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i have too much to grade and prepare everyday... T_T
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Why does life have to be so busy?!
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well, i don't have to be so busy if i don't need to support myself... XD
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true true.
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i would say i really envy people who has husbands who support them... at the same time i got disgusted with the idea of relying on someone else... XD
it's really ironic... i envy people who are stay home moms and don't have to juggle both work and kids at the same time (i don't have kids, but i'm just thinking about the future...) but then when my bf said that he's planning for our future, so he's trying to make more money and get a higher salary, so that when we have kids, i could be a stay-home mom... my reaction was, "why wouldn't i work?" XD and i was literally feeling, no way am i going to stay home and watch the kids and give up on my own job... lol... XD i'm so weird... XD |
haha! xD
I think a lot like that too *nods* I wouldn't mind having this... but at the same time give up my freedom? No way. xD I figured if anything, I wouldn't mind being a stay home mom for like the first year after the baby would be born. I'll probably be too tired to work if I keep getting woken up by baby. xD I figured by the time they turn 1, it'll be okay to leave with grandparents for the day, go to work and then come home. Or something like the first few months be stay home, then switch to part time as like they turn to 1, and then back to full time by the time they go off to pre school. |
yeah... short term stay-home mom maybe... but long term... i'd probably feel literally trapped... >.<
i don't know... i don't like to rely on my bf too much... i mean i do for certain things, but not much... sometimes i get yelled at by my friends and family saying that i should be able to rely on him... and that i'm just making it too easy for him... tho i'm not sure if it's me or if it's me towards him... but somehow, whenever i rely on him, i feel like i owe him something... my friend says that's a problem cuz in a good relationship, both people should feel free about sharing, and that i shouldn't feel like i owe my bf anything... >.< |
that's probably true too. ^^
I don't want my husband to be samurai japanese type where he expects me to do everything. -.- Sharing is caring. xD |
same here... chores are definitely going to be shared... lol... XD
but actually my friend was saying how i shouldn't feel too bad to have my bf pay for stuff or have him do some things for me... however, i always feel like if i don't do as much as possible for myself, i feel like i owe him... and that's where my friend says i have problems, or my relationship has problems... ^^; |
I see I see. xD
Seito greedy and very chang like. xD So someone offering to pay for me is like a godsend. |
well, it took me a year or two before i feel comfy for my bf to pay for me... and there are still times where i insist on paying myself...
now it's more of other things where people say if we're serious, we shouldn't make it "his" and "hers", but i still feel like it should be "his" and "hers"... i don't know... i really skeptical about buying things "together" cuz it just feels like such a BIG thing... >.> and it shouldn't be considering we've been together for 4 years now... >.> |
I wanted to keep going to school. ;_; but then I realized that I didn't want to have to pay for child care because it is expensive as all else. And then working just to pay for childcare is out of the question because you work all day and then get home and want to relax, but can't because you have to take care of the kids. >.< I dunno working mom is just a lose/lose situation. And then if you do work, you start feeling like you are neglecting your child by dropping them off with someone else if they aren't of school age yet and it's all very very confusing. ;_;
>.> I've put a lot of thought into this tpoic before. as for chores they should still be divvied up. I hate doing dishes and sweeping so when I have time I vacuum and do laundry when Scott gets home, or wakes up in the morning he sweeps and does the dishes. There is no reason the person staying at home should have to do all of the house work and take care of the kids! Because the children are very demanding. @[email protected] mellies done now I swear. <3 |
Nice avatar Seito. ^^
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i agree with you... that being a working mom may be a lose/lose situation, but i'm one of those woman who are kinda self-reliant, so i feel like why do i have to give up my job and he doesn't? XD but i guess in my bf and my case, IF we get married, he makes twice as much as i do... so that would probably be why... but still, i rarely rely on his salary as is, and i save more than he does... lol... XD twizted seito's not nekkid... and yesh, it's a cute avie... <3 |
Scott has always made more then me, and the government pays him enough to support the family. If I were to get a job around here I would probably be paying all of my salary and out of his for child care so it just wasn't worth it. Besides, I'm a better mother then anyone over here would be for my kids cuz I know them better then any one else does!
But I was always really independent too. It was a total shock when I got pregnant and realized I wouldn't be able to do things on my own. Of course at the time I was 17 and so I guess I have just gotten used to my role for now. Just another 3 years and I am going back to school. <3 (I trust no child care facilities with my monsters, they school can teach them and I will go to school while they do. But I'm not going to pay for someone to beat my kids. D< ) |
@miyu *nods* when I think about it, my dad literally pays for everything when we go out as a family. ^^;; but he isn't there all the time cause of work, so when you think about it, it comes out to about half and half.
Mother of course pays for her own bills. xD @melody yeah that's true. Child doesn't remember it either. o.o Mother went back to work like... 3 months after I was born and grandparents would take care of me. @eve thank you. x3 <33 I kinda don't like the gloves... and I don't have the right shoes for the avi to work nicely too. : / |
well, we don't happen to live near my family... or else, my family will be more than willing to help me with taking care of children... especially my parents... that's actually some of the reasons why my bf and i argue a lot... we're currently close to his family who for the most part we can't rely on... >.> whereas we are 1 hour away from mine whom if i were to need them, they'd be there for me any time any day as long as they can get to me... >.>
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You're welcome. Yeah, the gloves are a bit bright for the outfit. I like the shoes. They're not bad. ^^ |
Miyu- when I was living with my mom right after Sakura was born my mom would watch her while I went to school. I'm only like 13 credits short of my associates. ^^;; which is what annoys me the most. XD
Seito- I have a better relationship with my kids and with the kids that I have taken care of for other people then their parents do becuse I spent more time with them >.> most of them called me mommy XD But their actual parents would be with them for maybe an hour after they woke up and then 2-3 hours before they went to bed. ;_; |
well, my bf complains that i didn't grow up from a conventional family cuz they don't cook at home, and that i grew up at my parents work place and stuff like that...
so i counter with, so is he saying there's something wrong with me? cuz i think i turned out ok from that type of upbringing... XD |
@miyu *nods*
@eve yeah. but black gloves are overpowering and there aren't any other purple gloves. Shoes are okay, the right shade, but I'm actually like the goth ones. xD which are the ones that I don't own yet. xDD @melody o.o really? xD Seito doesn't wouldn't recall that. It's strange. If mother did go back to work, how come I do view it as spending alot of time with her. Or my maybe as a kid my sense of time wasn't as so rigid. xD I do remember thinking that an entire hour is far too long to wait and take a nap for. |
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@eve Yeah I could take it off, but then my arms look bare. o.o any suggestions?
yesh the goth ones are awesome. xD Just missing the blue and green ones and then I'll own them all. xD |
I don't think they'd be too bare. Maybe wicked witch gloves instead?
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Hmm I'll try those. *nods*
hopefully I can get the green goth boots soon too. |
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