Amane- I'm the reason they're coming back. ...Nah, but it definitely a trend that is to my tastes!
Why does coffee annoy you a little?

Moonlit- Oooof, yeah, not ideal! Not at all.
I can't think of any smells that make me feel naseous aside from the ordinary ones... Dog food did for a little while, but that's all I can think of!

I basically banned coffee from the house - it doesn't really bother me anymore, at least not like it did in those first 14 or so weeks... So at least he can have coffee again without having to go and buy it elsewhere. Actually I think my sister in law was giving him coffee in a travel mug to take to work with him so that it'd not be in the house at all. But I literally told him that because my morning sickness was already so bad first thing, that I didn't need to be adding to the nausea any more with the smell of coffee... at least Plan B worked out for him.

Where there's a will to have coffee, there is a way! at least you got something worked out that suited the both of you well enough.



Uuugh, totally unrelated, just me needing to vent, BUT... the university I just graduated from just cut their student peer advocate sexual assault awareness and response team. :/ They did presentations about consent and rape culture for student groups, classes, fraternities, sororities, etc, ran a 24/7 phone hotline for survivors of sexual assault, and provided resources for survivors on campus. I was never a part of that group specifically, but I was involved in groups that worked closely with it, and know many of the people who volunteered for it very well. It was a very well regarded program NATIONALLY, not just on campus, completely ridiculous that they disbanded it. I'm livid! It's so, so frustrating to see this ENORMOUS step backwatlrd. :/

Yep, he could have it as long as it wasn't had in the house at all.

Ugh! :[ Was it a lack of funding that caused them to cut it? But really that's so stupid to get rid of it. :(

He just had to get creative! Oh well, definitely worth you not being even sicker. :)

That's what it looks like. Honestly, the only person they were PAYING to be part of the program was the woman who runs it, and she has other responsibilities as well, so it's not like cutting this program will get rid of her salary. Beyond that, all the university pays for is the resources for students who are survivors need, the phones for the hotline, and educational materials the peer advocates use. A drop in the bucket as far as university spending goes, especially given that this one is pretty big, with 40,000 students. There's a bunch of other ways they could have saved that money, and they went for one of the most important things on campus. It's such a joke. Not a funny one, either. You can bet I'm drafting some (politely worded) angry letters, smh

Yep, I literally did a happy dance when my morning sickness (such a joke -- all day sickness) started going away.

D: Sometimes I question people's motives... really?! I can totally see that program being something that would be a huge help to a lot of people. I know I would have wanted to be involved in it. It's a wonderful idea! And getting rid of it is a HORRIBLE mistake on their part. Good! They need to know how stupid a mistake it was getting rid of it!!

Maybe let yourself go all out and don't hold back on the wording on one just to see if that helps to get out your anger and frustration so that the one you do send won't be too angry, but will be worded how you want it. Worth a try. Sometimes burning angrily written letters helps a ton too! At least it's helped me. :)

Yeck, all day sounds awful. How many months did it last?

A terrible mistake! It's helped a lot of people and would continue to do so. Luckily, my entire FB feed right now is people raising awareness on what happened and people who are furious about it, so hopefully we get loud enough to make the administration rethink this. The worst part is, our campus' police department and administration has had issues with how it's responded to sexual and gender based violence in the past, so it's worrying that students who want to speak out will no longer have a buffer or suport network. And students who don't want to report it for any reason now have lost the most reliable group they had to turn to as they heal. :/

That's a good idea! I was running some ideas for what to say by someone (who is also mad about it) and she kept having to tell me I was being too harsh. Maybe that'll help me clear my system!

Roughly 3 1/2 months. :( It did suck!

At least that people are raising awareness that it happened and maybe they can find a way to pressure the school into seeing that their decision was a HORRIBLE one... and a HUGE massive mistake. Oh wow! :( So not cool!

I hope that it helps writing an angry letter first and burning it or ripping it up or something... Not good to be too harsh or angry as that won't help them want to keep reading.

EVERY DAY!? You poor thing! My mom had it really bad as well. She always ate candied ginger to settle her stomach and she hates ginger now, if that says anything about how much she had. :x

We have a campus police chief who advised boys on sports teams to have sex with girls from other schools "so the ones at this school don't wake up, regret it, and report a crime"... yeah. This is a group we NEED.

