Yea I love to boogey board too, aoi... I wish I could spend all my time on the beach swimming and sun bathing... stupid school. lol. The beaches are kinda dirty in san diego but the water is really nice... I miss it actually.

Nice Gemini... I'm more inland too. I used to live along the coast far north cali but than I moved south. I'm still not used to heat. I hope this summer heat doesn't kill me.

Ugh, I hate humidity Bilbo. >< The humidity is really mild in cali...

I think I'd like a summer house in Maine.
That'd be really nice.

Ugh! I can't take humidity at all, makes me feel sick and my hair turns into an afro. Not a good look on me, lol.

Yeah, I have thick hair. Humidity makes it feel even heavier, and inevitably I get a headache from it.

Good morning everyone!

Hello feyona & connie~ hows it going?

Weather.
 

Oh no how did the poor horsey die, Gemini? D: That is really depressing... I love horses.

Ohh thats so sad. Of course Gemini. *hugs* I hope everything goes well with the baby horse... I bet she really misses her mommy.

Wonders into thread. Hey, a thread I qualify for!

Um...I guess I should answer some of those questions on the front page...

Age...33
Relationship...Newlywed
Kids....No thanks, maybe later, but then again, maybe not
Pets...1 cat
Occupation...I work with special needs kids
Interests...Art, reading, therapy (thats what I do with the special needs kids), scifi/fantasy.

Can't remember the rest of the questions.

Hey all. sry its been a very long time since I've been here. RL has gotten on the way. working, got a second job to save and pay bills. doing some art. hope you are all doing good.

Hi folks....I re-entered the dating game again.
Finding someone for an artsy, veg*n, athesist, asexual is extremely difficult. I'm starting to think that no matter how hard I look, there isn't someone for me...even if I compromise somewhere.
The easiest compromise would be if I were to change my sexual orientation to heterosexual.
In fact, I generally get so few hits that if I leave out being asexual on my ads. I'm afraid if people know, nobody will ever be interested in me.

I've decided to try the local gay and bisexual club if they'd accept me. I mean I'm not gay, but maybe it could work out.
I have an intimacy drive even if I have no sexual drive. Sometimes I call it the "cuddle drive".

Oh and top of being in all these minorities, I have trust issues and find it hard in general to have good judgment over poeple ( which is probably why I have trust issues in the first place)...When you don't make godo judgment calls, you end up with people who hurt you which is exactly what happened to me. I've gotten burnt a couple of times.
Somewhere there's probably a pysch. diagnosis for my trust issues, but I haven't found it yet. I have driven away a few people with being suspicious.
When you have a trust disorder, you often suspect someone has an agenda and will hurt or cheat you...and often they do which reinforces it. Thing is you can't sort them out correctly.
It's very easy to end up with a lot of shallow friendships when you have a trust disorder.

I don't mean to sound rude or condemning in any way; I understand why people have trust issues.
It's been my experience, however, that the longer you live with lack of trust, the more paranoid you become about people having good intentions. If you have trust issues, you tend to look for things to go wrong, or look for 'signs' that aren't there. Then, when you're looking for things that don't exist, you find things that don't really exist. Then, it all becomes a vicious cycle.
I know how hard it is to win the trust of someone who is like that, so I won't try to tell you to start trusting people.

Dating.
 

Happy happy birthday!!
::throws confetti everywhere and pops open some booze::

Happy B-day...


Being asexual seems to be my natural sexual orientation for better or worse. I'm not sure you can change your sexual orientation by choice. If there was a way, I would try it.
Otherwise I have no desire to subject myself to something that would only make me feel uncomfortable.
I could see forcing myself to engage in sexual activity driving me away from a potential partner as I would now associate them with something unpleasant.

I 've been wondering if I could potentially pull off a lesbian relationship better since the only thing I have no desire for is sexual intercource and I am highly attracted to other forms of intimacy. Then again...maybe I need to know what lesbians are really into ( possibly TMI?) .
I found a lesbian somewhat near by via a dating service who is vegetarian and seems to share my interests. I sent her a note from their "greeting " section of a mouse with a party hat saying "you have piqued my interest". I love that note card....