Sorry, I'm back now.

I don't believe in hitting kids, because they see it as "Well, mommy and daddy see it as ok and do it, so that means I can too." Hitting is never the answer no matter what. Because kids learn from those around them.

For now I stick with this until I can buy more commons.

@Livi- that's okay. :) I understand and respect your opinion. I honestly think a few spanks is necessary. My siblings and I were hit a lot and we grew up fine. (I'm not trying to say you're wrong or you should change your opinion!)

@Desi- awesome!! xD

Originally Posted by dessertdesiert

Please ping me then! I love new recipes, i wanna make more brownies now >.>'

I agree, I love trying new recipes. Arinia found a recipe for, I believe it was sour cream apple pie, it sounded interesting but tasted so freakin good.

@ Livi - Well "playful hitting" tends to teach them that... I didn't grow up hitting people... and I got my butt beat a lot... so idk where that theory comes from honestly ^^"

What would you do with a kid that throws utter screaming tantrums and wont stop no matter what you say?
One swat... that's really all it takes. It's bad to me when a parent takes their anger out on the kid.

With Becca, when she throws tantrums, we just ignore her, and don't give her attention so she doesn't see throwing tantrums as a way to get mummy or daddy's attention. We keep her in eyesight, but don't acknowledge her.

What kids want, most of the time, with tantrums, is attention, so don't give them the attention they're craving, and they'll calm down, on their own, eventually. Breaks my heart, but sometimes that's just what one has to do. =[

Even if play hitting is just playful, I don't see it as nice. When she hits one of us, we grab her hand and we look at her and go "No sweetie. That's not nice." Firm, but not yelling or being mean. I used to work at a daycare and those who were spanked, typically were the ones who acted out and were more likely to go after more kids and hit them... just speaking from experience there. And I don't want my daughter to be one of those kids.

But everyone is different, that's just how I believe in parenting my daughter.

@ Livi - that is true... though I remember one mother that gave the kid exactly what they wanted... and it backfired on the kid. She was throwing a temper tantrum screaming and yelling so the mother said "Hey everyone, I think ___ wants your attention". XD went silent and got really embarassed. Never happened again XD

That is a way of stopping the tantrums. But Becca doesn't do them that often, but we've not totally gotten there yet though. She's only 14 1/2 months old. So we'll see how things go.

I see. I was raiser waaay different. -_- My Dad would even hit us with a belt. I like your method of raising, and it's not like you're letting her do what she wants. When my little brother throws tantrums, we also ignore him because like you said, he just wants attention. My Dad doesn't use the belt anymore! :I

I know Rebecca will grow to be a smart sweetheart! :3

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I'm just going with how my parents raised me. =] My mum is one strong woman - she raised four of us - my elder brother, my twin and I and then our younger sister. =]
And tantrums usually are about wanting attention. xD

She definitely loves being in the spotlight now.

Holy crap...I seriously had no idea I died! xD

Does that mean I cant post here until game over?

@Livi- she sounds like an admirable woman. :)

Chi: She definitely uses her cuteness to attract people. Silly little girl, she is!

Lol! Cant resist the face! :D

I'm wandering out for a bit, be back later.

See ya, Wolf!

P.S. ya look bad ass

Originally Posted by Chikyu

Holy crap...I seriously had no idea I died! xD

Does that mean I cant post here until game over?

@Livi- she sounds like an admirable woman. :)

the ping didn't work, but the profile commet is up, Chikie♥.
and hell yeah you can still post, i would pout if you didnd't'!
andaaaand, you can assist other assassin's!
or just chatter up a stormr and lure peeps

@ Livi - just a little more before the terrible twos... XD

Personally I have no children... but I raised about 16 cats... and lets just say... some of them... especially the mother... had some issues... shouting and such did nothing, ignoring it made it worse, and when I finally buckled down to swatting her she stopped being a total brat so often.

@Hummy- okay! Thank you, Hummy! :33

BRB- GONA EAT SPAGHETTI!

Poet: Well, I can get that. We have 2 cats, and those two DRIVE ME MENTAL some days! Gah, they're my hubby's cats, the dog is mine, and I love him much more.

i don't believe in corporal punishment, myself.
i hated*andineverusethatword*being beaten.

hummy: I'm the same way. You're not alone!

@ Hummy - Well I believe that a single swat as a last resort is the only reasonable punishment... me? I got 6-7 (sometimes more) swats with a wooden spoon... o.o and I'm really skinny so most of them hit bone...

My brother's daughter though o.o she ASKS to be spanked...

A single swat makes that a "punishment" repetitive makes it lack of control of the parent's anger...

i have never put my hands on anyone in anger.
my father is an alcholoic and believes you can beat something into someone,
even at the young age of five!
the only thing i know it does is make a person terrified of their own father!

How about playful spanking?