And if I know some of the people who are also going to be writing letters, there will still be PLENTY that are full of vitriol and strong words even if mine are more mild. Not that I blame anyone for being that mad and acting because of it!

Yeah, ever day for 3 1/2 months. Some of those would kind of help but not really enough. My doctor ended up giving me anti-nausea meds because it was so bad. At least those helped me keep some food down at least. She was worried because I was losing too much weight.

WOAH! WTF!!? That's so freaking wrong!!! D: Like having sex with other people on other teams is Ok... NO! D:
That's good... the school needs to know that cutting the program was WRONG!!

I know how hard it can be to speak out when things happen... and having groups to help advocate definitely DO help and cutting the program is just cutting the voice for those two ashamed to speak up for themselves!

Eek, I didn't know it could get that bad! D: I'm glad you're past that stage now, at least!

He also said he "didn't believe in consent." And of course when a bunch of students and faculty wanted him fired, he backtracked. And got to keep his job.

I agree! It's definitely something that helps give a voice to the voiceless, and many students who volunteer for it were people who were previously impacted by the program.

Anyway, I just had to get up on my soapbox, since I'm mad as a hornet. This conversation can end any time anyone wants it to. I don't want to keep on talking about something if it's upsetting anyone.

It isn't that bad for everyone - I had very mild nausea with Norah so proof that every pregnancy is different.

WOAH! WOAH WOAH!! He is the police chief and he 'doesn't believe in consent'?! That's freaking messed up. They need to find someone better to replace him...!!! D: Yeah, just because he backtracked doesn't mean he still doesn't think that. :/ THAT'S MESSED UP! :(

Understandable that you're upset!! Totally understandable!!

Other than the letter writing, what are you up to today?

I hope any future pregnancies go back to just mild nausea though, oh man!

THAT'S HOW I FEEL, like this man is in charge of the safety of 40k students, and he has such ghastly views on one of the most prevelent crimes on and near campuses!? NO!! TERRIBLE!!

Oh, same old same old, job hunting, dog walking, chick pea eating... my usual pastimes the's days. How about you?

I have my fingers crossed! I've told Daniel that after this one - we're waiting awhile!

I hate people who pin rape and all that on the victim like "she (or he) was asking for it" and it isn't the rapists fault. -.- *grumble grumble* Blah! Stupid people with views like that... -.- Not a healthy mind set for someone who's supposed to be the police chief for a COLLEGE with both girls and guys... and it isn't the victim's fault.. AT ALL. Ok.... moving on as I can't let myself get more worked up over this.

Sounds relaxing and fun... for the most part. How's the job hunt going? I'm doing ok - my back isn't very happy with me, but at least the heating pad is helping... more than it did the other day at least!! :D

I completely agree! I'm sure you can tell, it's the sort of thing I get worked up about too. There's so-hooo many ways our society views rape and sexual assault and the survivors of it that has me just like, turning into the Hulk. I'm pretty quiet and non-confrontational, but that is ALWAYS an issue I'll speak up about, even if it means getting into an argument.

It's going okay! I have something that looks really promising as far as getting hired, and it has good benefits, but I have a feeling I'll find it really high stress. So hopefully I'm wrong, or someone else hires me ASAP. But I'm counting my chickens before they hatch.
Sorry your back still isn't doing too good! But I'm glad it's at least a little better. :) Has that been going on for the whole pregnancy as well, or more towards the end?

Being a woman who's experienced sexual assault - I know how hard it is to speak up, and it was a group, similar that helped give me the power and courage to get myself out of the situation I was in and speak up. It wasn't rape... but it wasn't a good place... at all. So I'm learning too, to speak up for those who are too afraid to speak up and help give them a voice that can help to empower them.

That's good! *fingers crossed for you* Awww! :( High stress is not good. What kind of a job is it?
The farther along I get, the worse my back bothers me - due to the stress being put on it the bigger Biscuit gets.
It was like this with Norah as well - the back pain. I'm careful to figure out if it's labor - I'm positive it's not, as some women experience labor, pains in the lower back - but this is a full back ache. Just uncomfortable.

It's a terrible thing to experience, and healing is hard. I'm so glad you had that support system at a time you needed it, and that you've come so far. It's a very courageous thing, to get to a place where you're able to speak up and help empower others.

