I can't believe what I just read on the last page. I am seriously contemplating the possibility that the world has been upended while I slept.

My little Ermy is all growinged ups! T_T NOOOOOoooo.........

*sigh*

And for the record, I prefer women, too. Both sexes can be equally difficult to get on with, and all human beings are a tad devious sometimes, but I do feel more comfortable with chicks. Or maybe they're more comfortable with me, Iunno.

I'm starting to wonder if I'm not getting old or something though, because my powers are beginning to fail me. Maybe Ermy's secretly taking them from me and that's why she's got a BF now and mine hasn't messaged me in almost a week.

Either that or I'm just really lame as far as GF material goes. I know I kind of suck at relationships.

*sigh*

I feel like I'm turning into some dried-up old hag or something.

It's so much easier to talk to women than it is to talk to men.
Well, IRL anyway.

Here, it doesn't make a big difference to me. But IRL, women. I will talk to women easier than I'll talk to men. Men kind of scare me. I always get really weird around them.

Any idea why? I mean, aside from the possibility of being knocked in the head and dragged to a cave?

XD

I dunno, they just make me uncomfortable.
But then when I get to know them I get too comfortable with them.

I feel like men are unpredictable. I can't read them.

Oh, they're usually predictable enough, in my experience. They're just good at hiding it. XD

Lots of fast talk and redirection and dancing around things, sometimes even to the point of being passive aggressive. All simply to hide the "shameful" truth that they want all the goodies and none of the responsibilities.

To be fair, women are the same way, we just do it differently, I guess. And for different reasons.

I guess I'm just basing this in my own limited experience with men.
Perhaps I need to meet more men?

Nah....

HUMMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

Yay for Canada! They get a whole day of not being blamed for children's profanity!

And yeah, I get a lot more guy action than girl action (if once a year counts), but girls are where it's at.

I was just about to say the forum's moving too fast, but now it's a matter of pride.

*posts faster*

I been sick, gimme a break.

*posts harder*

I'm just glad I have time for it. And I'm kind of glad I don't bother with having my own hangout anymore, I'd never be able to keep up with it and all of this at the same time.

I honestly don't like trying to generalize the genders, associating one set of traits with one, and another set of traits with the other. People are just people, and I think alienating one of the genders is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Dys, I do agree with you, but there are some generalizations which seem a lot more gender-specific than others.

True, there are always going to be exceptions.

For example, I fart out loud and often have a hand down my pants.

But considering the fact that men and women really are raised differently and given different views of reality the whole time, I do believe some traits tend to be more specific to one than the other. It can't be helped.

Whether they own it or rebel against it is a different matter altogether, and is part of what makes for differences. There really are men out there who think that women are inferior and must be controlled, etc. Sure, there are women who say the opposite is true, but it's the way it's said and how it's gone about, etc.

Queen Victoria was opposed to feminism, and do you know why? She saw it as women revoking their female privelege and superiority over men. XD

So true, generalization is an erroneous thing mostly, but even stereotypes are sometimes based on reality.

Most girls I know have completely different beliefs and values than most guys I know. We're not a homogenous species. We just tend towards it because we know that polarities can be flawed, is all.

Just my opinion.

I've never been one for taking sides on anything, but being human and being female, I naturally tend to have a bias towards women. It just happens. It sucks, but it happens.

I don't think that everyone is the same, but I think everyone has the same potential to demonstrate any trait, good or bad. Its true that society pushes us toward one direction or the other, but I don't think its truthful to say that men are poor communicators or women are kind. People are just people. And the more you generalize the opposite gender, the more you alienate yourself from them.

I agree.

I do try not to come off as sexist.

I just fail it sometimes.

Iunno. It just kinda feels like if you look and treat half the human race like they're a whole other creature with completely different capacity for behavior and emotions, then how are you going to have any empathy necessary to build bridges and solidify bonds with them? People are just people, and if you look at them and see aliens, its gonna be hella harder to get anywhere with any of them.

It's not that they're a different species, there are simply some cultural differences. And if I were to assume that those cultural differences didn't exist, that could be potentially more alienating than anything else, maybe.

I've never had much luck with guys by asking them if they wanted to go clothes shopping or to Sunday brunch. They themselves will remind me that men and women are different, and imply that there's something wrong with me for not knowing it.

True, the whole thing is suck, and leaves people feeling like there's a wall there sometimes, but sometimes even imaginary walls are sort of real.

The only success I've ever had in dealing with the "opposite sex" is when I take into account the fact that they're not women, and they have their own culture. True, every individual is different, and we all have traits in common, but no matter what I do there's always someone there to tell me I'm wrong.

Either for seeing the differences or for seeing the sameness.

Goodnight, Amane!

I agree with you that people are different. But those differences don't arise strictly from sex or gender.

And that seems pretty silly to me. If they don't want to go shopping, they don't want to go shopping, but there's no reason to bring sex or gender into it. I've gone browsing clothes with a male friends, I've gone browsing porn stores and gaming stores with a female friend. Its just personal preference.

I think the most success anyone can have with interacting with another person of any gender is understanding and respecting them despite any differences. But if you make up differences based on what they are, then it'll just make it harder and harder for you guys to connect, y'know?