowing you didn't have all of his attention? What else was he doing? :(

Yeah, it was good to hear his voice. If he keeps it up she won't. He did say that he might get on tomorrow because he can go into work a couple hours later tomorrow. Then again, he said that last week too and didn't show up. Remember? Cupcake and I waited on Skype for hours. It wasn't until after I had to leave to let my mom on base that he got online. Even then he could only be on for two minutes before having to leave to rush for work. So, if he gets on, then cool. If he doesn't, then whatever. I'm not going to sit around waiting on him to get on anymore.

Lavi: Awe, don't feel bad for me. I'm alright. It sucks but I'll get through it. Might even look back at it and think it wasn't all too bad. We'll see when that time comes. He's supposed to come back some time in October. So yeah, she's going to be between 12-13 months when they see each other again. If she doesn't remember him, it'll suck, but I'm sure she'll warm up to him rather quickly. She seems to warm up pretty well to mau5ie (her god-mom) and my parents whenever she gets to see them, and that's like every other month or so. And of course I break down, lol! That's a given. :P

Aye, tis a given! And also a given that you can't wait online for hours when you've responsibilities elsewhere.

And yeah, kiddies are good like that. My partners neice used to cry everytime i held her, and it would only be once every 2 months or so, nowadays she's warming to me alot. Even if she doesn't remember who i am, i guess i get more familiar to more times she's seen me xD

Stern
To be honest, I don't know. I'd write him something and he'd take like 5 minutes sometimes to respond to a simple question. It just felt to me like he wasn't really there. then again, he rarely gets the time/chance to get online so he was probably trying to get everything done... but still. -pout- I'm being unreasonable aren't I?

And you shouldn't have to sit around for hours at the given time that he told you he'd get on for him not to show up at all. :( And that sucks that it was just for like 2 minutes. That's not long enough at all! :hug:

Lavi: Yep! lol, that's so cute. Babies can also sense if you're nervous. If you're nervous, you'll make them nervous. They can tell a difference between mommy holding them and someone else holding them. Mommy is more comfy. xP

Hopeh: I don't think you're being unreasonable, but I also think you're so understanding. It's refreshing. You're not pitching a fit and throwing a jealous tantrum about him getting his online stuff done as well. I wish I could be more like that. I'd probably say something, and hence back to where my problem is, heh. D:

Seriously. It was long enough for me to actually get this kid to look at the computer screen instead of elsewhere and POOF he had to go. It was like "Hi Cupcake! Okay, I have to go now."

Stern
Not that we're saying anything about horses, but they can sense your fear as well. :XD Ok, yeah, horse nerd in me coming out for a sec. :P

And yeah, I'm trying to understanding and not throw a hissy fit because he's not paying attention to me, even though I do want to at times. There are times when I do feel like saying something that would probably just piss him off, and I don't want to make his day any harder. I don't like fights, they're no fun at all! They make me sad. I actually went to a friends house today, and got to spend some time with her and she took me aside and we had a long talk about how she knows how much, well she can start to guess how hard it's for me, and that I don't have to keep up the act of staying/keeping strong, and I totally broke down and started to cry. Sometimes it's hard to just stay strong as I've been trying to.

Oh, that sucks! :( I'm sorry to hear that! :(