It's just a chat customer services representative, but I don't do well with fast paced environments with people rushing me or being nasty, or not having time to think about what I'll say! I'm sure I can get used to it, I just know me well enough to know I'll be super stressed out until I do.
Biscuit is the best possible nickname, for sure! Ooph, so not something that'll let up, then, huh? :( Good thing it's not labor, though! That'd be scary for sure.

Lord, you guys went far.

Originally Posted by Iltu

Why does coffee annoy you a little?

Too popular. Tired of hearing about it.

We got all worked up!

Aah, I see. I don't get tired of hearing about it, since I like it, but I get tired of coffee snobs. Like... calm down. It's bean water. Not a holy artifact.

I'm working on getting through it - it is a slow process. Honestly I never saw myself trusting another guy - of course that was before I met Danny. I still have bad days but he's there to help me through them. :]
It's a fairly recent thing, getting involved to help give those who need help the support needed.

Awww, I can see that being stressful! But you could always try it out and see how it goes. It could work out positively. You never know.
Haha, thanks! Norah still is known by her nickname Moon Baby and this one is Moon Biscuit, but I commonly shorten it to Biscuit.
It rarely does let up - some days it doesn't bother me nearly as much as others, but it's always there in some form or another. It's too early for her to come, gotta stay in a bit longer there sweet girl! :]

Dude I would probably kill for some coffee (not rly). Esp. one of my college cafe's mochas ohhh mannnn. I've been absolutely exhausted lately and have no idea why. Just. inject caffeine straight into my veins pls and thank you.

Moonlit: So good to hear you've got such a good support system, and that Danny is able to help you when things get rough! That's a terrible experience, and I'm so sorry it happened to you. :( It's so good that you're in a better, more loving and healthy situation now! -- But you don't need me to tell you that And oh my gosh, Moon Baby is an ADORABLE nickname! I hope Norah knows how lucky she is-- my brother and I got delegated to Monster #1 and Monster #2 :'D

Rommy: Dude I hear you with job woes. :( I didn't apply to as many as I should've over the summer, because i just didn't feel capable enough or comfortable enough in my abilities. There are definitely places available that I COULD'VE applied at, and might've got hired, but it would've been so stressful and awful to my well being that i just. couldn't bring myself to apply. Good to hear you've got a shot at a job!! Sucks that it's dealing with customers, though. D: I have utter faith in your ability to do that job, but I totally get your concerns about it. It's not an easy environment, for sure.

Late to all parties due to World of Warcraft weekend event and oversleeping always:

Re: Coffee - Hey look, finally talking about the title of the thread! No more false advertising! Me, I love me some coffee, but can't drink normal coffee due to my anxiety disorder playing off how much activity my brain is capable of versus how much it is actually using up. Coffee = caffeine = extra activity that isn't being used, so whoop slip into minor panic attack and lethargy. Thankfully, all the shops around here are just as willing to do weird things to decaf as they are to normal coffee. Then again, my default is always "Medium decaf mocha please."

Re: Moonlit - Everything in the past like three pages is 100% of the reason I'm adopting. Sorry natural childbirth, but emetophobia deems me unable to get morning sickness willingly. (Also the fact that all serious relationships I've had have been with women SO YANNO.)

Re: Smol Birb - Aw yeah I'm glad smol birb sounds okay!

Re: Rape apologists in power - I wish I could swear on this site so I could tell him exactly what he should do to himself, that [redacted] [redacted]! Sorry to hear about your experiences, Moonlit, but I'm glad you're working past it. All trauma is, in the end (and in a very generalized way), the same. It's not the end of the world for you unless you let it be.

Moonlit- You are the NUMBER ONE kick butt incredible gal! Not an easy journey you're on, but you're still coming out on top.

I was wrong, actually Moon Baby and Moon Biscuit are the cutest nicknames! Hearts in my EYES

Lath- I have a friend who works there and she likes it well enough but I'm still wary. Just does NOT sound like an ideal situation. I wanna like... answer people's questions at the library or unload stock at a bookstore or take families on nature walks and tell them about birds and sustainability or something! I think it's totally legit to not apply for a job you know will cause you stress. You should take care of yourself first and foremost! I would have avoided this one, but my dad is getting insistent and he seems to think this is the ~perfect~ job for me? So I at least want SOMETHING so I can move out again and hunt for a more ideal job.

