O_o

Well... it's still not nice. Hurting someone emotionally is never good, even if it causes something that could be good in the end, it hurts.

I used to get made fun of for a lot of things, so I know how it goes.

Most people just crawl in a corner and cry o.o

Personally instead of saying "you're fat" I try to give weight loss advice I learned from class and cheerleader them as they work toward losing weight

Now if you're the size of a small car and weigh about as much of one... that's just plain dangerous and needs not only emergency lipo but an emergency lifestyle change....

That is a good way about it. *nods*

*dances* Listening to my motivational music, and working on writing to mah girlfriend.. Five Finger Death Punch for the win!! XD

I was always been call lazy and slut and things... why it doesn't seem a problem compare to fat? O__O

Saying anything mean or negative to anyone at all for anything isn't right!

I wish I could change the world and make it perfect and wonderful and there was no hate or negativity, but it's not that simple unfortunately.

A what? O.o for a girl who doesn't touch people that last one is a very inaccurate term...

If they're constantly insulting you though I can see why you would consider it fine...

I think only in the case of friends mocking each other, knowing that they don't meat it is the only time it's okay...

not they. lol.
It is my mum.
Because I am lazy to do housechores... XD
however, I don't understand how untidiness relate to... slut? O__O
But I don't mind a bit.
I care less. XD

Which is why I don't understand why people take 'fat' as such a murderous insult. We can't change people, so we have to do a good defense from our part. I for one, ignore those comments and just smile at them for lowering their own level to use all those insulting words.
I won't say I am not angry at all, but it is just a flash of red for a few seconds. After 3 deep breaths, I am fine again~

Uhh... I didn't know that had anything to do with being untidy...
Basically she's calling you the kind of person who sleeps around with tons of men... o.o

It's just that there are people who are emotionally fragile still. Some people spend their whole lives being insulted... some don't. I personally did so like you I can ignore it for the most part.

Which is why I am confused... I check the dictionary when she scolded me that.
Her theory is, those kind of people do not have a tidy place... so she relate that...?

I commented people's art, where is wrong is wrong. How come those are not as insulting as fat?
I don't understand the logic. Both are pointing out the bad part... why people are more fragile with fatness?
How about my small eyes? big pores face? D:

Oh and to be fair, I don't think I understand the insult when mom first use it. XD it took me a long while to FINALLY go and check out what is that word. At that time, suppose I was already got my heat off, no more feelings.

They can be rather tidy... really depends on the person.

Well commenting on art and insulting art are two different things. If you say "Your art sucks" it's the same as "you're fat"... but if you say "I don't like X Y and Z" it's more like saying "I think you would benefit from losing a bit of weight"...

It's mostly just using "tact" when commenting on something.

... lol. I never comment art in one sentence like that.
I would say, the hand is long, anatomy wrong, shading not logic.
More details... those are pointing out mistake, NOT how to fix.
So I have the same attitude in dealing with a lot of things. Like... your thigh is fat. fat is fat, or maybe I would say not skinny? 3 syllables, might as well settle with fat. *shruggs*

I felt like if you sugar coat a lot of things, it is like beating around the bush, kind of fake. Maybe that is why I prefer people to be straightforward. Don't waste time sugar coat it! Get to it so I can improve already~

That's constructive criticism, giving details on what needs worked on.
Just because you aren't saying what needs fixed doesn't mean you aren't showing them what to look at and improve. I wish more people would do that for me =/

I've had everything I've done sugar coated by my parents and I hated it... all my creative work was blunted by "Oh it looks great" when it was garbage...

But I dunno maybe it's an american thing... maybe it's because obesity is sort of an epidemic here...

So now if my younger cousins ask my opinion for their artwork... I was speechless.
I don't know how to response.

When I was small, my parents always praise for my artwork. I WAS happy, but now I am not, because I felt like I could use a bit more improvement if they were honest from the beginning. *shruggs*

Yeah that's how I felt... it's like "I just begged you for proper constructive criticism" and nothing happens to benefit...

"Oh it's perfect" is the same thing as "It's garbage" in my book with art

*thread loves Clock* XD

O_O Poet... your avatar... *drools*

lol

Poetet doesn't look like a food... why droool?

Cause that avatar looks amazing!! XD

... is it?
XD

hmm... the night before Chinese New Year is Reunion Dinner...

*dances* XD

*hugs Clock*

I am sorry... why no more dancing?

=O Nowhere to dance? Dance can happen anywhere!!!

And hey, lots of uncoordinated people dance, don't let that stop ya!! lol, I believe in you Clock!! XD