| firefly0 |
04-06-2015 01:28 PM |
(is this long enough)
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Bradly, 28 from United Kingdom writes…
I have been with me girlfriend for the better part of 2 years. I was without a girlfriend for quite some time, but she appeared into my life and ended it thankfully. When I first met her she was overweight, but it wasn’t anything too bad, I could live with it. The problem is that her weight has been going up ever since we became a couple, I mean a lot! It has gotten to the point where she would definitely be considered obese. She continually has to get larger clothes, already the size she bought late last year are looking tight. Honestly, she’s less attractive to me, to the point where I am turned off of sex. I am a pretty slim and tall guy, we don’t even look right together any more. It is sad, her personality is alright, but this has become a major issue. Doc, would I be an asshole by bringing this issue up with her? Telling her how I feel? I am really beginning to second guess this relationship.
zDr Thatslife has this to say….
The whole weight thing is a brutal topic, particularly when your partner goes from heavy duty to livestock proportions. You’re probably beginning to worry about just how much this girl will expand; with lucid nightmares of her rolling over at night suffocating you under the weight of her massive, sweaty, mammary glands.
I don’t think you would be an asshole for talking the issue over with her, but you wouldn’t be covering any new ground. Both of you know she has weight issues – she’s already well aware of that. The only breaking news in such a conversation is perhaps just how uncomfortable you have become with her weight.
The real issue I want to deal with isn’t in fact her weight, it’s the relationship itself. From your consultation, two things stand out. First, you made a point of mentioning that she saved you from the solitude of being without a girlfriend for what most likely felt like an eternity. Bradley, when you’re out at sea for a long time without catching anything, Captain Dickhead takes command of the ship, and he doesn’t give a fuck about anything except finding a warm hole to unload your balls into.
When you met her, you most likely lacked self confidence, and frankly, were probably pretty desperate. It is under these circumstances when we become attracted to less than stellar partners that will play onzthe deficiencies we hold within ourselves. It’s almost as if such a couple feeds of each other’s insecurities. What stemmed from a primal desire to have companionship and to just sit and play with a set of tits; has turned into a relationship that has more than likelyzexceeded its use by date.
Secondly, you really don’t sound ecstatic about the relationship. I think you’re hanging on to her due to a lack of better options, and thezfear of returning to solitude. When you wake up in the morning and think about her, you ain’t doing the jig of happiness,zit’s obvious.zIf some well built lass with a bubbly personality entered your life, you’d drop the whale in a heartbeat.
You owe it to yourself to do a serious reassessment of the relationship from top to ever amassing bottom. Build your confidence, appreciate who you are, and most importantly don’t be scared of not being in a relationship, for the sake of finding the right one.
That’s life buddy.... Dr. That's Life
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