Re coffee: I've gotten less fond of sweet drinks like mochas over the last few years, and I'm still lowkey mad about it because I always think about how GOOD that stuff was. I still like a white mocha or peppermint mocha or pumpkin spice latte now and again, but often they're Too Much for me and I have be craving them to really enjoy them. Thanks for the BETRAYAL, taste buds. Ruin my LIFE. Lattes are for sure my coffee drink of choice though. I'm a 40 yro soccer mom even though I'm 22 and am not planning on being a mom.

Shattered- Aaaah, anxiety is such an everything ruiner! Figuring out caffeine has that effect on you cannot have been a fun experience. I have to be careful of caffeine when I need to focus, because "Oh coffee helps you focus! But jk if you have ADHD it does the OPPOSITE of that" so it just sends my brain into "NYEEEER ZOOM BYE BYE TASKS AND ATTENTION SPAN!" mode. Well. Into more of that mode than it usually is.

Thank you for your kind words re: smol birb, he was scared of me but he is my friend and I love him

Ooooh, I wanted to tell him the same thing. To his face. Or on the phone. I hate that guy! It was two years ago and I'm still livid. I could be a great Red Lantern if I could harness my feeling about that situation all the time.

Archivist: man I'm SO. GLAD. you told me about caffeine and how it can make anxiety worse. because i did not know that at all prior to meeting you, and i would've been an absolute wreck end of last semester if I didn't know. it was hard for me to stop getting coffee in the morning, since i'd gotten into the habit, but i felt WAY better about finals and papers and what not once I noticed my anxiety had started going through the roof and cut the caffeine. YAY KNOWING THINGS i owe you hun! i'm also gonna have to try that thing you get from Starbucks sometime, because it looks absolutely AMAZING

Rommy: YEAHHH I hear you! I'm probably gonna have to suck it up, buckle down and get one of my Do Not Want jobs after I graduate. it's not gonna be ideal?? but at least it'll get me out of the house and into an apartment, at which point I can look for something better. oh man, js unloading stock is so much fun!! Like even just in general. I did a lot of unloading and stocking when I was working at Joann's, and sure it's a hell of a work out, but I find it to be super relaxing and soothing. There's a lot of repetition to it? so it's not great for everyone, obvs., but it also requires just enough focus that it's hard to think about anything else, and you just kind of enter A Zone. fingers crossed you can find something like that, friend, or something you like even more!!

YAY SMOL BIRB I didn't see your posts about him over the weekend but i was retroactively scared for the poor babby until i learn that he was doing okay! it's okay smol birb friend, Rommy is your friend and will not hurt you!

OH MAN I WAS SO EXCITED ABOUT SMOL BIRB I MISSED THE MOCHA AND LATTE TALK not even gonna lie my feelings about pumpkin spice lattes can be accurately described by a certain very inappropriate tumblr meme that's been going around. it's just. such a not good meme but it captures my feelings exactly so imma just say im ALWAYS down for pumpkin spice lattes! it's my favorite time of the year tbh because on a rainy day I can grab a latte, go back to my dorm, turn on some Taylor Swift, and become the ultimate College White Girl Aesthetic. minus the long grungy blonde hair. replace that w/ my Aggressively Gay super short hair that will hopefully someday by dyed.

Re: Iltu - Rommy, I am 100% with you on the Red Lanternship for all the right (and a few wrong, no one's perfect) reasons. And yeah, I learned about that facet of my disorder at a high school LAN party, where the only edibles were pizza, candy, and Mountain Dew. Grease, sugar, and caffeine. Euuuch. I mean, I can go for pizza any day of the week, but this was Little Caesar's and it had been sitting for a while because it was delivery and eeuuughhhh.

We saw a band of ducklets on the side of the road (mom was nowhere to be found, presumably nothing good happened to her) so we took them home in a shoebox and kept them in our bathtub for like two days (In San Diego in the late 90's, this was a thing that was recommended by the state) until wildlife rescue could come and pick them up. That was a trip, but they were all so adorable with their tiny webbed (and clawed) feet pitter-pattering and tick-tacking on the porcelain.

Re: Coffee - PEPPERMINT MOCHA ohhhhhhh. I wish those were 100% year around. I have the 40 year old soccer mom aesthetic except my car isn't reliable enough to be a Dodge Caravan.